I was unfortunately a victim of R 6 years ago. I am 37, divorced mom of two. I do take solace in knowing the man is in jail and will be for a long time, but I don't think you can ever totally put it in the past. I do believe I have coped and recovered quite well, although it's taken 6 years to do so. I'm glad I found a site like this because I have never been very open about it. Only two people I have really talked about it in detail to is my sister and therapist. I never really like recovery group type settings in person because I always feel embarrassed. It's comforting knowing there's a forum with some anonymity to it compared to face to face. I hope to find some comfort here and also share advice to help others.