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About Iheartcupcakes

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  • Birthday March 4

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    Texas
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    baking (hence my username :), Spanish, social justice, singing, dog rescue.

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  1. Making my father's cremation and burial at sea plans the last couple of days has been beyond hard. I wanted to help and asked to take this burden from my aunt. My father and other family lives in California and I am in Texas. I can't do much and I hate it. This aunt is his caregiver because of that. It was worse than I thought it would be. I have just been nauseated and sad. I know it's not SA-related although my father was abusive in every other way in my childhood. But I have tried to have a relationship in latter years and I do love him. It's bleeding into everything else. I feel like 36 is too young to lose a parent...and it hurts so much. 

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    2. Whisper

      Whisper

      I'm sorry you are hurting, Amy. Sitting with you. :comfort:

    3. Silentnomore5

      Silentnomore5

      Hugs  if ok we are all here for u always

    4. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      Thank you both :throb:

  2. "Demons"

    I am so sorry. I am happy that you blocked him so that it won't happen again. I can't believe your brother has not done the same. I know that hurts you. He isn't happy...I promise you that. Reading your description of his life tells me that.
  3. I’m sorry for being MIA lately. With the anniversary dates, falling on thanksgiving day no less, and the appeal possibly expiring or moving forward at the same time, I haven’t been much good to anyone, even myself. I just want you all to know how special you are to me and that I’m comitted and grateful for AS. 

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    2. MzKeys75

      MzKeys75

      Glad you’re feeling better. (((Hugs)))

    3. Iheartcupcakes
    4. lexip

      lexip

      You have so much going on take care of yourself right now ❤️

  4. Appeal deadline is supposedly the 17th, which is a weekend so I guess it is the 19th. Five more days. Nothing has been done in a year. A year ago today, the court reporter finished compiling the transcript for the defense. They picked it up on 12/6/17 and that was it. I am afraid they will blindside me again like they did continually during the course of the hearings and fight to get to trial. I hope and pray it comes and goes without incident and that this will be truly over. I am going to email the prosecutor on 11/19 and ask if it is over. 

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    2. HiddenHeart

      HiddenHeart

      Thinking of you tonight & hoping yesterday passed without anything being filed. 

    3. Hoping8

      Hoping8

      Echoing @HiddenHeart.  I am thinking of you.

    4. Whisper

      Whisper

      Still thinking of you through your anniversary days. Sending strength.

  5. Too much pain. Too much sadness. Too much heartbreak. Too much everything. 

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    2. Hoping8

      Hoping8

      I am so sorry.  I will hold some of it with you.  I wish I could do more, but I am sending you love and peace, and feeling some of the sorrow with you.  There there, there there....

    3. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      Thank you :throb: I have a new foster dog and has added some love and sunshine. I am just exhausted. 

    4. Ian37

      Ian37

      Amy, just remember that exhaustion means you are still moving. Even when it may not always seem this way. Nor be nearly quick enough.

      :luck:

  6. I want to die

    I am so sorry you are feeling this way. May I ask if you are on medication? I say this because I was there and my doctor changed my meds and I am feeling better now. I wonder if you could get some relief that way. I also don't know how you feel about therapy, but it has been a lifesaver for me. I go weekly. Please don't ever be afraid to reach out for help when you need it. 1-800-656-4673 is for RAINN, and there is 1-800-273-8255 to talk to someone when you are feeling suicidal. These are available 24/7. We are here, too.
  7. Has anyone ever tried Pristiq for the treatment of Major Depressive Disorder (MDD)?

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    2. BraveOne

      BraveOne

      @Iheartcupcakes... I was on wellbutrin for about 2 weeks had a major issue in which I became super paranoid over everything... The dr took me off of it and told me never to try it again.

    3. Whisper

      Whisper

      I don't have any experience with Pristiq, but I'm sitting with you. You've come a long way in the last 3 years and have so many great things ahead of you. :console:

    4. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      Thank you all. I’m feeling better. 

      @Whisper thank you so much. I needed to hear that. 

  8. Kavanaugh this, Kavanaugh that. I am so tired. I feel horrible, just like I did when Trump was elected. This has really, really affected me, like it has a lot of survivors. I wasn't really expecting that. People around me support him. I think some are so blind to politics that they can't even consider that Dr. Ford is telling the truth. I am frustrated, sad, nauseated, discouraged, angry, and isolated. I was in the grocery store after work yesterday and I felt myself losing control over the littlest things. I went home and tried to do some self-care. I am trying to stay away from it today but that is not easy. 

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    2. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      @Whisper thank you so much for those encouraging words. I really needed them. I know it hits home for you, too :throb:

    3. Whisper

      Whisper

      The part that I am having the most trouble with is all the girls at the schools where Ford lived who didn't talk to each other. Although I wondered whether my attacker went on to abuse others, I somehow never imagined that he abused other girls at my HS or that other girls had similar experiences there. Now I wonder how many girls I knew were also assaulted. With everything I know about SA, I still always imagine that it was only me.

      Also, my attacker became a lawyer (not criminal law -- thank God he didn't become a criminal defense attorney) and had his own law firm. But his firm has disappeared and he didn't register and pay his registration fee to the state bar when it was last due. The address listed in his attorney registration record isn't where his firm was -- it's an apartment that used to be listed in his mother's name, but maybe a couple of years ago, I saw that the apartment was sold. He has stayed clear of social media and there is very little trace of him on the internet. So now I'm wondering whether he's in some kind of trouble. I am upset enough that he became a lawyer. I can't imagine how I would cope with him being a judge and, especially, a Supreme Court Justice. 

