Capulet

I agree with Mary, 1000%. Too often the normal response to trauma is to self-blame. I know it's a tricky mindset to navigate - for I have quite a bit of self-scapegoating experience, myself, but please believe me when I echo Mary's words and say no one is deserving of trauma - especially not at the hands of another. I am hopeful that being here and gaining support from others will help you to feel less alone and bring you comfort and healing. Looking forward to getting to know you and walking this path alongside you. Best wishes, - Capulet

Welcome to AS, @justwanttoheal!!

Hello, @Purpletulip, and welcome to After Silence!! I am sorry you have reason to be here, but am hopeful that being among others who understand will bring you peace, comfort and healing. Best wishes, - Capulet

Welcome to After Silence, @CupcakesAreGreat - I hear you loud and clear on the online platform being ideal vs. an in-person group. Though I wish there were more options for an in-person gathering once per week where I live, I must admit I do much better when there's anonymity and zero pressure. Take your time looking around and jump in whenever you are comfortable. Best wishes, Capulet

@jazz101 - thank you ❤️ I appreciate that. Sometimes it's hard to see all the progress we've made, but hearing it from others is a nice reminder. To heal is a long, grueling journey but I know you have it in you, and am rooting for you!! @behindthesehazeleyes - I know I wrote them, but those words still stick with me, too. I was there, I lived it, yet there's so MUCH that I really didn't process at the moment, and so much that I'd spent years tip-toeing around, just so I didn't have to deal with them in the moment. Unfortunately they don't disappear and it seems the only way to get th

Welcome, Sunshine! I'm pleased to see you here, though I wish it were under better circumstances. You are among many others who understand the struggles associated with healing from sexual trauma and you will make many connections here. You're not alone! Wishing you all the best, - Capulet

Good afternoon! If you are a new/recent registrant to After Silence, please note that we are experiencing some difficulty and glitches with the sending out/returning of validation emails. It is very important that we validate that your account has a working email attached to it before we can process your approval. If your account has not yet been approved, it is possible you have been affected by this glitch. This is not your fault - it's a software issue that likes to pop up every now and then. We are working on a fix, but in the meantime, we are aware that some of you have been

Welcome to AS, @Nicky242 - though circumstances are not ideal, it is nice to see you here. I understand completely that reluctance to jump in, especially if you were in a tricky frame of mind when you first joined. What matters is that you are here now, and you are supported and definitely not alone. Feel free to browse our many areas and post when and where you are comfortable. You should soon hear from a member of our Newbie Support Team with some helpful information - until then, I am just a holler away if you have any questions or concerns! Best wishes, Capulet

@Pink Sky - absolutely!!!! 😁 Thank you for pointing it out, too! Sometimes in order for a long-term difference to be made, we are needing feedback such as yours so that we can find ways to improve one’s experiences on the site. This is definitely something we could bring up to the developers to include with registrations in the future. ❤️

Welcome, @Pink Sky!! Although I am so sorry to hear of the circumstances that have led you to us, I am hopeful that the connection with other survivors who can relate to the struggles associated with healing will be helpful. I know it’s been a godsend for me! Please take your time looking around and feel free to jump in whenever you are comfortable! Best wishes to you, and congrats on taking this leap within your healing process!! Best, - Cap

Hello, @Pink Sky - we have actually had this question before and unfortunately, our software only offers the two options at registration. I know - in this day and age, there really, REALLY should be more flexibility when it comes to gender. I agree with you on that. Certainly something we can bring up at our next update but for the moment, that’s how it’s always been. Thank you for the article! If you wish to self-identify, there is a space on your profile that will show up underneath your username - I believe it says ‘rank?’ It will be a clear field where you may put a nickname, a