MeBeMary

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  1. Hi pahatfi, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you suffered as a child and your recent loss of your husband. We can never replace who you lost, but you are not alone. You have found a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. We are here for you. Mary
  2. Hi pahatfi, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the abuse you endured as a child. It is very wrong for anyone to hurt another this way. You will find tons of support here, as there are so many understanding and kind members here. I am sorry for the loss of your husband. You spent many years together, didn't you? I am sorry for the pain you are enduring now. I wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  3. Hi PT. Welcome to AS. I am so sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but your impressions of this site is right on. The members here are kind and understanding, and I modestly say our staff is tops. Our goal is a safe and supportive site for all, and it is what we offer to you. I am glad you are interested in investing some effort, because you definitely are worth it. Reaching out can be difficult, I know, but it can also be a big step. I wish you nothing but more big, forward-going steps on this healing path. Mary
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    Hi noctambulist, Welcome to AS. I am sorry you have reason to be here, but you will find tons of support. This forum is meant to be a place for a brief introduction, so you have used it properly. Do know that you will be accepted on our private forums, as soon as you are ready to jump in. It is a big step to reach out, and I wish you the best on many more forward steps in your healing journey. Mary
  5. Hi Sonder, Welcome to AS. I am so sorry you have a reason to be here, but know that you will find tons of support. No only is it normal to be nervous at first, it is so understandable! It is very courageous to reach out and "lean into the discomfort", but do understand, we've been there. It's hard to start something new, especially if it is something that effects you so deeply. You don't know us or the site well yet, but comfort does come. Take your time, no pressure. I wish you the best on this healing journey. Mary
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    Hi Charli, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced as a child, but you have found a very supportive site. What happened to you was wrong, and I hope you know that you are not to blame. It is a very big step to reach out to others, so I would like to acknowledge that accomplishment. I wish you nothing but the best as you begin your journey of healing. Mary
  7. Hi Sapphira, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for trauma you have endured, but you have found a very supportive site. SA can be very difficult to understand, but only because it is hard to understand monsters who have no problem hurting others for their own sick, selfish reasons. You did nothing wrong, I hope you realize that. You will find the members here are very understanding and can relate to all the confused, hurtful feelings you have. I do wish you the best as you being your path of healing. Mary
  8. Hi Marsha, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry you have experienced something awful that has you seeking out help, but glad also that you have reached out. Many of us have found the site by just surfing the web looking for someplace, and the good news is this place you will find much support from kind and understanding members. You are not alone. I am a member of the newbie support team, and I will PM you with some information to get you started on your journey here. Mary
  9. I tend to agree with @reglois. I know as a secondary survivor you want to do something, you want to help, you want to be able to fix it. I admire what you and other secondarys wish you could do. As a survivor, I think everyone of us wish it were that easy. We are changed individuals and we are trying to find out who this new us is. We need to deal with the changes and just hope there is someone supportive like you, when we are able to reach out. I know it is not easy for you and I do sympathize with the secondary's feeling of perhaps having a feeling of helpless in the situation. If you are patient and understanding, it does so much for the survivor. If you push or try to take control, it can trigger us. You may be right, it should be the other way around, but unfortunately it very rarely works that way. I say this with the upmost respect. What not to do is more important most times than what you do. I know this is harder for you, yes, but for the survivor it can be a necessity. Please be patient with those survivors you care about.
  10. Hi Socratort, Welcome to AS. I am always happy to greet a secondary survivor, as it is wonderful to know somebody has support. This is not always the case, but someone is fortunate enough to have you in their corner. I am also sorry that you do have someone who needs support. I do wish you the best. Mary
  11. Hi jgb, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured by someone who should have been a trusted family member. I am sorry he hurt you. You will find tons of support here on AS, as we have the most understanding and kind members. Take your time to look around is the best next step, and when you are ready, feel free to respond to others or start your own posts. There is no timeline and no pressure. I wish you the best on this healing journey. Mary
  12. Hi Fred. Welcome to AS. I am so sorry for the trauma you experienced, but you have found a very supportive site. You will find many understanding and kind members here. Understanding can be difficult, but do know that no abuse is ever right. You did nothing wrong, someone else did. You are not alone on this healing path and I wish you the best on this journey. Mary
  13. Hi Winn, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured. Nobody had that right to hurt you as they did. You have found a very supportive site tho, with many understanding and kind members. You are not alone in your struggles, and unfortunately struggling is normal. You are doing good, reaching out, it is very courageous. Many of us go into denial, and sometimes it takes many years to face it. The fact they were drunk is no excuse...there is never an excuse that justifies these types of actions. You are not alone. I wish you the best on your healing journey. Mary
  14. Hi Raven, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured when you were younger and I am also sorry that your parents are not supportive of you. You did nothing wrong and deserve their understanding and support. It is not unusually to struggle because of the abuse we live thru. I am glad your friend suggested our site to you. You will find tons of members who are understanding and kind. You are not alone. I do wish you the very best on your healing journey. Mary
  15. Hi eludf7, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you suffered a few months ago. Nobody ever has the right to hurt another this way. You will find tons of support from our many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. I agree with Painnbroken on the best approach to calling a rape crisis center. They do understand when someone calls and are hesitant, nervous, and hurting. They will help you. Also, just to add, if you are more comfortable doing an online version, instead of actually speaking, rainn.org has a online hotline for those who prefer it. Whatever you decide, do know that you will be supported here. I do wish you the very best on beginning your healing journey. Mary