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  1. MeBeMary

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    Hello Stillhurts. I have translated your message the best I could thru an online translator. Altho we are multi-cultural, I am unsure how many members actually speak Spanish. We accept you to this site, but if there is any English you can speak instead, your posts might have more responses. If not, hopefully you can use a translator, as I have? I will leave the link below, if it will help? That being said, welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you've endured, but this site is very supportive, with many understanding members. Take your time to look around the site and you will see what I mean. You are not alone. I do wish you the best on this journey of healing. Mary Online Translator--CLICK HERE
  2. Hello wheelieunicorn, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am so sorry that you experienced trauma four years ago. It is never right for person to do hurt another this way. You will find tons of support here tho, as our members are truly understanding and kind. I also found my way here a few years ago thru RAINN. They are such a helpful and informative site, for those in middle of crisis or dealing with the struggles after. I am glad they led you here, as well. Give the site a look over and when you are ready to dive in, do so. There is no pressure and you can share whatever is comfortable for you. I wish you nothing but the best as you navigate this road we call healing. Mary
  3. MeBeMary

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    Hi RiaLavender, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have gone thru and the many things you've become to realize. You will find much support within our community. You are not alone. It is always good to try to be proactive in the healing process, tho it isn't always easy. It is ok it took you time to figure out when you should begin to post, sometimes it can be something as simple and as complicated as the holidays to trigger things a bit. I hope you have taken a little time to look around and have seen what this site has to offer. We are here for you. Wishing you nothing but the best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  4. Hi Rosemary, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry that you have reasons to be here, but do assured that this is a very supportive and understanding community of survivors. You are not alone. This is a safe place to share or interact whatever you are comfortable in sharing or interacting with. It is a no pressure zone. It takes a lot of courage to reach out to others, so this I do acknowledge this. I wish you many more forward steps as you navigate down this path of healing. Mary
  5. MeBeMary

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    Hello Jai, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am so very sorry for what happened to you 2 months ago. It was not fair nor was it right. I understand what you mean about the word victim, but we need to try and put the word in perspective. I have come to accept that "victim" is who we were at the time of the trauma..."survivor" is the person who emerges...the one who struggles and fights and does their best to carry on. I hope you will see yourself passed the victim portion of your trauma eventually. I am sorry that you have gotten no help, in regards to your trauma. It was a crime and it was immoral. Sadly, justice is such a difficult thing. I respect you for speaking out. I know it wasn't easy. I am sorry they didn't hear you. You deserved at least that. You are not alone, friend. You have found a community filled with understanding and kind members. You will find support and be validated. This is not your fault. He made a selfish and cruel choice and nobody ever ever deserves this hurt. Take your time to look around. Interact where you fill ready and comfortable to do so. I wish you well as you begin this journey of healing. Mary
  6. MeBeMary

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    Hi totoro5, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the traumas you have endured, but you will find this a very supportive site...no matter your gender. Altho we do have more female than male, you are very welcome to our community. We do not discriminate and you will find understanding and kindness here. Take your time to look around and when you feel comfortable, feel free to interact. You are not alone. I wish you the very best as you walk this path of healing. Mary
  7. Hi Mira, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am sorry you have reasons to be here and are struggling. I do understand anxiety and not being found out, but as 8888 mentioned, with the an alias, it may be difficult. If the user name is something that causes concern, you can ask at our help desk to change it to something less identifying. We have members from different parts of the world, as well, so this makes it more difficult to be discovered, as well. We are also secure in most forums can only be viewed by registered members (this is not one of them, please let us know if moving to another forum will assure you more). You not need to reveal anything you are not comfortable with and you will not be asked to. I know it can be difficult reaching out and we do not want you feeling you are pressured. Take your time, look around. Sometimes reading other similar posting can help just to let you know you are not alone. I do hope you give this community a chance, but if you fell now is still not the time, it is respected. Do know our doors are always open to you. Wishing you well on your path of healing. Mary
  8. The holidays are upon us.

    For many, it is very stressful. It can be anything from being mildly blue to having extreme difficulty of getting thru these next few weeks. Sometimes we need a little extra understanding and support.  :hug: 

    This is our second year with our Holiday Buddies program. If you haven't read about it, please take a look at our post describing it below. It's main idea is that we can match two members together to help each other thru the stresses this holiday season brings. :unsure:

    The Holiday Buddies process will try to best match your needs with another member or even a staff member like me. :blink:  We will not turn anyone away, so if you would like a little extra support this holiday season, your Holiday Buddy is a few short screening questions away.

    Thank you for reading. :thanks:

     

    2019 Holiday Buddies Info--CLICK HERE

                  

  9. Hello Martha, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry you have reason to be here, but do know you will find tons of support. Our members are very kind and understanding. It is a very step to reach out to others. Take your time to look around. I wish you the best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  10. Hi Veronica, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what you experienced and the realization of what it truly was. I know for myself it took decades to come to the realization that my assault was non-consensual, but it was not from a husband or even from someone I was dating. I know the realization must be difficult for you, this being a man you decided to be with, I am assuming, for good. You give no indication if this is something that you are reconsidering your marriage or if there is other things that cause concern for you. Perhaps this is what you meant by sharing more in a later post, which is fine. Perhaps this is why you decided to join our little community, to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings? It doesn't need to be done sooner than you need. Do know there is never pressure or judgment. You are processing and we are here for you, when you need. I am glad you have decided to take the step in reaching out. I find interacting with others who understand is something that helps a great deal. I do hope you discover this too. I wish you well on this journey of healing. Mary
  11. Hi EmiSurv, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry you have reason to be here, but you are not alone. This is a great place to interact and receive support. It takes courage to reach out and I am glad you have. Take your time and look around. We are here for you. Wishing you the best on this path of healing. Mary
  12. I am pretty ugly.

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    Did I catch your attention?

    I would like to challenge everyone to view themselves a different way today. 

    Please read:

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    If you read thru and back... do know YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Don't ever doubt it! :throb:

     

  13. Hi Kasia, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the abuses you've endured, but you will find much support here in our little community. Our members are truly understanding and kind. Do know this is a healing and safe community and I am glad your friend recommended us to you...and you decided to join. There is something to interacting with those who truly understand and would never judge. I am glad you do have a support network in real life, but glad that we will be that nice complement that you are looking for. Take your time and look around and jump in when you are ready. Best wishes for many more steps on your journey of healing. Mary
  14. Hi mariposa, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced 5 years ago. It was unfair and wrong for anyone to hurt you. You will find tons of support here with our many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. I am glad that you are finding confidence and that guilt that sometimes consumes a survivor is starting to lift. It is a burden I wished that was never placed on ours shoulders, as the perps are the only ones whom should have this. But it is a healing step to begin to accept the truth. You did nothing wrong. When you are ready feel free to interact and share with what you are comfortable with. There is never any pressure or judgment. I wish you more steps as you travel down this path we call healing. Mary
  15. Hi Hopeless, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry that you have endured abuse by someone who should care for you. Do know that you have found a very supportive site. You are not alone. I am sorry that you are finding difficulty finding local support. @8888 has given my best response of checking out RAINN. They have invaluable resources and personal to help those in crisis. There is also the Domestic Violence Hotline that may have some resources and help, as well. I'll put the link below. Do not doubt what you are doing is brave and we know this is not an easy task. You are supported by this community tho. You deserve better and it will come. I am glad you have found our community and know we are with you every step of the way. Wishing you the best on finding your freedom from abuse and the journey of healing that comes next. Mary http://www.thehotline.org/
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