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MeBeMary

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  1. Feeling Nervous.

    Hi mainemorri, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you've endured as a child. It was so wrong and unfair for anyone to hurt you. The struggles we face do seem to linger long after, which is also so unfair. I am glad you found AfterSilence tho. We have many understanding and kind member here who do understand your struggles. You are not alone. Take your time to look around and when you are ready feel free to start to interact some more. I wish you the very best on this journey of healing. Mary
  2. Hello I am new

    Hi Tirzah, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what happened to you nearly a year ago, it was wrong, as nobody has the right to hurt you so. Be assured tho that you will find tons of support from our understanding and kind members. You are not alone. You are truly correct in saying this is a step...it's a huge one. I was one who spent many years in denial and it only makes things very difficult. You have taken this huge step and I wish you many more on this journey of healing. Mary
  3. Hi, I've never done this before

    Hi scarlettpoppy, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the reasons you find yourself here, but do know you will find tons of support from our community. Our members are truly understanding and kind. It is a big step to reach out to others, so I acknowledge that for you. Take your time and look around the site. Interact when your are ready and comfortable. You are not alone. I wish you the very best as you walk your path of healing. Mary
  4. Hey

    Hi kmdiamond, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what you have been thru and the struggles you still face. It was not right you had to experience this. Our community is a safe and supportive site with members who understand what you are dealing with...which is not easy. I also find much of society does not understand or care to, which is so frustrating. I'm sorry you have dealt with this. Do know you are not alone here. Take your time to look around the site and jump in when you feel comfortable to do so. I will be sending you a PM with more information to help you navigate the site. I am glad that you have found us and wish you the very best on your journey of healing. Mary
  5. Hello Again

    Welcome back Hiddenstars, It has been awhile, hope things haven't been too bad for you. It is still a wonderfully supportive place to be, but we do keep growing, so you will probably see a lot of new faces around. I wish you the very best in everything. See you around the boards! Mary ...back!
  6. Nervous newbie

    Hi VintagePanda, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you've endured and the struggles you are facing, but you have found a very supportive site. The members here are truly the best. I think many of us have felt or do feel as you do. It is hard when that box doesn't stay nicely tucked away, but I guess the only way to start healing from trauma is to face it...in whatever way is right for you. Take your time to look around. I wish you the very best on this journey of healing. Mary
  7. The possibility of not being so alone.

    Hi Moorel, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you endured as a child. No one every deserved to be hurt, but sadly it doesn't stop it from happening. You will find our community a very supportive one with many understanding members. Take your time and look around and you will see what I mean. I wish you the best on this journey of healing. Mary
  8. Trying to begin

    Hi Peacefuldaydream, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what both you and your daughter have gone thru. It was so wrong and unfair to be put thru and still to be going thru these things with such an abuser. You will find this a very supportive site with many understanding members. I wish you the best as you journey down a safe and healing road for both you and your daughter. A brief side note...thank you for your service. Mary
  9. I'm new (at least as of yesterday)

    Hi Amsekhmet, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what happened to you and the struggles you face still. It is never right for someone to hurt you this way. I am glad you are already seeing what a wonderful community this is. Our members are truly understanding and kind and many can relate to your circumstances and/or your struggles. It's not easy going it alone and it is truly one of the best things about this site, we no longer feel alone. I am very glad that the site was recommended and you decided to join. I wish you all the best on your journey of healing. Mary
  10. A little nervous

    Hi Gemma, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the reasons you find yourself here, but you will find tons of support. Our members are truly understanding and kind. I think many of us has had that similar box, I know that I did. Sometimes it can only take one thing to trigger you and the box goes all topsy-turvey. Altho it would be nice if we could keep it tucked away, sometimes facing it is the only answer. I know that is difficult. You showed courage reaching out to others who relate and will accept you, validate you, and support you. It is one of many steps that I hope you will be able to take on this journey of healing. Mary
  11. I am new

    Hi LucyGoosy, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what you experienced, but you are not alone. You will find tons of support here at AS. You will find many survivors do not come forward and have those same mixed feelings. There is never an acceptable reason for someone to do this to you. Never. Shame is his. I am sorry you were recently triggered. It takes courage to reach out to others. We do understand and validate your experience. Take your time and look around. I wish you the very best on your journey of healing. Mary
  12. New here

    Hi faeryblossoms, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured, but you have found a very supportive site. Many of us can relate to your struggles and it's never too late to face the wrongs that were done to you. I was one of those people that just kinda suppressed it all, when I found this site. I was relieved and grateful to find such a supportive community. I hope you look around and come to feel the same way as I do. I wish you the very best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  13. Feeling Torn About Posting

