Capulet

Welcome to AS, @Rdy2try - it's okay to not know what to say right away - sometimes it takes a while to become comfortable. Take your time and look around - this is truly a wonderful community filled with many who understand. You're not alone! Take gentle care. I am hopeful that being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing. Best wishes, - Capulet

Absolutely, @Six_times_seven!!! I was married to a man who didn’t support healing - at least, his version was, ‘forget it and move on.’ We all know that’s not possible. I’m very glad I moved on from him - I will never be able to forget my trauma but I feel better about healing in general - it is a slow but sure process - especially when done with adequate support.

I am sure you will, hun!!! We are a constantly evolving species. Every few years, I’d say. Ya know, the strange thing about change - we sometimes cringe at the thought. Many of us (including myself) don’t like changes - especially drastic ones. I was not a very happy person back then, was just trying to maintain the facade for the sake of the people around me - ex-hubby, the kids…I found AS about a year before the separation/divorce and things would get much worse before they improved. I’m glad I embraced these changes! - Cap

@WannaMoveOn, Oh, my!!!!!! 🫢 How long it’s been!!! Yes, lots of changes. The husband went bye-bye in 2009 and the wife (I’m remarried now!) and I tied the knot last weekend. It definitely took a while to get here but I am in a good place. Thanks for the chuckle. And for letting me know you felt inspired!! - Cappy

Welcome to AS, @angel.heart! I am sorry for the circumstances that have led you to this community, but I am very glad you are here. I hope that being here brings you peace and healing!!! Wishing you all the best, - Cappy

Welcome to After Silence, Ziggy! I am sorry for the circumstances that have led you here, but hope being here among those who understand will bring you peace, comfort and healing. All the best, - Cap

Today marks 26 years since my rape. It's surreal that this much time has gone by while sometimes, it feels as if it were only yesterday. Thank you to those of you who reached out with hugs and words of support and encouragement today - as well as the days leading up to today. I loathe 10/4 with every fiber of my being but knowing you're all thinking of me does help. I just want you all to know that I am doing all right. The last few weeks have been cloudy, and I expect I will remain in a somewhat foggy state until mid-month, but at least the 'day' will be over, soon. I apologize for not

Hello @smiley_3 and welcome to AS!! I am sorry for the circumstances that have led you here - can relate as well. At any rate, I am glad to welcome you into the community - it is my hope that being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing. Best wishes, - Capulet

Hello @Janis15 and welcome to After Silence! I completely understand not wanting to use resources for fear that someone else may need them 'more,' but I hope you realize that you are worthy of support, as well. At any rate, I'm glad you are here. Although the circumstances are not ideal, it's always nice to welcome a new member into our community. I do hope you'll make some valuable connections here! My trauma was 25, soon to be 26 years ago. I know that while I've done a lot of work on myself, the wounds seem fresh at times, so I can understand where you are coming from. Many

Hi @blankfairy and welcome to After Silence! I agree that first post can be overwhelming but I think you nailed it. Thanks for telling us a little bit about yourself and of what has brought you here. I’m sorry to ‘meet’ you as a result of circumstance, but pleased to have the opportunity to connect with you. I think you will like our community - we come from all walks of life and support is unwavering. Take it all at your own pace! Again, welcome. I wish you all the best! Warmly, - Cap

Welcome, @Circlegirl - sending you support and positivity! I think you will like it here. Take your time looking around - it can be a bit intimidating at first but I think you'll find that the connections you make here are truly wonderful. All the best, - Cap

Welcome to After Silence, @Marabee!! Though I am sorry you have reason to be here, I am hopeful you will find lots of support here! Best wishes, - Capulet

I'm writing all of these down. Please keep 'em coming!

Hello, AS Community Members!!! Once our license renewed in a few days, we are going to begin to explore some new features for After Silence, so that we can continue to evolve as a place of healing and support for survivors all over the world. We'd like to know what kind of new features that you, our community members, would like to see us offer. Perhaps you've seen fun/interesting features on other survivor sites that you'd like to see us bring to AS. Or maybe you have some ideas that haven't been thought of before? We may also have existing features that can be tweaked or improve