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  1. Looking to chat and work thru things....

    Hi and welcome to AS! I hope you will find the support you are seeking and I wish you all the best in your healing.
  2. Hello, Everyone!

    Hi Fairlis, I am glad you found our community, welcome! I'm sorry for what brings you here but hope you will find lots of friendship and support here!
  3. Hey There

    Hi @musetta31, welcome back! I am glad you found us again and we are definitely here to support you as you take this big step in telling your family. I went through that a few years ago now and it was great to get support from people here. I do hope that you can avoid having your abuser at your wedding! And may I say congratulations on your engagement!!! Sending support and encouragement your way
  4. New...ish!

    Hi @limetree, and welcome back! I am glad you have found a therapist you like and feel like you are are in a place to get into that work, it can be difficult for sure, it's ok to take breaks too and wise to know when we are in the 'right place' for it or not. We are here to support and listen as you take the next steps or just to chat about birding or Star Trek!
  5. Another newbie

    Hi @Quill, welcome to AS! You are not alone in feeling things have been buried a long time. I hope you will find this a safe place to think about opening those boxes. Silence can be very isolating even if in some ways it feels and often is , safer. Being here can give us a sense that we are not alone, you will be believed and supported here i wish you the best as you continue to heal!
  6. Hello

    Hi @Healing4Life welcome to AS! I also denied and minimized for decades before starting to heal. I am glad you have a great T to support you in this work and I hope you also find this a supportive place!
  7. Feel So Hollow

    Hi @Hollow19, Welcome to AS! I am sorry you are feeling so lost and like you are just going through the motions. It is really sad that there are so many of us, but at least here we have each other, and a place where we can be heard, validated, believed and supported. Please take your time as you find your way around here and I wish you all the best in your healing, g
  8. New here

    Hello, and welcome to AS! I'm sorry for the trauma that brings you here, but glad you have found our supportive community. I felt a lot less alone after finding my way around here and meeting others who could understand, and I hope that you will too! I wish you the best as you continue to heal,
  9. Hi - I'm new to After Silence

    Hi @Belle_in_Australia, Welcome to AS! I am sorry you are feeling alone, I think many of us can relate. It can be difficult to reach out or talk about it in 'real life' and we don't always get the support we need and deserve. I have felt much less alone since coming here and I hope that you will too! It is a supportive place where you will be heard, believed and supported by other survivors who understand what it's like. Even though our stories are all different there are a lot of similarities in our feelings, struggles and paths to recovery. I wish you all the best on your path, g
  10. Hi and welcome to AS, although I`m sorry for the reasons you are here. I hope that unethical therapist had to face some consequences, it is a terrible betrayal indeed. Unethical behaviour of a therapist can cause a lot of suffering. I am glad you found someone better, and that you trust yourself! Feel free to have a look around and listen to others, there is no pressure to share. Thanks for cheering us on! g
  11. new here

    Hi B-bear, Welcome to AS! I am glad that your therapist suggested this forum, it is a supportive community where you will be validated and heard by people who understand what it`s like to live through this kind of trauma. Please take your time to have a look around, there is no pressure to share or open up right away, sometimes reading other posts can help and be validating too; when you are ready you can think about replying to posts or starting your own, as you like. The Newbie Support Team is also here to answer any questions you might have! I wish you the best in your healing, g
  12. Where to start

    Hi @Trihedral, Welcome to AS! I am sorry that your partner experienced trauma and for the effects it has on you and likely your relationship. I am glad you are here, and just by reading through the secondary forum and other threads you may find some of your questions answered or feelings validated. It is a good place to learn more about how to support your partner and get some advice . Survivor members do have access to the secondaries forum however. You can ask her not to look at the specific board for Secondaries, if you two can agree on something there that would be ideal but- we can't guarantee that it won't be seen by your partner. It can be tricky when you and your partner are on the same site. There are likely ways to work it out though, and there are other forums too. The only thing I can think of that might help, is if you post in the Secondaries forum, and describe your situation a bit, and ask if anyone would be willing to pm with you about your questions or your feelings, then someone might engage in supporting you by private message that no other members (except moderators) could see - but that is up to them. I hope this helps and I wish you the best in supporting your partner and coming to terms with your own feelings about her trauma and how it may affect your relationship.
  13. Hi

    Hi @SPNEmB Welcome to AS! I am sorry for the trauma that has brought you here but glad you found our supportive community. Thanks for letting us know a little about you, and I'm so happy for you that you could find work doing what you love in theatre. I also hope that you will soon believe truly that you are an amazing person and what happened was never your fault! Please take your time to find your way around here, and feel free to share as much or as little as you like as you are ready. I wish you all the best on your healing path, g
  14. New here

    Hi Engenbran, Welcome to AS, although I am sorry for what brings you here. There is no particular way things work here, you can read through and have a look around, and if you find posts that you relate to you can reply, or join a discussion thread, or make your own post about something you may be struggling with. Some days we might just ask for someone to 'sit with' us because we are feeling bad. There is no pressure to share, but you are welcome to share as much as you want, when or if you feel ready. I wish you the best as you recover, g
  15. Brand new!

    Hi @GlimGlamz, Welcome to AS! We look forward to growing with you too I don't think it's crazy at all that your trauma happened 12 years ago, trauma doesn't seem to follow a normal sense of time, and can keep looping through our neurons until it gets processed somehow. I am working on, and still affected by, things that happened when I was quite young, and I think you'll find you're not alone in coming to terms with it after some time has passed. I can pretty much guarantee that no one here is ever going to say 'aren't you over it yet?' , because we know that healing is not an easy thing or a straight path. I am glad you are able to have some therapy and hope that we can support you in healing, g