MeBeMary

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  • Birthday 04/19/1968

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  1. Hi j. Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured, but you will find AS a very supportive site with many kind and understanding members. Before coming here, I held my secrets tightly too. It gave me courage to at least tell 2 close people to me, but it was still very hard. I think we learn to conceal these secrets because not only of the pain inflicted upon us, but the shame and guilt that was inflicted on us, too. It was inflicted on us, but truly are not ours to own. The monsters who hurt others are the only ones that deserve the shame and guilt, but they are so manipulative, they somehow convince us that we are to blame. It's not true, so we need to try and fight this notion, which I know isn't easy. Reaching out and having others who know these same struggles helps. I wish you well on this journey of healing. Mary
  2. Hi sca, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what brings you here, but you have found a very supportive site. The members here are truly kind and understanding. Reaching out is a huge step to take, so even the few words expressing not knowing what to say...it is actually saying a lot. You are learning to find your voice, which is a very healthy, healing thing to do. The words and their meanings and the empowerment you get from it will come. Take your time and best wishes on your journey of healing. Mary
  3. Hi Izz, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the traumas that you have endured. Nobody has the right to hurt someone like this. I am sorry that you are struggling with after effects of the wrong that was done to you. I do congratulate you on reaching out, as it is a very big step. I wish you many more forward steps on this healing journey. Mary
  4. Hi Mary, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you have gone thru, but AS is a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. I can understand you feeling isolated, yet surrounded by others that need and rely on you 24/7. I do hope it is a fast 3 weeks for you. Many of us understand about topics that can trigger panic attacks, so you aren't alone. It is hard to reach out to others, but know that you will never be pressured to share anything you are not comfortable with, so take your time looking around. I do wish you the best as you go down this healing path. Mary BTW...you have a very lovely name.
  5. Hi AmazonianPrincess, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured, but you have found a very supportive site. It is never easy to take the first step and reach out, so I acknowledge how brave you are. I am sure it is only the beginning of your steps forward and I wish you well on your healing journey. Mary
  6. Hi Claire, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the traumas that you've endured, but you have found a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. It is incredibly brave of you to remove yourself from the abusive relationship, as I know it was not an easy thing for you to do. You say you are a creative sort? Just to let you know, we have a creativity forum, if you care to and are comfortable sharing with the community, but of course the choice is up to you. I do wish you the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  7. Hello Andrea, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry that you have endured something awful to be here, but you will find this is a very supportive site. I understand your need to communicate with others, as it is very hard to go it alone. Even at times when others do support you, they never fully understand. I am glad you have found us and wish you the best on your healing journey. Mary
  8. Hi Hope, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured throughout your life. You never deserved it. Nobody ever has the right to hurt another individual this was, and I am glad that you have come to realize this. It is one of the toughest hurdles that we survivors face. It was never our fault. I am glad that you have support already, but now you can include our community, as we do understand and accept you. I wish you the very best on your journey of healing. Mary
  9. Hi Fading, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry that you have reason to be here, but please know that this is a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. It's ok to have questions when starting something new like this, and there is no pressure on you to do or say anything you are not comfortable with. I will send you a PM with some basics, to start, and if you have additional questions, our Newbie Support Team is here to help you along. It took courage to reach out and I wish you well as you begin your journey of healing. Mary
  10. Hi CnB. Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you experienced and the struggles you face, but do know, AS is a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. Reaching out is hard, and I acknowledge your courage for doing so. You are not alone, anymore, as we walk with you on this healing journey. Mary
  11. Hi tdm, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured and the struggles you still face. AS is a very supportive site, tho, with many understanding and kind members. It takes courage to reach out, so I want to acknowledge that. I do wish you the best as you walk your path of healing. Mary
  12. Hi Rosie, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry that you experienced CSA. It was wrong and you did not deserve this pain. You have found a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. It takes courage to reach out and I am glad you did. It is very important to realize you are not alone and that you have others that understand your struggles. I wish you the very best as you walk this path of healing. Mary
  13. Welcome back Scard1, I'm glad you remembered us and the great support that AS provides, for yourself and to others. The site has changed, and is probably larger than you remember, as well. I'm sure you will become used to the site once more and we are happy to welcome you back. Mary
  14. Hi lena-bear, Welcome to AS. I am sorry for what you went thru, but you will find much support here. The members really are kind and understanding. I was actually like you, and admitting it took many years. The first time I said the r word was right here on this site. Please no it is ok to talk about anything on this site, because many times our reactions to certain things can have be link to past traumas, no matter how long ago...also, sometimes we like to share lighter things, too, which can be a stress reliever. I do wish you the best as you begin this healing journey. Mary
  15. Hi For Healing, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but you will find this a very supportive site. I had done the same thing, before finding this site. Try and deal with it alone, but I was happy to find out that I didn't have to, and neither do you. I do wish you the very best as you journey down your healing path. Mary