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Ah I'm very sorry about that @Solus I would think that the best thing to do now is to post in the help desk area (viewable only between you and moderators/admins) and express you are having difficulty with this issue I do think maybe your bogus date did save though as it says 1867??? You'd be 150 years old in that case and I'm willing to bet you aren't that ancient!!!

@Solus Also sorry this is so complicated but you go to the upper right where your name is, click the drop down then there is an area called settings and you choose "Account Settings" and then it will display a page where on the right it will say "Other Settings" and under that is "Edit Profile" and then you can either enter "not telling" or enter a random date and THEN you must go to the very bottom right of that page and click "Save" for it to take it. See if that works please?

@Solus It looks like it is still showing up on yours? You can try going to birthday and entering 01 01 01 or something like all 000000 or anything it will take that is not the actual date? Or you can enter "not telling" and see if that will work? Also, not sure if maybe there is a box that says "Save changes" on the settings page when you tell it you are not telling?

Hello @Solus and to anyone else with this question!!! Please try going to "settings" which is on the upper right hand of each page on AS (after silence) where your user name is listed and you can get a drop down box for settings. From settings on the right hand of the page it says "Other settings" and "edit profile". If you go to "edit profile" it will have "birthday" which I filled in as "not telling" and then it won't display for others. That said, once you set your birthday to "not telling" it will not display for other people. If you however look at your own profile it will say "Birth Date" and most likely will be the date you provided when you registered. This is NOT visible to everyone, just yourselves! To test this for example I can see on my profile it says a date by "birth date" but I bet if you look at my profile no birth date or birthday will be listed. So you have control and can set your "birthday" to show or not and the "birth date" is only viewable to yourselves and I think to site admin/moderators with whom you set up your AS account. I hope this helps and please let me know here or via pm if you have questions!!! Activist Ally

Of course we remember you Beyond, sorry that you are not doing so well at the moment but welcome back!

Hello Miss L I hope you will feel safe and at home here and that you can reconnect with yourself with the support of people here. Activist Ally

Hi Koala, well, I'm sorry you suffered that attack so many years ago...but i'm glad you found our site so hopefully you can be able to talk about what happened and further your conviction that it was not your fault. It was not your fault. I hope being able to unburden this trauma will help you as you work towards living your life with freedom for the years ahead of you. And I hope that the people of AS (After Silence) will be a part of the support you deserve as you work on healing. with care, Activist Ally

Welcome to AS (After Silence) Unicorn I am part of the Newbie support team and will send you the answers to your questions but briefly you need 10 posts as Princesskay said to access chat and share my story. Well again welcome to AS, though I'm sad you went through all those things to bring you here, I am glad this site is here for you. Activist Ally

Welcome to After Silence i'm sorry that you went through all kinds of abuse to bring you here but glad you found AS (After Silence). i hope you'll find the people here to be supportive as you work to heal and deal with past truamas and that you'll meet friends here who understand. Activist Ally

A huge thank you to PatriciaG for putting this together! Helpful terminology: On After Silence (AS), we use a short form for common words that may not be familiar to you. Here are some of the most common ones used: AS = After Silence (the Forum) PM = Private Message TW = Trigger Warning C = Counselor T = Therapist SI = Self Injury IRL = In Real Life TY = Thank You TC = Take Care R or R*** = Rape DID= Dissociative Identity Disorder On AS we also use some terms, such as: “Pocket Riders”. This is a term we use when someone is going to be going somewhere or will be doing something that is uncomfortable for them and need some support. Since we can’t be there in person, we tell the person that we will “Pocket Ride” along with them so they are not alone. “Hugs”. We ask someone if it is OK to send a hug. If they say “yes” then we can put “Safe Hugs”. If they say no to “Hugs”, do not be offended, they are just not comfortable with the word “Hugs”. “Trigger” (TW). The Post contains details of abuse that could upset someone else who reads it and may make them think of their own abuse. So using TW, a person has a choice whether to read the post or not. "Sitting with you/can someone sit with me". We know that this is a forum but we try to make a safe place so you don't feel alone. You will see these 2 phrase Sitting with you/ can someone sit with me. It is impossible for us to be there but we want the person to know they are not alone, or you can't find the right words to say. Just to let them know they have been heard and they are not alone.

I want to express my gratitude for PatriciaG for putting this FAQ post together for us. Thank you so much PatriciaG! Getting to know the Newbie Support Team (NST). The NST members would like to introduce ourselves to you. @ActivistAlly is our Team Leader. @angelic, @MeBeMary, @patriciag, @Bluesclues, @fallenstar, @Oneinamillion, @Painnbroken, and @silentg are all here to welcome you and answer any questions about this site. Here are a few of the reminders that people forget or get confused about: The Public Welcome forum is not a private area of After Silence. Anyone such as guests or public can read any posts in this area even though they are not a member. For that reason, we ask that the Welcome forum be used only to introduce yourself. We ask that you do not share any details of your experiences that brought you to After Silence in Public Welcome. If you find that your post has been moved, it is usually because it contains too much detail. If this happens, you will receive a Private Message (PM) explaining why. You have done nothing wrong but we’ve found a better Forum for it. We have a forum called “Share Your Story” and a feature "chat" which allows real time "chatting". Chat is only opened to survivors. Secondary Survivors cannot get into “chat”. Both "Share Your Story" and the chat function need at least 10 Posts from you in any other forum to be able to access them. A Post consists of you making 10 comments in any of the Forums. The reason for this is that these 2 forums are private. If you have any problems accessing “Share Your Story” or “chat”, the NST team will try to help you. Introducing other staff at AS and how to get help: The sections of the board have Section Moderators who supervise/monitor the posts made in that section. The NST Team does not monitor those Sections. You can see a list of Section Moderators and other moderating team members by scrolling to the bottom of the main page where you will see colored links to see the lists of Administrators, Moderators, Section Moderators, Newbie Support Team, and Chat Mods. The overall site Moderators for After Silence are here to help you if you have issues involving other members or problems that other staff cannot address. They are @kyukidojen, @madeline, @Iheartcupcakes, and @Ian37. Should you need to contact the moderators they can be reached through the help desk where you can post for assistance with technical or member problems. Please do NOT post here for personal support; utilize the forums for that purpose. Only you and staff can see your posts and replies. You should receive a response within 24 hours of your post. Check back for replies! http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/forum/122-help-desk/ This is the link to the help desk Self-Identifying with AS Profile Gender Options Due to a technical programming deficiency, we are unable to expand the gender option at this time and only the Male/Female options are available to members. We do care about all our members and have an alternative that may help relay your gender self-identity to the other members on this site. Under your profile name and above your profile picture there is a place that one can place information. This is called a "Member Title." As a member, you have this space available to you to for information about yourself, including your gender self-identity. How you would do this is by going to your profile page. In the top right corner you have two buttons, "Edit Profile" and "Cover Photo". Click on Edit Profile. A box will come up and the very first line in your profile information is the Member Title. This is where you would place gender self-identity information. Click the save button in the bottom right corner. We apologize for any inconveniences this has caused, but believe this can be a suitable solution for this technical issue. Below are some links that may help you on your journey of healing

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Hello and welcome to AS (After Silence) I'm sorry you have reason to be here but I'm also glad you found this website and I hope that you'll find the members of AS to be safe and supportive as you begin to open up and process what has brought you here. Best wishes, Activist Ally