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The Destruction that is Me - a slam poem
feralcat commented on Poppy_'s blog entry in Blah, Blah, Blog
You’re an amazing writer @Poppy_… You express yourself so beautifully… I think writing/publishing a book of your poems is a great idea… Take good care of yourself. 💙 -
@ZiggyStardust Cool name, and welcome here… Unfortunately many of us survivors have experienced similar things… friends and/or family can’t understand what we’re going thru and can’t support us the way we need to be supported… They’re uncomfortable with our pain… and they may make us feel bad, like we’re too intensely upset or it’s taking too long for us to process the traumas… and so we end up feeling invalidated, alone, silenced… Please realize that none of this is your fault. The abuses and assaults are certainly not your fault. The only ones to blame are the individuals who
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@rebelliouslyhopeful Awesome name!
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People-Pleasing and Boundaries
feralcat commented on Capulet's blog entry in A Grain of Salt & A Pound of Chocolate
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Hello, fellow healers! Grateful to be here...
feralcat replied to Karma1122's topic in Public: Welcome!
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@orangegiraffe I used to have the same issue, (I get your frustration!) but it works for me now. I wish I could remember the remedy… Could it be when I switched from Safari to DuckDuckGo and Chrome as my browsers…? Maybe someone else knows this answer….
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This is just a wording issue… but could we get rid of all the words “New” that show up when hit Forums… that are shown for Gathering place, Aftermath, etc. I find them confusing… and perhaps separate Public and Private areas… by putting all the Public areas under one heading… and maybe consider decreasing the number of areas that are available to nonmembers….
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@Poppy_ Is it possible that what you’re feeling is much less intense than what you’re used to feeling? I know you’ve had traumas, a terribly rejecting mother, and probably a lot of unhealthy attachments to people, as well as a lot of ups and downs in your life… You’ve been thru so much… had to deal with so much… You said that you don’t feel depressed now… I wonder if these new feelings could be part of a new, stable, less intense kind of life? Bc of all youve gone thru, a quieter life might seem kind of unfamiliar, uncomfortable, numb… I’ve been hoping and praying for you to have less depress
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I didn’t know you, you were here at AS before me… but it’s obvious that you touched a lot of lives. I hope that somehow you know that your friends still miss you and love you. I hope that you will shine some of your light into their lives and continue to love them… I hope that you have peace. 🕊
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@Free2Fly You can use the online text/chat line. It’s like Chatzy, where you type and then they respond… I’ve used it probably a dozen times and always felt better afterwards… Theres often a short wait, like 5 mins or so, so you have to be patient. But I think it’s worth it. 🌟 @forestmistheather I’ve found them to be really helpful… Especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed or having bad flashbacks, or it’s 2am and nobody else is around. I just thought it was a good resource for folks to know about… 🌻
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RAINN.org has two helplines for Survivors of sexual assault/abuse. One is a phone line which can be used by people in the US. The other is an online text/chat helpline available to anyone with internet access. These helplines are open 24/7 for safe, confidential conversations with trained understanding counselors. The RAINN.org website also has a lot of good information, as well as local resources for people around the world. Click on the links below: Help is available Speak with someone today National Sexual Assault Hotli
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@WendyAlone and @Celia Thank you both for the ideas and feedback. 🦋
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Hello all wonderful Newbies, I just wanted to make sure that everyone knows about an excellent resource that has trained counselors and support helplines 24/7. Apparently a lot of the smaller local women’s centers/sexual abuse-assault centers have limited hours on weekends and holidays. If you’re in distress, please check out RAINN. https://www.rainn.org https://www.rainn.org/recovering-sexual-violence RAINN offers 24/7 safe, private, confidential help over the phone helpline (for US residents) and thru an online chat/text helpline for everyo
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That really stinks that you got turned down for intense trauma counseling. I think that we all do the best we can at the time of the trauma... it’s such a terribly difficult time... Have you talked to your mother and sister about the possibility of reporting your attacker? Will they support you? It sounds like there will be additional support available thru victims services and probably advocates too... But I think that the most important thing is to consider what would be best for you, and what would you like to do... And maybe afterwards you can consid
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Welcome back Dawn! I’m glad you remembered that there is lots of great support here for you. 💙
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@Little Bo-PeepB I'm sorry for the trauma you experienced. I also have intractable seizures, temporal lobe/complex partial with secondary generalization. I understand the frustration and fears associated with being vulnerable. I always get an aura/warning, but can't tell how much time I have before the seizure. I'm glad you found After Silence. 💚
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Please listen to your self and do what you need to do to take good care of yourself. That is the highest priority. 💜💜💜
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Enter catchy title here...because I'm drawing blanks.
feralcat commented on Capulet's blog entry in A Grain of Salt & A Pound of Chocolate
You rock Cap! Please keep spreading the word and we will each do the same... And Please consider teaching or public policy administration (hoping that's the right phrase for the folks who can formulate the rules and oversight for fixing the damn system), and All of us will work to raise our voices and relentlessly demand that the broken system be fixed! feralcat -
@Enigma87 I totally agree with Viceless -- this man abused his power. As kids we're taught to respect and obey authority figures like teachers. He took advantage of you. He coerced and pressured you into doing what he wanted. He didn't care that you said no. This man is a predator. I think it's important to separate the physical and emotional stuff. The human body is built to respond to sexual stimulation. He tried to use your physical responses to "prove" that meant that you emotionally wanted to have sex. Don't buy into that. You walked in the room saying "no". He ignored yo
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Not sure where to put this, an idea for a writing topic:
How do you evolve enough that when you hear the phrase "self care" you don't immediately roll your eyes, shake your head, and make the finger-down-the-throat vomit hand gestures?
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Hi Samantha,
Just checking in to see how you're doing today... I hope the day is going a little better for you.
Feel free to pm me any time. And take good care of yourself.
Hugs!
feralcat
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I have had a pretty decent day so far. I really am craving alcohol but I am trying so hard to push that from my mind !
Thank you for being a wonderful, caring person @feralcat 💜
sam 🖤
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Gotta love Pooh Bear. 
