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MeBeMary

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  1. Hello anakim, Welcome to AfterSilence...even if you were floating for a while. Sometimes it's easier if you put your toe in the water before jumping right in. I'm glad you decided you could now post. Your trauma and your struggles were unjustifiable, but you have found a very supportive community with so many understanding and kind members. We are here for you, when you need it. You worded it perfectly...it is unfortunate that we are in this position, but it is so nice to not be alone. I am glad you found us and decided to join. Continue looking around and jump in when and whe
  2. MeBeMary

    Newbie

    @Jonny Trying to figure out where and what is something we always need to figure out. Reading it bit might help, I did much of that when I first found my way here. Other than that, many of the forums have a little description at the top. The Gathering Place and the Aftermath are active places that can handle a variety of topics, as well. If there is something you think may be triggering, we encourage you to add as many tags or trigger warnings as you deem necessary. It's the little + sign by the name you give the topic. We do have a Share Your Story forum, as well. If you decide you
  3. MeBeMary

    Newbie

    Hi Jonny, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma that you've experienced and the struggles you've endured. Abuse is never fair or deserved. I'm glad you've found support in 1in6 and are seeing a therapist...and now have joined us. Reaching out can be one of the most intimidating but healthy things to do. Recognizing self-care is important is incredibly strong. We welcome you in this additional step for your healing journey. Feel free to look around our community and interact where it feels the most comfort. I wish you well as you continue down the path of healing.
  4. I am both pro-life AND pro-choice.

    I also have the right to be appalled by what happened yesterday...unless this is the next thing to be outlawed by the Supreme Court. 💔  

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    1. snmls

      snmls

      Very upsetting decision, but it was unfortunately one I saw coming. This is only the beginning of the court working to take away rights. 

      Everyone should be able to make their own personal decisions about whether they want to be a parent or not.  

    2. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      That is my fear, too. If it is so easy to take this right away, who is to stop them from making a list of other rights they wish to invalidate. The future is supposed be about progressing, not regressing. We are regressing at a fast pace, tho. :( 

  5. Hi ILikeKittens and welcome. I am so sorry you have reason to be here but do know you have found a very supportive community with so many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. We are here to support and encourage you on this healing journey. What you've been thru is unfair and undeserved. Feel free to look around the site and interact when and where you feel comfortable. Your own pace is always best. I am glad you found us and decided to reach out, as I know that takes courage. I wish you nothing but the best as you continue this path in healing. Mary BT
  6. Hi Tangerine, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what brought you here but do know you have found a very supportive community. You are not alone. You will find many supportive and understanding members who you will be able to relate to, and they to you. It's also ok to be nervous and take your time. There is no pressure to share or interact before you are ready and comfortable. We all have different speeds and different ways we like to interact. Just know that it will get more comfortable with time. Feel free to look around until you get that footing you need. We wil
  7. MeBeMary

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    Hi there Kaze, Welcome to AfterSilence. I'm very sorry you've experienced trauma and have struggles. You've found a wonderful community with many understanding and supportive members. You are not alone. I felt the same way when I found this community several years ago. Never knew there was such a place where others really knew and understand what I've been thru. It was the first time I didn't feel so alone. Once you become comfortable, I'm sure you'll feel the same. Its ok to take your time. This is an at your own pace place. Wishing you the best as you continue down the path
  8. Hi Funny face and welcome. I am very sorry you experienced trauma and have struggles. You are not alone. You have found a community filled with understanding and supportive members and are welcomed here. Feel free to look about the site and jump in where and when you are comfortable. I wish you the best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  9. Hi Mark, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you’ve endured. It wasn’t fair or deserved. You have found a supportive site tho, with many understanding members. You are not alone. Sadly many survivors tend to hold it in for a long time. It’s there, but we try to ignore the reasons why we struggle. It can be difficult to share those horrors, so speaking to your parents was very brave. Do know the shame is not yours. Abusers have a way of shifting their own guilt onto those they hurt. I’m sorry you are hurting, but glad you found us. I wish you nothing but
  10. Hi DialATurner, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you’ve gone thru and the struggles you face. This community has so many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. I’m glad to see that you’ve already noticed some similarities with others on this site. Perhaps you’ve noticed self blame and self doubt is common? It’s way too common. We always think about our actions within a trauma that possibly made it our fault, when in fact it is always the abusers fault because of what they did. They voided your ability to consent. That is on them. I am glad you
  11. Speaking of private vs public, maybe add to the private list: Public: Very Good Year? Even tho it says public, I think some members don’t realize it. Saying 5 things to your abuser is pretty popular and it’s public for all to see. Also revamping it some might be nice, with actually having some posts newer than 2011? LOL. I’m sure there are some more recent posts that would fit nicely in there, too.
  12. I’ve been wishing that a long time…or for blogs to even have the option if one wants to display it public or private. Would be good modification This too. They can’t view much, but even a little is uneasy.
  13. MeBeMary

    Hi

    Hello Marabee and welcome. I am very sorry for the experiences you’ve been thru and the struggles you face. None of it is fair, but you will find tons of support here. This is a community filled with understanding members. You are not alone. Feel free to look around the site and jump in when you are ready. We are all here for you., Wishing you the best on this journey forward. Mary
  14. Hi agentukelele and welcome. It is nice you are supporting your partner. Many survivors don't have this type of support. It is likely you understand a bit more than most, which is a little sad, but lucky for your partner. I am glad you are doing well yourself and hoping that you can continue to progress as you have been. Wishing you both the best. Mary
  15. Hello minimal and welcome. I am very sorry for what you have experienced. It was wrong and undeserved. You have found a very supportive site with many understanding members. You are not alone. I am so glad you found us and decided to reach out. Animals are so wonderful, aren't they? I can only allow 1 pet at my complex, and I chose a cat. It doesn't mean I love dogs any less, just that I would not feel right leaving a dog during workdays and I don't have a yard for them to enjoy. I love my furbaby tho, as I am sure you do. I always dreamed of winning the lottery and opening up some
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