MeBeMary

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  • Birthday 04/19/1968

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  1. Hi LunaRosa, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured as a child, it was wrong and unfair. I'm glad you felt ready to reach out. It takes time and courage. I know it did for me. You will find tons of support here on site. The struggles you face are the responsibility of the person that hurt you. Your feelings and reactions are justified. For those you love, I hope they are being patient and supportive. I am sure they hurt, because you do. Which is again, not your fault. I do hope the pain and struggles lessen for you and I hope the site is as much help to you, as it has been for me. I wish you well as you walk this path of healing. Mary
  2. Hi Jen, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the traumas you've endured. It was neither fair nor right. I am sorry you feel trapped within your own home. Do know that you will find tons of support and know that it does take great courage to reach out. I wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  3. Hi marivdb, Welcome back to the site. I'm sorry for the trauma you've endured and the recent step back in your healing. I understand it sometimes can just sneak back up on you. Please know this is not failure on your part, but unfortunately something that can sometimes happen. I see you originally signed up in 2013. This was a couple years before my time, but do know it is the same supportive community that you remembered. Some faces may have changed, but the understanding and kindness remains. I do wish you the best as you work again to get back on this healing path. Mary
  4. Hi PurpleDaisy, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the traumas you endured, both as a child and an adult. I am also sorry for the loss of your friend. Finding someone who supports and understand the struggles you go thru I know isn't easy. It must feel like a double loss to you. Good news is that you found our little site and we do have so many understanding, kind and supportive members. You are not alone. Reaching out is never easy, so I acknowledge your courage. I do wish you the best on this journey of healing. Mary
  5. Hi Soatsaki, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured. It was wrong for anyone to hurt you like this and it was not your fault. You are not responsible for what this monster did to you or anyone else. Many of us are manipulated or intimidated into silence. Many of us are embarrassed or afraid of not being believed. Unfortunately this happens too often. I understand the difficulty of moving on, but do know you are not alone. You will find tons of support. Take your time and look around. When you are ready, post or respond, as you like. You will never be pressured and you will never be judged. I wish you the best as you walk down this healing path. Mary
  6. Hi Luna. Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured. You are correct, he should have protected you, and he was wrong to hurt you in any way. I am very happy you have gotten away from him. It is a huge step to reach out to others, so I would like to acknowledge your courage. You will find tons of support here and know we understand and that you are not alone in this. I wish you many more forward steps on this healing journey. Mary
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    Hi Cheeryo, Welcome to AS. I am so sorry for the trauma you have endured by people you should trust. They had no right to hurt you as they did. You will find this a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. I am glad there is some support in your life, but understand how they don't truly understand because they have never gone thru it. I am very sorry about your son. I can't imagine the anguish you feel as a mother. I am glad that you have found us, tho. It is a place to start in this journey of healing. Please know, you are not alone. Mary
  8. Hi Jf967, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured, but you have found a very supportive site. For me finding others who understand has been a great help The silence and isolation can really take it's toll, I know. It takes great courage to reach out and I wish you the best as you begin to take forward steps on the path of healing. Mary
  9. Hi Katja, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for all the trauma you have endured. Nobody ever had the right to hurt you. I do hope you understand that none of it was your fault. You will find amazing support here, as our members are kind and understanding. I am always glad to hear we were recommended by a T. It shows we have a decent reputation among professionals. I admire that you want to become a surgeon and help others. I wish you much success in your studies. As you requested, I will sit with you...and also walk with you on this journey of healing. Mary
  10. Hi Bird Song, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you suffered, but you will find this a very supportive site. It's ok that it took some time say hello and ok to take time to find your footing here at AS. There will never be pressure or judgment in what or when you find your voice. I wish you the best as walk down your path of healing. Mary
  11. Hi LilyB, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you experienced and buried. I can relate to that, many of us can. You will find tons of support from understanding and supportive members on this site. I am very glad you found us and felt ready to face this. It does take courage to reach out, so I do acknowledge this fact about you. I wish you the very best as you start your journey of healing. Mary
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    Hi Aalen, Welcome to AS. I am sorry for all the trauma you have endured, but you have found a really supportive site with many understanding members. It is never right for anyone to hurt another this way, especially family members. They should have loved and looked out for you. I takes a ton of courage to face what you went thru, so for this I acknowledge you. I think you do have the right idea about how you can share and put a voice to what you need to say, without pressure or judgement. It is one of the best things about our site. Unfortunately, our Chat Room is currently closed. Do to server limitations and costs, administration had to shut it down for now. They are working hared to find other options, but it has been a slow process. I do hope we will re-open sometime in the near future. I'm not sure of other places that offer chat that would have a survivor's type theme. We do currently have a reply post that has been running in place of chat. It's not as live time as chat, but it is an option. I placed the link below, if you would like to take a look. I do wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/topic/122326-chat-here-while-chat-is-down/&page=48
  13. Thanks Cap. Glad I saw your questions and could help.
  14. @Capulet Sometimes Board Mods are able to help, if these other ways don't work. Pictures have been an issue ever since the last upgrade to the site. Leave a message at the helpdesk, and one of the Board Mods should reply within 24 hours. http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/forum/122-help-desk/
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    Hi Pie, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what you went thru, and tho you have trouble labeling it, please know what happened and what he did to you was wrong. Please no, it was not your fault. I think many of us start with that feeling of what did we do to deserve this or what did I do wrong. There are many ways to say no, and you did. I am glad you have been reading thru some of the other posts. It really gives one an idea of how not alone they are. I know that is how I felt coming here, almost three years ago. You will find our members do understand and are so very kind. It is a big step to reach out to us and I wish you so many more forward steps on your healing journey. Mary