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Everything posted by Capulet

  1. Welcome, @WolfMoon, to the community! Looking forward to getting to know you. Best wishes, - Capulet
  2. Welcome, @Helianthus - I am sorry you have reason to be here, but am glad you are finally among those who understand and are ready to provide some support. I absolutely love sunflowers and sunsets, and so I adore your photo. Welcome to the community. Looking forward to getting to know you! - Cap
  3. Hello, @Faithish and welcome to After Silence. I, too, am very awkward at times. Socially awkward is an accurate assessment. 😉 Thankfully, online, I can be a little less awkward, knowing that there is still a level of anonymity. I also find it very difficult to open up to those I don't know very well (and even with those I DO know well!) but being here is a good way to start (or continue) your healing process by forming connections with people who can truly relate to sexual trauma. I'm very sorry that is what has brought you here, but hope that being here helps bring you some p
  4. Welcome to After Silence, @theydoexist. I'm so sorry to learn what has brought you here, but hope that being involved with our community will enable you to form connections and to experience peace, comfort and healing. Take gentle care of yourself. Best wishes, - Capulet
  5. Welcome, Green! I am so sorry to learn about what has brought you here. It is my sincerest hope that you will find yourself surrounded by kind, supportive people who can relate and that being here will provide some much-needed comfort. You'll soon hear from a member of the Newbie Support Team with helpful information on how to navigate AS, but until then, know I am just a holler away if you need anything. Best wishes, - Capulet
  6. Hello @Stephanief and welcome to After Silence!!! You will soon hear from a member of the Newbie Support Team with some helpful information on how to navigate the site. From what I can see, you're doing wonderfully already! I'm sorry to learn of what has brought you here and that you have had a bad experience following your Reiki session six months ago. I've never tried Reiki but was told that it can have powerful effects. Excellent job on taking steps to help yourself!! That's huge - I hope you are proud of yourself. Again - welcome. I am here if you have any questi
  7. Welcome to After Silence, @Polkadots and @Stephanief!!!! You'll both hear soon from a member of the Newbie Support Team. Until then, I'm happy to be the first one to say hello! 😉 I am very sorry you feel alone and misunderstood, @Polkadots - I can relate to that, as well. It's not an easy feeling to shake, especially when it comes to trauma. I do hope that being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing - you definitely are not alone, here. Many are in the same boat. Please feel free to browse and look around - I'm just a holler away if you need anything. Bes
  8. Hi Steve, Unfortunately, our software is not compatible with the old-style chat room. I remember it from back in the day, and it was very simple and easy to use. The chat client we used a couple years back worked but was not without glitches and problems - some members couldn't get in, our mods didn't have the needed controls, and we were paying WAY too much money for a service that never worked properly - so we had to cut them loose. Any alternative chat client would be extremely expensive to add on, and as is, our maintenance and server fees are becoming difficult to keep up with, fo
  9. It doesn't have to be Thanksgiving for me to be thankful every day to be a part of this community.  As I know today is a difficult day for many, I will just leave this here and send positivity, strength and safe hugs to you all.   ❤️ 

    1. MeBeMary
    2. mini.finch


      I am very thankful for this community, too. ❤️ 

    3. Doll6
  10. Welcome to After Silence, @strugglebus!!
  11. Welcome, @hummie-bird to After Silence!!! Best wishes on your healing process as well as your post-graduation plans. 😉 Best wishes, - Capulet
  12. Hello, @WhatsInAName and welcome to After Silence!! Wishing you peace, comfort and healing. Best wishes to you, - Capulet
  13. Welcome to AS, @fiendishflora - I'm glad you're here. It takes a lot of courage and guts to sign up for a community like this one and I applaud you for doing so! Although I understand the nerves, please be assured that you are not alone and you're supported. Hopefully, our amazing Newbie Support Team has been helpful with the providing of helpful links to different areas of the site. If you have any questions at all, I am also just a holler away. Best wishes to you, - Cap
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    Happy Saturday!  Remember, we have an extra hour tonight to practice self-care. ❤️ 

    1. Hope321


      I really like this reframe. Although I am now on Sunday, I am going to think how I can do that today. I think I will go for a walk with the lovely weather. Thanks for sharing!

    2. Capulet


      @Hope321 - that sounds amazing!!!  Enjoy your walk! ❤️ 

  15. Welcome, @Coben - I'm called Cap and I'm a survivor as well. It's perfectly okay to be nervous. Totally a normal feeling when joining a site like this one. I assure you, though, you will find tons of support here. You'll soon hear from a member of our Newbie Support Team with some helpful links and information on how to navigate AS. Until then, feel free to browse at your own pace. I am also just a holler away if you have any questions or concerns. Best wishes, Capulet
  16. Awww, shucks! 😉 I'm so sorry. I wish I knew what the problem was. The only other thing I can think of to suggest is trying to adjust the photo using a different browser. Some browsers do work better than others - which in itself is odd... Hoping you get this figured out, soon! ❤️ - Cap
  17. Thank you, friends. Feeling a little more human, now - but also more exhausted. There's been a change with my job and rather than dwell on the things I didn't like too much about these changes, I instead opted for the distraction route and took a running dive into a world of organizing, alphabetizing, pushing, filing, & shredding papers, faxing, printing, all of that (NOT) fun office stuff....and have been working FT hours for the last couple weeks. I can barely keep my eyes open after midnight on weekdays, which most of you already know is highly unusual for me. On one hand, thi
  18. If you visit your own profile, and under the cover photo drop-down, is there an option to 'reposition photo?' Let me know if that works at all? ❤️ - Cap
  19. I want to say that if it's refusing to save your preferred position, the photo might need cropping/resizing. I haven't changed my cover photo in quite a while but I'll see if it gives me the option to drag/move the image around so that the part you want visible STAYS visible. One sec!
  20. Capulet


    Hi Liv, and welcome to After Silence! I'm saddened to meet anyone under these circumstances, but there truly is great potential for healing when you are among those who understand. Wishing you peace and comfort, - Capulet
  21. Welcome to After Silence. @song_of_sky - I hope you find validation, comfort, and healing here. You are not alone. Best wishes! - Capulet
  22. Welcome to After Silence, @Remembering - I am sorry to 'meet you' under these circumstances but wish you comfort and healing. ❤️ Best wishes, Capulet
  23. @Bay, I'm so sorry to hear that some of our circumstances were similar. Knowing how much this experience has changed my life; it makes it both comforting and disheartening to hear that I am not alone in the feelings of self-blame and guilt. It's taken a long while (I'm 42 now) to cut myself a little bit of slack and to understand that at the time, I simply did what I felt was the best thing to do...surely this is the case for you as well. NONE of it is your fault...not what happened, not how you dealt with the aftermath of it, and certainly not the choice made by someone else to harm you.
  24. Welcome, @SchiHa, to After Silence. I'm sorry you found us under these circumstances, but I am glad you're here. Hoping that being connected with other survivors will bring you peace, comfort and healing. ❤️ I can relate a bit, I did not share my experience at 17 with my family. I still haven't, only my fiancee knows. My (grown) children know a little bit but not all details. I have remained a very private person (there's a story behind that, too) and really only talk about the in-depth stuff to those I trust. You have found a really great community filled with others who can un
  25. Welcome to After Silence, @SweetJade! Though the circumstances are not ideal, it's nice to see you here. I am hopeful that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing. ❤️ Best wishes, Capulet
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