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goldraindrops

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  1. Dear @Capulet, I ready your blog several days ago and it stirred up many emotions for me. I entered the foster care system as an infant (six weeks old), then was returned to my mother about age four, then entered foster care again at 13. Sometime, if you want, I can tell you about what it was like. It is a dark and lonely road, that adds much unnecessary suffering to an already difficult situation. Children need security and unconditional love, and the foster care system often fails at both. I was in several different homes - some were filthy, some put children in situations that are as dangerous at what they came from, some had children running wild, sometimes foster parents are just in it for the money. Perhaps the saddest part of it is that even in the best foster home I was in, with a kind and giving couple, it was still very lonely because you are aware that it is not permanent, that you could be moved at any time, and that you're not one of "their" children. It's wonderful that you are learning and thinking about it and care so much about the issue. That care and knowledge will make you a great social worker. Love, Gold Raindrops
  2. Dear @SabineWren, Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry that you have a reason to be here, but it's nice that you found us. This is a kind and supportive community full of people who understand. Feel free to read through our threads and post whenever you would like. Wishing you support and healing, Gold Raindrops
  3. Dear @N.Bin, I'm sorry for the trauma that brought you to us. It's an enormous pain to bear and it can ripple out and affect many of our relationships, even when we don't want it to. Feel free to read through our threads and post whenever you feel like you want to. Wishing you peace and healing, Gold Raindrops
  4. Dear Itzel, I'm sorry for the painful abuse experiences that brought you here. I'm sorry you have to carry such difficult memories and deal with the complication of deciding how involved to be with your family. Like Mary said, there is not an easy answer about disclosing. It can be a hard thing to do with mixed results. One thing I have found helpful is treatment. A good counselor or therapist can help you navigate those decisions - I know mine helped me through the complicated process. Either way, our community is here to support you and there are many people here who understand what you're going through. Wishing you comfort and healing, Gold Raindrops
  5. Hi Time, Welcome to After Silence. This is a kind and supportive community full of people who understand what you are going through. One of the most sinister things about sexual abuse is that people fall into the trap of feeling alone, even though there is a whole army of us out there who can understand each other. You are not abnormal. You are having a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. We all struggle with feeling different or isolated after our assaults. Also, sorry there are not more options for expressing your gender. That is something we consider a flaw in our platform, not a representation of how we feel as a community. I hope our site can bring you some peace and comfort. Gold Raindrops
  6. Dear @MSmith, Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry for the trauma that brought you here and for the anxiety that comes with wondering if your health was compromised. I am glad to hear that you've sought medical help. After a traumatic even like assault, it's important to get help from people who can offer physical and emotional support. We also have a kind and supportive community full of people who are here for you and care. Take care, Gold Raindrops
  7. Dear @Pepper515, I'm sorry for the painful experiences that brought you to us. Feel free to look around, read our threads, and post when you feel comfortable. This is a kind and supportive community and I hope you find some healing here. Love, Gold Raindrops
  8. Dear @Calliope, I'm sorry for the abuse that brought you to us, but this is a kind and supportive community full of people who, like yourself, have been working hard on their healing journey. It sounds like you understand how valuable a community of survivors is to healing from this kind of trauma, so welcome. Feel free to read through our threads and post whenever you would like. Gold Raindrops
  9. Dear @TheLionQueen, I'm sorry that you have a reason to be here, but I am happy you found us. This is a kind and supportive community full of kind people. I hope you find some comfort and healing. Gold Raindrops
  10. Dear @pnut, I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us, but this is a kind and supportive community. I would agree with what others have shared and also encourage you to keep trying to connect in therapy. I have found it to be very difficult to talk about, even with my therapist, who I like a lot, but I've learned to process what happened differently and get in better touch with myself. Also, if you feel that maybe this particular therapist isn't the right one for trauma work, maybe think about finding one who is. I don't recommend dropping therapists when it feels hard, but it is important to find one trained in this type of trauma work. Wishing you the best, Gold Raindrops
  11. Dear @Ultraviola, Welcome to After Silence. I am happy you found us. We are a kind and supportive community full of people who understand what you're going through. About your question, all I can offer is a little insight into my own experiences in telling. I have had very mixed results. It has been positive with some, but with others, it has greatly changed our friendship (not in a good way). I think people have meant well, but it's painful when someone doesn't know how to respond or gives you the feeling that you're damaged or "not getting over it fast enough." And that did happen with me, with some of my dearest friends. I don't think I could have gone on keeping such a painful secret, but it was painful to have some relationships change. What was helpful to me was going to therapy. She helped me flush out my story a few times and get more comfortable with it, and then, when it did affect a couple of my friendships in a negative way, I was grateful for her support. I wish you luck and positivity in whatever you decide. Gold Raindrops
  12. Dear Mya, I am so sorry for the experiences that brought you to us. It is terrible that people used the context of tennis (something you love) to take advantage of you. I also agree that the justice system is agonizing, so if you are ready and you do want to pursue it, make sure you have all the time and supports that you will need. It is long and arduous. Anyway, it is courageous of you to reach out to us. I hope it brings you comfort and healing. Gold Raindrops
  13. Dear @Feeling-Hopeless Welcome to After Silence. I think many of us can relate to what you're describing - painful memories, difficulty talking about it and the "speechless terror" that can come up. Know that you are not alone and this is a kind and supportive community that is here for you. Feel free to read through our threads and/or post whenever you'd like. Blessings, Gold Raindrops
  14. Dear @sunflower23, I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us, but I'm happy you found this community. Many of us know about sweeping our experiences under the rug and how difficult it is to process what happened. This is a great place to start looking at it. Feel free to read through our forums and post whenever you are able. I remember joining AS and being all of those things: new, nervous and ashamed. Blessings, Gold Raindrops
  15. Dear @UnsureandinNeed, I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us. It can take years to process and understand what happened to us, especially since our emotions and survival responses are so high. Take your time and feel free to read/post on AS whenever you want. This is a kind and supportive community. Gold Raindrops
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