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MeBeMary

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  • Birthday 04/19/1968

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  1. New and looking for coping tips

    Hi ValkyriesRide, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured and the struggles you still face. You will find tons of support from understanding and kind members. As the others have said, most (if not all) of us crave that validation. What happened to us was significant and life-changing. To be acknowledged that this has happened is a big deal, but often others who have not walked in our shoes can minimized it or even disregard what we go thru. This can be hurtful. So validation is important. We do understand and do know that you are validated, your experience is validated, and your struggles are validated. What happened to you was wrong and you are not alone. It takes courage to reach out to others and I wish you many more forward steps on this journey of healing. Mary
  2. New here

    Hi Jenna, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured, but you have found a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. I am glad you searched us out and we are happy to accept you. You are not alone. I wish you the very best on your journey of healing and a big thank you for serving our country. Mary
  3. New Here

    Hi VK, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you experience at the age of twelve, but you will find tons of support here. You are not alone. Take your time and look around. You can post what you are comfortable with when you are ready. I also promise never call you Rose. I am glad you have found our little site and wish you the very best as you walk down this path of healing. Mary
  4. So... Hey

    Hi Youngbellbird, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry that you have experienced trauma, but so happy that you have joined our site. I understand how others, even well-meaning family or friends, just don't fully understand what you went thru. That is what is so wonderful about AS. You are not alone anymore. Our members are so understanding and kind. You will find tons of support, too. I wish you the very best as you walk your path of healing. Mary
  5. First time here

    Hi Nolongerstrong, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you experienced, but you have found a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. I think many of us tried doing as you have tried. I know denial was my middle name, even tho my struggles persisted. Just as you are doing now, I knew I had to face it. It is a brave thing for any survivor to do...so yes, this means you are brave. I wish you the best as you begin to take more and more steps down this path of healing. Mary
  6. How to stop feeling scared

    Hi Leaha, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you endured and your remaining struggles. Altho the police failed you (and failed you huge), you were very brave to come forward. It is very unfair to go thru all you did, only to have it turn around on you. I know it is not much help to you, at least the trial is on record, which means he will be looked at very closely if and when another woman files a complaint. You still need to heal from your trauma, as well. Even if not brutal, prolonged or violent...it was wrong and a violation of consent, being, and trust. Reaching out to other survivors hopefully will help you with that. I do wish you the best with your struggles and your journey of healing. Mary
  7. New here

    Hi Tryintosurvive, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for your recent trauma, it must be very fresh for you. You have found a very supportive site tho, and will receive tons of support. I know how hard it is when everyone tells you how it will be. I know you don't feel that right now and those words don't seem to help, when you feel it won't. Healing is a very unpredictable thing. There is no set timetable. You are here tho, which is huge. This shows you are a fighter. Many of us have and go thru denial, refusing to face it. I admire your friend for recommending us, many friends do not know what to say or do, but your friend is there supporting you. We support you. I wish you the very best as you begin your healing journey. Mary
  8. New but ready

    Hello Ready4Change, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you've experienced, but you have found a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. It is a big decision and a big step to face what you've endured and I am glad you have reached out to us. It is easier when you know that you are not alone. I wish you the very best for many more steps on your journey of healing. Mary
  9. New here

    Hi Lily, Welcome to AS. I am sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but you found a very supportive site. First time reaching out is a huge step and I'm glad you found us. I think it makes a big difference to be among others who truly understand. Take your time and look around, and when you are ready, we are here for you. I wish you many more forward steps in your journey of healing. Mary
  10. New here

    He Cheleigh, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what you experienced at 13 and how you are struggling now. Triggers can be difficult, as I imagine how triggering this anniversary will be for you. You will find many kind and supportive members here. I am glad you found us and wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  11. New here...

    Hi Sakuralzumi, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what you experienced 9 months ago. You experienced what nobody should experience. You have found a very supportive site, with many understanding and kind members. My response to "normal" would be that what you experienced is un-normal, but struggles are not uncommon. But as said above, struggles can mean a variety of things to different people. Do know that reaching out is a big step tho, one of many I wish to you on this healing journey. Mary
  12. Newcomer

    Hi Meggers, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured, but you have found a very supportive site. What happened to you was wrong and so unfair, but you are not alone. You have taken the first step in finding your voice, just by being here. Internalization and self-blame is unfortunately far to common among us survivors, so even with how difficult it has been, do know you have reacted normally for unnormal circumstances. Take your time and look around and when you start to feel more comfortable, we will be here for you. I wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  13. New To Board

    Hi Sass, Welcome to AS. I am sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but you have find tons of support here. Many of us have been silent for too long and this site is a great place to take some forward steps in healing. Our members are kind and understanding. Your realization of not being alone is a good step. Take your time and look around. I wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  14. Hello

    Hi dragonfly, Welcome to AS. I am sorry for the reason you find yourself here, but you will find tons of support here. As Capulet mentioned, shame is unfortunately very common in survivors. We often also think are trauma isn't as important as others...not true. You and your story is validated here. You are important and your feelings and struggles are important. You deserve to find a place of understanding and support. You are not alone. Reaching out is not easy, so consider this your first big step on your healing journey. Mary
  15. Share your story and survivors forum

    I sent the password to you in a PM for the female forum. Share your story will automatically unlock after 10 posts.
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