      I don't know whether Kavanaugh is going to be confirmed -- I was pretty confident that he wouldn't be when I thought the FBI was doing a full investigation. Now that it appears the investigation was a sham, I'm not sure what is going to happen.  However, Sen Merkley filed a lawsuit to compel the WH to produce all of the docs they are hiding and made a motion for temporary restraining order to stop the vote while the case is pending. I think it is unlikely that he will win the case, but it's the same DC judge that had Manafort's case and I'm hoping she'll grant the TRO. Even delaying could help. Regardless, Kavanaugh is very dirty and I believe that, if he is confirmed, then after Mueller really acts and the truth about Trump et al comes out in full force, he will be impeached or he will resign (after being indicted).

      I know this is hard -- it's like we're being punched in the face and spit on repeatedly every day --  but hang on because we're not at the end yet. I just hope, hope, hope that women are going to vote this time and get rid of a lot of Republicans. They aren't a political party anymore, they are a bunch of criminals (the people in office, not the people voting for them). The Dems need to be cleaned up too, but first we have to get the Reps out of power. 

      When you have time, take a break from the depressing news and read these articles suggesting that women are going to vote and change things:  https://www.npr.org/2018/09/24/650447848/the-womens-wave-backlash-to-trump-persists-reshaping-politics-in-2018 and https://www.thecut.com/2018/09/rebecca-traister-good-and-mad-book-excerpt.html

       

    4. Whisper

      Whisper

      Update: I'm reading that McConnell doesn't have the votes. :crossfingers::crossfingers::crossfingers:  Ben Sasse gave a speech in which he said that he told Trump to pick a woman instead of Kavanaugh (a woman who wants to overturn R v W, but not a criminal who would protect him), partly because they were not equipped to deal with SA allegations that might surface. He has friends who were raped and understands the hell this causes. But OMG, is he admitting that they knew about Kav's past in advance? I know they did, but he's admitting it???? Anyway, he says things and then votes as he's supposed to, so I don't trust him to vote no. But maybe a group of Senators are going to tell McConnell that they will vote no, so he won't take a vote. https://www.omaha.com/news/politics/in-emotional-speech-ben-sasse-says-he-told-trump-to/article_537dc762-1cb2-5378-9cd5-b0507e0b1cf2.html

  9. I should probably take a break from Facebook. If I don't, I may need bail money. 

     

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    2. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      @Iheartcupcakes, Facebook literally causes nothing but trouble, was probably the worst thing to ever exist on the internet too.

      safe hugs :hug: if ok?

    3. Iheartcupcakes
    4. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      Yw safe hugs :hug:if ok?

       

  10. Safe hugs :hug: if ok?

    hope thing have been going okay for u :) .

    1. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      Thank you, friend. I am making it. 

    2. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      Yw :) , I'm glad to hear that friend :) 

  11. Today is The Monster's birthday. He turned 24. 24. That hurts me so badly. So young....and he threw his life away. I remember him as he was before he hurt me, and I am just so sad today. It makes me sick. So many conflicting emotions....I could cry-for my pain, and for his foolishness and wasting his life. I am not livid and cursing the day like I have in the past. I am grieving. A friend said that was progress. I hope so....

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    2. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      Thank you, @Free2Fly

      @Capulet I appreciate that so much. I guess it's a good thing that work is crazy busy this week with homecoming tomorrow. 

    3. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      Your welcome , safe hugs :hug: if ok?

    4. GaleH

      GaleH

      Mild tw

      I've heard in a sa recovery book on tape type of thing that, this person didn't feel as bad on their parents anniversary as much as her dads birthday. I think her parents or dad abused her. And the they were saying that the birthday is worse because it is the day they were born. If they were never born then they wouldn't have to go through the abuse. Or, their birth represents your abuse. So it would understandably be a tough trigger safe hugs 

  12. New to this

    Welcome. Redstar. I am so sorry for what brought you here, but I agree. Talking with others does help me, too.
  13. When I feel like I am losing strength you’re one of the people I think of

    1. Iheartcupcakes

      Iheartcupcakes

      Oh... @alltheseyears. Oh my goodness. Speechless except for happy tears. Thank you for taking the time to tell me. It means more than I can say. 

  14. So hard to get out of bed the past few days. All I want to do is sleep and cuddle with my dogs. That's it. I don't want to work; I don't have the brain power. I don't want to talk to people; they can't make me better. Sleep does...unless I have more nightmares. Just feeling so very drained...

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    2. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      Safe hugs :hug: if ok?

      im sorry it's given up on you too, I can truely relate I'm far from the healthiest person on the planet right now...

      plus ive been having issues with meds cause the country has changed the rules so now I can't get them and I need them cause I have a vitamin d deficiency meaning I'm always aching & weak.

      i mean while I can get it from the sun the weather has been terrible here.

      hope you feel better soon though :) .

    3. Ian37

      Ian37

      Amy, change of any kind actually makes me very anxious. Even if it may be for the best. This is a lot of what I am likely experiencing right now. I just need to embrace change more I'm thinking and also flexibility in general. Just not easy when one is rather rigid in certain things like me.

      That is nice you get a little break during lunch at least. No way I can go home being my school is 30 minutes or so from my house. 

      :luck:

       

    4. lexip

      lexip

      seriously did I write this?? I hear you, healing is so hard I have been having a rough just getting through the day it was a relief today to actually be "sick" because I knew I had a legit reason to stay home all day and sleep! that sounds SO messed up doesn't it, here for you,  hang in there amy!

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