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MeBeMary

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  1. Hi All.

    Hi edfisch, Welcome to the AS community. I am very sorry for what you experienced, but do know you are not to blame. Not for what he did to you or for any worry your have for someone else. Sadly, there are reasons for such a small report rate and we all do what we need to do to process and heal for ourselves. We are never responsible for the actions of manipulative and cruel people. I am glad that you have reached out tho. It is a huge step, one of many that I hope you share for us here at AS. Wishing you the best. Mary
  2. Glad to find this place

    Hi Jen, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the traumas you've experienced by your exs. It is never right for anyone to hurt you this way. Sometime it can take seeing another situation to be able to relate to your own. I know for years I didn't even think of myself as a victim/survivor...just someone who somehow made a mistake that I couldn't explain. So I do understand. It took me many years and finding this place to finally admit the truth. This is a safe place with understanding people who will support you without judgment or pressure. You are not alone. Take your time and look around. Wishing you the best on this journey of healing. Mary
  3. Hi!

    Hello ladyshiva, Welcome back to AS. I am very sorry that you have endured trauma and still struggle, due to this. I am glad tho that you remember that AS is a wonderfully supportive site. Tho you may meet many new people from when you first came to AS, they are truly understanding and kind. You are not alone. I wish you nothing but the best in your continuing journey. Mary
  4. Hello

    Hi Kay, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what brings you here, but this is a place where you will find tons of support. I agree that many times people we know really do not understand the struggles we face. You will not have issues here, as our members do understand. You are not alone. It was a big step to reach out, one of many steps forward that I wish for you on this healing journey. Mary
  5. Hi

    Hi N, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry you have reasons to be here, but you will find this a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. Take your time to look around and jump in when you feel ready. I wish you well on this journey of healing. Mary
  6. NervousNewbie

    Hi TeeJoe, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the abuses you've endure in your childhood. It is never right to be abused and traumatized, especially by the ones you should have trusted the most. It sounds like you managed the best you could, many of us disassociate at the most horrific moments. It is our mind trying to protect us from the wrongs being done and the pain being felt. You are not alone. You will find much support and understanding here in our little community. I am wishing you the very best as you walk this path of healing with us. Mary
  7. Good Morning, Good Yawning

    Hi Alley, Welcome to AS. I am sorry you have reason to be here, but I am also glad you found us. You will find AfterSilence a wonderful community with supportive and understanding members. You are not alone. Take your time and look around. Wishing you the best on this journey of healing. Mary
  8. Hi

    Hi Via, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but please know that you have found a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. I am glad that you have found us. Take your time and look around. You are not alone. I wish you the very best on this path we walk called healing. Mary
  9. Hi

    Hi kjh, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the traumas you've endured, but you have found a very supportive site. I want to assure you that your feelings of self-blame is sadly normal, but it is also untrue. Our minds tend to play games because trauma is very hard to process. I can honestly say that most, if not all of us, has at one time or another blamed ourselves. A person that hurts another like this...they are the ones to blame. I am sorry that you've also had more than one instance, but it doesn't make a single time your fault. It is fine not to post your name. Full names are even prohibited, so your instinct is right. As Poppy_ has mentioned, there are only a few forums that are public, so staying withing private forums gives you added protection. We also have a staff that watches over things, so do know this is not like some sites where anyone is free to come and go and interact with you, like some sites. Please take your time and look around the site, when you are comfortable, feel free to interact. I am wishing you the very best on this journey of healing. Mary
  10. Hi

    Hi D. An official warm welcome to you. I am very sorry you have reasons to be here, but AfterSilence is a wonderfully supportive and understanding site. You are not alone. Wishing you the best as you walk this journey we call healing. Mary
  11. Hi everyone :)

    Hi Turtle_Muffin, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what brings you here, but glad you have found us and have decided to join our community. Take your time to look around and jump in when you feel you are ready. Wishing you the best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  12. Hello

    Hi SilentAudacity, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am sorry for the trauma you've endured and the struggles you still face. I am very sorry there is a lack of support as walk your healing path. Many who have not experienced trauma have a hard time understanding. You will find understanding here, tho. Our members are understanding and kind. I do wish you the very best as you do journey down this path we call healing. Mary
  13. Hello

    Hi Anna, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma caused to you (and others) by perp1 and perp2. They were both wrong and what they did was not fair to you or others. It is very brave to look for justice and I am glad that you have banned together to do so. I hope he gets his just reward. You will find members of all ages here with traumas both recent and happening some time ago. You will find kindness, support and understanding here...which I can see you are going to fit right in with those qualities. Take your time to look around and I wish you the very best on this continuing journey we call healing. Mary
  14. Not a real newbie

    Hi vitamin, Welcome back to the site! I am sorry that that you experienced trauma and thought you might need to return. I am glad tho that you remembered that this is a supportive site and the members here, new and old, are understanding and kind. I've been here since 2015, but if we crossed paths please take no offense, my memory isn't that good to remember. LOL. I wish you the best as you continue your path in healing. Mary back!
  15. Hi everyone

    Hi Haribo, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry that you experienced trauma in your childhood. No child should and shame to those who hurt you. You will find tons of support here, as our members are truly understanding and kind. You are not alone in this. Take your time and look around. I wish you nothing but the best on this journey we call healing. Mary
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