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    You don't have to be perfect to be loved.

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  1. Sometimes I hear people talk about creating beauty from pain. About how art, and music, and poetry are best when they come from a place of hurting because there’s something so beautiful about suffering. I think these people have never experienced pain for themselves. There is nothing beautiful about wanting to tear your own flesh apart. I think that’s why we do it in secret. In places we can hide the pain because the beautiful kind of pain is pain that is tolerable in the minds of other people. Pain that is relatable and not too dark because if you talk about wanting to kill yourself, you
  2. I just feel so alone. I'm so sad. 

    1. Finchy


      Sitting with you, Poppy. Sending you comfort. ❤️ 

    2. Doll6


      Here with you @Poppy_

    3. WannaMoveOn


      Sending my support ☀️

  3. @Eileendem - Hi! I have done EMDR with a couple different Ts as well as with a couple different events. There is a lot that goes into it and I do think it can be a difficult process, but it has seemed to work for me. I will say that the T I did it with first was not as effective, but I think that is because I did not trust her like I do my T now. Trust is VERY important if you are doing EMDR! During the sessions, it can get pretty intense, but the T should also have some grounding exercises handy to help bring levels down before you leave. The first time I did it, I did take the day off
  4. I wish I didn't exist. 

    1. Finchy


      Sitting with you and sending lots of safe hugs. We are glad you exist. ❤️ 

    2. Pink Sky

      Pink Sky

      Existence can be hard, but you're not alone. One day at a time. Sending safe hugs 💛

  5. Well, as of yesterday, I have officially made it one year without SHing. This is the longest I've ever gone since I started... about 14-15 years ago. I thought I would feel differently once I made it past the one year mark of sobriety but... I kind of don't. :( 

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    2. Doll6


      You should definitely feel proud!! You’ve done an amazing job to get where you are. Not SHing takes a lot of hard work! 

    3. Field8



    4. Pink Sky

      Pink Sky

      Well done @Poppy_ That's a brilliant milestone! It's ok to have mixed feelings, but make sure you take a minute to really feel that pride and celebrate the new coping skills you've developed to get you here. 💛 

  6. I shared some of my poetry in group therapy on Friday and I got a very positive response. Everyone seemed to be able to identify with what I wrote. It made me happy to share my art. 

  7. Today, I am consumed by thoughts. Thoughts that I can’t run from or escape. Thoughts that sit on my chest and make it nearly impossible for my lungs to fill with air. Thoughts that are like rain inside my head and it’s flooding and I can’t contain it and the floods are causing damage and it’s all out of my control. A natural disaster in my brain. My limbs feel like lead and my eyelids are heavy with worry. This is one of those days that I want to turn the world off and catch my breath. This is one of those days that I feel that life is moving too fast and I can’t catch up and it’s ju
  8. @Finchy - Thank you for your kind words. I have my next T appointment today so we will have round two of EMDR and I am nervous. I am going to take my journal in case she wants to read this entry because I wasn't able to articulate the words and say out loud what I had remembered. It's just so hard remembering this kind of stuff. Knowing that someone took advantage of me when I was so young. My niece is almost six and I cannot even fathom someone doing to her what was done to me. It almost makes it hit closer to home, you know? Anyway, I'm rambling, it's just nice to know someone is listening.
  9. TRIGGER WARNING FOR GRAPHIC DEPICTIONS OF SA. PLEASE BE CAUTIOUS IF READING AHEAD. EMDR is rough. At my last T session, K and I processed some SA trauma that took place when I was about 6-7 years old. Some of it, I was prepared for. I knew he tried to have sex with me in a closet. Some of you may even know that. If You want the story on that one, I have a blog titled “The Closet” where I delve into what I remembered from that event. I don’t remember all of the details… I don’t think he w— As I was writing that sentence, I remembered the part I wasn’t clear on. I knew he t
  10. I can pinpoint where this all started. I know when I became a construction worker and started on my first project of building a sky-high wall around my heart. I know when I decided that it was easier to just “be okay” than to try to get help or talk to someone. In some ways, I was right. If you asked me how I’ve been doing the last few weeks, I would tell you that I’ve been great. Life has been fun and exciting, and I don’t cry anymore, and I don’t feel like I need anyone. For the first time in my life, I am okay by myself. I’m not lonely. I don’t even really WANT to talk to anyone.
  11. Feels so good to be home from the hospital ♥️ Missed you all! 

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    2. MeBeMary


      Hope you are feeling better. :flowers:

    3. Finchy


      Welcome home, Poppy! I hope you're doing better. Sending you safe hugs and well wishes. ❤️ 

    4. Doll6


      Glad you are home again. Welcome back 

  12. I hope I don’t wake up tomorrow. 

    1. Free2Fly


      Safe hugs :hug: if ok?

      I'm sorry your suffering, sitting with you if ok?

    2. Finchy


      Sorry to contradict your feelings, Poppy, but I DO hope you wake up tomorrow. I hope that you wake up, and tomorrow is a good day, and that days get better for you...you deserve better days. You deserve love and kindness and support. Sending you tons of support and strength. :comfort:

    3. Field8


      I do hope you do my friend. I know things are shitty but they can only get better. Please take safe care of yourself.

  13. Poppy_


    Hey. It’s been a while. I think something is wrong. I don’t know what, exactly. I just feel so off. I feel disconnected from everything. I feel disconnected from my friends, from my family, from my therapist, from my feelings. I’ve been telling my therapist for weeks that I just feel so numb and empty and I don’t know why. I don’t know how to fix it. I’ve never had a hard time connecting with how I’m feeling. I’ve had issues identifying specific emotions, but I always knew I was feeling SOMETHING. I knew if it was positive or negative. But, now? I feel nothing. I get bad news – nothi
  14. Over Christmas, my mother told me that she thinks I have diabetes. Mind you, I'm overweight, but I don't think it's severe and I'm not obese. But I'm still the biggest person in my family. And my mom tells me all the time how much I need to lose weight. Makes me wonder if she would love me more if I were thinner. 

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    2. Finchy


      Oh gosh. That's awful. I'm sorry your mom has said such things to you, Poppy. That is really unkind of her. I can only hope that she loves you no matter your size, and wouldn't only love you if you were thinner. I'm sorry again.

    3. sweetfeather5


      That's horrible! And thin people can get diabetes too, so she's a bit dim. Sorry she said that to you.

    4. WannaMoveOn


      Weight and diabetes are not always related. She should not make such remarks like that. I have been getting rude comments from family members for my weight too over the years, starting when I was a child. I think neither you or me should be put through this. And at Christmas, the time of the year we should rejoice and have a good feast... 

      If your mother would love you more is you lost weight, SHE has a serious problem not you! This is not okay. Also, thinner does not always mean healthier. Sitting if ok?

  15. Can someone PM me to talk? I need some advice and I don't have anyone I can talk to. 

    1. Sunshine02


      Hey! I hope everything gets better. I am here for you :) 

    2. Free2Fly


      Hope you managed to find some helpful advice and that your doing well .

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