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feralcat

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  1. @orangegiraffe I used to have the same issue, (I get your frustration!) but it works for me now. I wish I could remember the remedy… Could it be when I switched from Safari to DuckDuckGo and Chrome as my browsers…? Maybe someone else knows this answer….
  2. This is just a wording issue… but could we get rid of all the words “New” that show up when hit Forums… that are shown for Gathering place, Aftermath, etc. I find them confusing… and perhaps separate Public and Private areas… by putting all the Public areas under one heading… and maybe consider decreasing the number of areas that are available to nonmembers….
  3. Love your Winnie the Pooh!!! 💜

    1. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Thank you!!! :thanks: Gotta love Pooh Bear. ❤️ 

  4. I’m so proud of you for talking about this stuff… I’m sure it’s not easy. Most of us human beings want love, affection, understanding, acceptance… It’s complicated and messy when we try to look for those things in people who are abusive and manipulative. We know we’ll be disappointed and hurt again. I think if you search on the internet for TRAUMA BONDING you’ll get more understanding about why you’re doing what you’re doing…
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    @Poppy_ Is it possible that what you’re feeling is much less intense than what you’re used to feeling? I know you’ve had traumas, a terribly rejecting mother, and probably a lot of unhealthy attachments to people, as well as a lot of ups and downs in your life… You’ve been thru so much… had to deal with so much… You said that you don’t feel depressed now… I wonder if these new feelings could be part of a new, stable, less intense kind of life? Bc of all youve gone thru, a quieter life might seem kind of unfamiliar, uncomfortable, numb… I’ve been hoping and praying for you to have less depress
  6. Hi, how are you doing today? Did you have a good Thanksgiving?

  7. I didn’t know you, you were here at AS before me… but it’s obvious that you touched a lot of lives. I hope that somehow you know that your friends still miss you and love you. I hope that you will shine some of your light into their lives and continue to love them… I hope that you have peace. 🕊

     

  8. Thank you for your responses to my posts. I don't usually have the energy to respond to everyone unfortunately. I just recognized your name once or twice.

    1. feralcat

      feralcat

      No worries Wolfennights… I hope I can be helpful sometimes. I think you’re doing well with complicated, difficult stuff. You have such a good heart and so much strength 🌟💙

    2. wolfennights
  9. I know a lot of people here have looked up their abusers on Facebook etc… I’m guessing it’s a kind of curiosity thing maybe… But I know that you’re not the only one who has done this… and there’s nothing wrong with you for doing that… just try not to let it be a self-upsetting, self-punishing kind of thing.
  10. @Free2Fly You can use the online text/chat line. It’s like Chatzy, where you type and then they respond… I’ve used it probably a dozen times and always felt better afterwards… Theres often a short wait, like 5 mins or so, so you have to be patient. But I think it’s worth it. @forestmistheather I’ve found them to be really helpful… Especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed or having bad flashbacks, or it’s 2am and nobody else is around. I just thought it was a good resource for folks to know about…
  11. RAINN.org has two helplines for Survivors of sexual assault/abuse. One is a phone line which can be used by people in the US. The other is an online text/chat helpline available to anyone with internet access. These helplines are open 24/7 for safe, confidential conversations with trained understanding counselors. The RAINN.org website also has a lot of good information, as well as local resources for people around the world. Click on the links below: Help is available Speak with someone today National Sexual Assault Hotli
  12. Thinking of you and hoping you're OK? Missing you 💜 🖤 💙

    1. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      :throb:  :hug:  :throb:  

       

    2. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Ditto this. Sending you support and hugs. :hug:

  13. @WendyAlone and @Celia Thank you both for the ideas and feedback.
  14. Hello all wonderful Newbies, I just wanted to make sure that everyone knows about an excellent resource that has trained counselors and support helplines 24/7. Apparently a lot of the smaller local women’s centers/sexual abuse-assault centers have limited hours on weekends and holidays. If you’re in distress, please check out RAINN. https://www.rainn.org https://www.rainn.org/recovering-sexual-violence RAINN offers 24/7 safe, private, confidential help over the phone helpline (for US residents) and thru an online chat/text helpline for everyo
  15. That really stinks that you got turned down for intense trauma counseling. I think that we all do the best we can at the time of the trauma... it’s such a terribly difficult time... Have you talked to your mother and sister about the possibility of reporting your attacker? Will they support you? It sounds like there will be additional support available thru victims services and probably advocates too... But I think that the most important thing is to consider what would be best for you, and what would you like to do... And maybe afterwards you can consid
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