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goldraindrops

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  1. Dear @MSmith, Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry for the trauma that brought you here and for the anxiety that comes with wondering if your health was compromised. I am glad to hear that you've sought medical help. After a traumatic even like assault, it's important to get help from people who can offer physical and emotional support. We also have a kind and supportive community full of people who are here for you and care. Take care, Gold Raindrops
  2. Dear @Pepper515, I'm sorry for the painful experiences that brought you to us. Feel free to look around, read our threads, and post when you feel comfortable. This is a kind and supportive community and I hope you find some healing here. Love, Gold Raindrops
  3. Dear @Calliope, I'm sorry for the abuse that brought you to us, but this is a kind and supportive community full of people who, like yourself, have been working hard on their healing journey. It sounds like you understand how valuable a community of survivors is to healing from this kind of trauma, so welcome. Feel free to read through our threads and post whenever you would like. Gold Raindrops
  4. Dear @TheLionQueen, I'm sorry that you have a reason to be here, but I am happy you found us. This is a kind and supportive community full of kind people. I hope you find some comfort and healing. Gold Raindrops
  5. Dear @pnut, I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us, but this is a kind and supportive community. I would agree with what others have shared and also encourage you to keep trying to connect in therapy. I have found it to be very difficult to talk about, even with my therapist, who I like a lot, but I've learned to process what happened differently and get in better touch with myself. Also, if you feel that maybe this particular therapist isn't the right one for trauma work, maybe think about finding one who is. I don't recommend dropping therapists when it feels hard, but it is important to find one trained in this type of trauma work. Wishing you the best, Gold Raindrops
  6. Dear @Ultraviola, Welcome to After Silence. I am happy you found us. We are a kind and supportive community full of people who understand what you're going through. About your question, all I can offer is a little insight into my own experiences in telling. I have had very mixed results. It has been positive with some, but with others, it has greatly changed our friendship (not in a good way). I think people have meant well, but it's painful when someone doesn't know how to respond or gives you the feeling that you're damaged or "not getting over it fast enough." And that did happen with me, with some of my dearest friends. I don't think I could have gone on keeping such a painful secret, but it was painful to have some relationships change. What was helpful to me was going to therapy. She helped me flush out my story a few times and get more comfortable with it, and then, when it did affect a couple of my friendships in a negative way, I was grateful for her support. I wish you luck and positivity in whatever you decide. Gold Raindrops
  7. Dear Mya, I am so sorry for the experiences that brought you to us. It is terrible that people used the context of tennis (something you love) to take advantage of you. I also agree that the justice system is agonizing, so if you are ready and you do want to pursue it, make sure you have all the time and supports that you will need. It is long and arduous. Anyway, it is courageous of you to reach out to us. I hope it brings you comfort and healing. Gold Raindrops
  8. Dear @Feeling-Hopeless Welcome to After Silence. I think many of us can relate to what you're describing - painful memories, difficulty talking about it and the "speechless terror" that can come up. Know that you are not alone and this is a kind and supportive community that is here for you. Feel free to read through our threads and/or post whenever you'd like. Blessings, Gold Raindrops
  9. Dear @sunflower23, I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us, but I'm happy you found this community. Many of us know about sweeping our experiences under the rug and how difficult it is to process what happened. This is a great place to start looking at it. Feel free to read through our forums and post whenever you are able. I remember joining AS and being all of those things: new, nervous and ashamed. Blessings, Gold Raindrops
  10. Dear @UnsureandinNeed, I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us. It can take years to process and understand what happened to us, especially since our emotions and survival responses are so high. Take your time and feel free to read/post on AS whenever you want. This is a kind and supportive community. Gold Raindrops
  11. Dear @emma12, I'm so sorry for what happened to you. Tragically, a majority of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim. It is a horrible and sad fact, but you are not alone. The feelings of betrayal, a shattered sense of safety, and other things can be intense after a rape. I know it might sound scary, but I would try to make an appointment with a therapist that specializes in women's issues and/or trauma as soon as possible. I waited for years to go because I was so afraid, but I see now that I would have benefited from having someone help me navigate what to do after it happened. A good therapist will not push you to do anything you aren't ready for, but will help you decide what you want to do and the best way to proceed and find the support you need to begin to heal. I wish you the best and feel free to post or message us any time. Gold Raindrops
  12. Dear @I believe in ME Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us, but your therapist is right. This is a kind and supportive community full of people who understand and can relate to what you've been through. For myself, it's been a big comfort to be here and connect with other survivors. It is tough with family and friends. I think many of them mean well, but for a variety of reasons, don't know how to respond or don't care enough to support us. There is something uniquely special about connecting with other people who have been through what we have. Wishing you the best, Gold Raindrops
  13. Dear @girl-from-nowhere Welcome to After Silence. I am glad you found us. This is a kind and supportive community full of people who understand what you're going through. Many of us can relate to what you are describing - not quite knowing how to identify our trauma and find our "new normal." I agree with what 8888 said, therapy has been very helpful for many of us. It took me a long, long time to take that step, but I am happy I did, because I feel like I have someone helping me to sort everything out. Take Care, and feel free to message if you ever want to. Gold Raindrops
  14. Dear @Euna12, I am sorry for the pain that brought you here, but I am glad you found us and felt comfortable enough to reach out. We have a kind and supportive community full of people who understand what it's like to carry the pain of sexual abuse. Feel free to look around at the different threads we have available and post whenever you'd like. Gold Raindrops
  15. Dear @Sabbymo, Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry for the experiences that brought you to us. It can be especially devastating when abuse happens at the hands of family members, people that children feel like they should be able to trust. There are many here who know about the physical symptoms that can come with abuse. I don't have dizziness, but many of us have headaches, trouble sleeping, or other physical difficulties. It can help to bring it up with a trusted therapist and a trusted doctor. I am glad you found us. This is a kind and supportive community full of people who understand. Gold Raindrops
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