    Hi nordic.panda, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for whatever it is you have gone thru, but just as @sarahoknow and @Hidden1 has mentioned, it is very common thought process of a survivor. Our natural instinct is to compare and minimize our trauma, but there is no right level of trauma for anyone. There is right and wrong...and all levels of abuse is wrong. This is a safe place for anyone struggling from the abuses and yearning for support and acceptance. You will receive this here. Take your time and look around and when you are comfortable, please don't be afraid to jump in. You are not alone. I wish you the very best on this journey of healing. Mary
  14. Greetings

    Hi LovelyE, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you've experienced, but please know that you are supported and validated here. What happened to you was wrong. I know it's hard to find people in real life to talk to and who understand. Please take your time and look around. Once you are comfortable, jump on in. I wish you the very best as you walk this path in healing. Mary
  15. *TW* First time posting...

    Hi riseaboveitall, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma that you have endured, but you will find this a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. I am sorry you feel alone, but I hope you will feel less so once you look around and start interacting. No rush tho, take the time you need to become comfortable. It takes courage to reach out to others and I am very glad you have. We acknowledge and validate your experience. I wish you the very best as you walk your path of healing. Mary
  16. Introduction

    Hi ABS55, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you've endured and the struggles you face. You have found a very supportive site tho, with many understanding and kind members. I find you very brave for speaking out, it was something I was never able to do. Society can be so ignorant when it comes to sexual trauma. Please know that you are validated here. What happened to you was not right and the only guilt and shame should be to the person who abused you. Unfortunately it can be difficult to dismiss these feelings, even if we are the innocent and the ones hurt. I encourage you to look around and when you are ready, jump in. You will find everyone is very nice. I wish you nothing but the best as you walk your path of healing. Mary
  17. Introduction

    Hi Strawberry, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry you have a reason to be here, but please know that you have found a very supportive site. Our members are understanding and kind. Saying hello is good enough for an introductory post, after you look around and become comfortable, you can respond or start your own posts. I am glad that you have found us and wish you the very best on your healing journey. Mary
  18. New here

    Hi Serenity, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you've endured, but you found a very supportive place. Our members are understanding and kind. It is not always easy to reach out, but I find it a big step for anyone willing to take it. So I am glad you have found us and that you decided to join our community. Take your time to look around, but when your ready, just hope in. I wish you the very best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  19. Hello everyone!

    I am glad you feel the support! It was the same way for me and many others when we first came here. It's a new, but wonderful experience. To tag, you can either use the quote button (click the + sign next to the word quote), as I have above, or to get the blue button tag @Zazka , use the @ sign followed by the person you want to tag. Many will autocomplete for you.
  20. Hello everyone!

    Hi Zazka, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the reason that brings you here, but you will find tons of support here. We also have members from all over and there won't be an judgment on how you speak (which I find easily understandable, btw). It takes great courage to reach out, but believe me, your nerves will settle easily with a little time. Take your time and look around. Wishing you the best on this healing journey. Mary
  21. Hi I am new here

    Hi Free4ever. Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured, but AS is a very supportive site. We have many understanding and kind members. It's amazing how the effects last much longer than we think they would and that the struggles don't just go away. I found it very helpful to find others who understand and to not feel as so much alone as I did before. I hope you find this here, too. Take your time and look around. I wish you the best as you navigate your path in healing. Mary
  22. Hello, I'm new

    Hi Warriorgirl, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the childhood trauma you've endured. It was not right or fair to be hurt in this way. The good news is that you have found a supportive site with many understanding member. I know for me, feeling not so alone has been a big help. You got some good advice already, if I had to add...sometimes there are some older posts pinned to the top of a forum. These were deemed to have special interest or information. Under pinned items, the most currently active post will be at the top. That is my little tidbit, hope it helps. I wish you the best on this healing journey. Mary
  23. Hello!

    Hi KeLLe, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for whatever has brought you here, but you will find much support here. Our members are understanding and kind. It takes courage to reach out, so I acknowledge this in you. Take your time and look around the site. You will see many others share your struggles. When you are comfortable, feel free to jump in. I wish you the very best on this journey of healing. Mary
  24. So happy to have found this forum!

    Hi PhoenixRoxanne, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for the trauma you've experienced, but you will find tons of support here. Our members are understanding and kind. I was not even aware that we were listed in such a book, but happy it is there for those like you to come across it. Take your time and look around. I wish you nothing but the best as you travel down your healing path. Mary
  25. Hello

    Hi prettybird, An official and warm welcome to you. I have commented on your other post, so I understand the fallout you mentioned. I hope you find answers to your questions and a greater understanding of your mother's situation so many years ago. Wishing you the very best. Mary
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