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MeBeMary

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  • Birthday 04/19/1968

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  1. I'm new

    Hi Jessica, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you experienced three years ago, but you will find tons of support. Our members are understanding and kind. It's not easy to reach out, so I acknowledge that very brave step. Take your time and look around and I'm sure you will find it easier, as you go. You say you don't know why your here, but I think you are here for much of the same reasons as many of us. The struggles that hard to deal with resulting from your assault. Our stories all vary, but there is a thread that binds us all...we want to heal...and we have every right to heal. I wish you the very best as you continue this journey we call healing. Mary
  2. Hello

    Hi Michelle, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured, but you have found a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. Many of us find comfort with our fur-friends...tho a snake has no fur. I guess that is your scaly-friend. We have a Pet Pictures! thread, if you like to share or just view some of the great animal friends we all have. I'll place the tread below. I wish you well on your journey of healing. Mary http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/topic/4987-pet-pictures/&page=36
  3. Not new but been away for quite some time

    Hi katina, Welcome back to the site. I'm sorry for what originally brought you here and the struggles that you still face. I think many of us try to hide from it, at least from time to time. Not sure how long it has been since you were here last, but members are still understanding and kind, just unfortunately probably more of us than you remember. I wish you the best as you continue your healing journey. Mary
  4. New To this. This is my first day here

    Hi Cmerlotts, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry you have experienced trauma, but do know you have found a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. It takes great courage to start anything new, especially if it deals with traumas that you have endured. Take your time and look around and I am sure you will be comfortable with how the site works. I wish you the very best as you walk this path of healing. Mary
  5. I can't believe I'm doing this...

    Hi PhoenixEmber, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the reason you do find yourself here, but you will find tons of support here. You are heard, acknowledged, and understood here. It is a huge step to reach out, especially when you are so uncertain. I do hope you take time to look around and see that you are not alone. I know that fear starting something new, many of us had those same feelings when we first came to the site. It's ok to take it slow, I know that I certainly did. To be honest, there are some forums that I even still do not go into, and that is ok. You decide what is ok for you here. There is no pressure or judgement. I do wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  6. need someone who understands

    Hi Looking for peace, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you experienced at the hands of your husband, but you have found a very supportive site. Even with him being your husband, he had no right. Physical force does not happen in all abuse cases and in more cases than not, it is by someone that you know and should trust. He broke that trust. I hope you find your way thru your triggers and struggles. I wish you the best on your healing journey. Mary
  7. Newbie

    Hi Saz, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what happened to you last week. It is something no one should go thru. You have found a very supportive site tho, with understanding members. You are not alone. It takes courage to reach out. I wish many more healing steps for you. Mary
  8. new and confused

    Hi bebie95, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you experienced, but you have found a very supportive site. We often have T's recommending our site and I am glad yours has. If you are worried about being compared or judged on what happened to you, please don't. No matter how you perceive your trauma, if you are struggling and feel support will be beneficial to you, you are in the right place. You are accepted and know you are not alone. As Struggling suggested, take a look around to get familiar with the site. I wish you well on your healing journey. Mary
  9. New to this

    Hi Scaredbutreadytoheal, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but you have found a very supportive site. Our members are very understanding and kind. I am glad that someone recommended our site to you and you have registered. When I found this place, I truly did (and still do) find this a true safe haven. No judgement or pressure. Take your time and look around. I wish you the best as you walk down this healing path. Mary
  10. Newbie

    Hi Jaccod, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you have experienced at the hands of your ex. He had no right and is a liar and manipulator. I'm sorry he hurt you and the pain is still so fresh and new. It's understandable that you don't feel yourself, being violated does change a person in ways that are hard to understand...both by others and ourselves. Reaching out is such a huge step, tho, so give yourself credit here. It's not easy, but do know you will find tons of support here at AS. I do wish you nothing but the best as you begin your healing journey. Mary
  11. New here

    Hi Heather, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but you have found a very supportive site and I am glad that you have found us. We have many understanding and kind members. It takes courage to reach out, so I am glad you have. I wish you the best on this healing journey. Mary
  12. Trying to Help after the Rape Kit

    Hi Valerie, Welcome to AS! As a survivor, I want to thank you for all you do! Not only are you trying to help survivors after being traumatized, you are doing your best to find ways to help survivors keep some sense of dignity in the aftermath of their experiences, which can be very difficult to do. So many thanks on behalf of the survivors you have helped. Altho I never received helped from a SA center like yours, I appreciate your efforts on trying to find the right clothing and sizes for everyone. It is very true that survivors come in all shapes and sizes, and the one thing I know would be right is most would like comfortable and not tight-fitting clothing. We are at our most uncomfortable and any little bit of comfort does help. In this instance, I think of both mentally comfortable and possibly physically comfortable. I'm unsure about the shoes, perhaps someone else who has been thru the process can help. I do hope you get more responses, as I really think it is a great thing you are doing. Thanks for coming here and asking us and sharing your kindness with us. Mary
  13. Intro

    Hi OnWheels, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you endured and the struggles you face. You are not alone. You will find many supportive and understanding people here. It does take courage to start a post and reach out and I'm glad you felt ready. Do know that you are free to talk about anything you decide to talk about here. This is your private place from the outside world and you make the rules to what and how much you say. There is no judgment and no pressure. I do wish you the very best as you start your journey here with us. Mary
  14. New to using my voice

    Hi Optomisticlady, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry that you have experienced trauma and have gone thru the struggles that include remaining silent. Being alone and dealing with trauma is very difficult, I know. Good news is you have found us, a supportive site with many understanding members, and you had the courage to reach out. Reaching out is usually the first large step any of us can make. I wish you the best as you journey down your healing path. Mary
  15. Nervous but Ready to Heal

    Hi jessibear, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for all you have endured. Many of us understand keeping everything bottled up, as we are or have been there. It's not easy to face the struggles we have, but attempting to is a very big step forward. You will find kind-hearted and supportive members here. You are not alone. You have taken a big step reaching out, and I hope many more forward steps are to follow. Mary
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