Capulet

Hi @Kaley and welcome to After Silence!! I'm so glad you're here, although I am sorry for the circumstances under which you have arrived; and that those events are very recent ones. I know how long it took for me to reach out, so I have a lot of admiration for you and for your strength. You've taken a big step in doing so; I do hope being here among others who understand will bring you peace, comfort and healing. Please try not to worry about the therapy issue. Maybe you and your past therapists just are not a good fit; this does not necessarily mean you have failed at anything - it just means perhaps it's time to search for someone else. I find that to ask if a therapist has experience working with trauma might make a difference. I wish you well with that - best of luck! Sending you my best wishes, Capulet

@Zoeloves - Hi there! I want you to know that I read your response many times. It means the whole entire world to me that you've said this. It made me feel as if I'm truly on the right track - with school, with my work here, with accomplishing long-term goals. Sometimes I wonder if I've gone off-course, but it was truly wonderful to sign in to see your kind words. For this, thank you from the bottom of my heart. It truly is very nice to hear these words from someone - especially since it's been a few months since this was posted. I'm so glad that you feel validated in that there is absolutely no justifiable reason for anyone to have harmed you. Too often, we dwell on the idea that there MUST be something we've done to deserve this - to somehow make the pain someone else has caused us 'acceptable.' It has taken more time than I care to admit to realize that there is no reason at all, and that bad behavior of those around us are a result of nothing we've done, but everything to do with THEM. Grateful for you, too. Thank you again. ❤️

Hi, healingstar!!! Welcome to the site. I'm hoping you recognize what a big step it was to say hello and introduce yourself! I know it can sometimes take a little time before we've built up the courage to post, but I do hope that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing. We support you. You aren't alone. Best wishes, Capulet

Stephenjames - if you would like, shoot me a PM and I'll see if I can edit it for you manually. Seems that some are experiencing difficulties editing their signatures lately. Not sure why this is, but if I can help, I'd certainly like to try. All the best! - Cap

Oh, the mind is for sure the most complex thing in the world. 😄 You just make sure that your truth stays your truth, regardless of what anyone else says - you're after all, the one who lived through it all!!!

Hi, Panda!!! Welcome to After Silence. I'm glad you're here, I'm sorry that terrible circumstances have driven you to our community but hopefully there is some comfort to be gained from it. We're all here to try and figure a few things out for ourselves, and in the process, I do think there is great strength in numbers. I hope you'll love it here. I can also relate to you in another way....I was in an abusive relationship that I didn't even realize was abusive until I left! I have two children (teenagers now) who share his genes, too, so I understand that, all too well. I wish you all the best in your healing journey! Best wishes, Capulet

Hi Franky, Welcome to After Silence!!! I'm sorry you found there to be a lack of support at the other site you've visited, but I do hope you will find us to be a very welcoming community. Just so you know, we have a forum that is JUST for sharing stories - it will automatically unlock and show up for you after you have reached 10 postings - they can be new boards or they can be replies to others. Once you have hit 10, though, you will be able to post in that forum - but please be advised that is where most of the content will be extremely triggering, so only visit if you're in a good frame of mind, ok? In the meantime, we have many other boards and topics you can browse. Feel free to explore and when you're ready, we'll be here to listen. Wishing you all the best, Capulet

Nope - we are for people in all stages of healing, we even have some members who might unfortunately still be in an abusive situation. As 8888 has said, we welcome all members who have been sexually abused or assaulted - regardless of where they may be in their healing processes. There are still some people I have not come out to, either. That is, of course, my choice....as is yours to decide who you would be comfortable sharing information with. You don't have to do that here, either, if you're not ready. That is probably what I like the most about this community - you can share only what you're comfortable with and you'll never be pressured by anyone to talk about things you don't. Have you browsed our Teens and Young Adults forums? I found that when I was new here, reading was a good way to familiarize myself with the site and with other members. Jump in wherever you are comfortable! The people here are truly fantastic and I'm sure you will love being here.

Hi Scars! Welcome to After Silence. You'll find there are lots of people who are in the same boat and that there is always someone willing to lend an ear. You're definitely not alone. I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators. You will soon hear from a Newbie Support Team member but in the meantime, please know that I am here if you have any questions! Again, welcome to the site. All the best, Cap

HI Kashjack, and welcome! I'm sorry to learn of all of your traumatic experiences! I'm glad you're here, though, and do hope that you'll be able to gain lots of support from being here. This is a great community!!! All the best, Cap