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silentg

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  1. Feeling Nervous.

    Hi @maxinemorri Welcome to AS, although I'm sorry for the trauma that has led you here. You have found a safe place to connect with other survivors who understand what its like and can validate and empathize. I am sad to hear that your relationship has been affected by your ptsd, that is unfortunately all too common as many partners struggle to understand. It is not easy to come to terms with years of abuse, it's not something you just 'get over' and forget, but I have come to believe and experience that some healing is possible. I hope that being here will help you feel less alone with your pain. Please feel free to take your time and have a look around here, post as much or as little as you like. There is no rush or obligation to share it's all up to you.
  2. Hey

    Hello @kmdiamond17 Welcome to AS! I am glad you have found our community. I relate a lot to what you said, about feeling like you have to keep my mouth shut while it's become a topic of everyday conversation - and unfortunately jokes too - and it's always in the media. I wish more people understood how much we are affected on a daily basis. I know that when I first came here I also cried whenever anyone responded to my posts. I still do sometimes! It does feel good to know you are not alone, that no one here will judge you and that we 'get it'. I am truly sorry for what you went through, and I understand how awful the flashbacks can be. I went through a period where I couldn't repress things anymore as well, and it was really difficult. Being here helped me and I hope it helps you too! I wish you the best in your recovery, g
  3. Hello Again

    Hi Hiddenstars, welcome back! I look forward to seeing you around the boards again
  4. Nervous newbie

    Hello @VintagePanda, Welcome to AS, I'm glad you reached out. I know many people here can relate to trying to deal with what happened many years afterwards, and the same thing led me here a few years ago too. I am glad that the people you told have been helpful, it's so important to have some support at you go through this. I also understand that sometimes we need support from others who really 'get it' and that is a wonderful thing about this place. It does help to have both kinds of support. Please take your time to find your way around here, take breaks and take care of yourself as needed. We are here to listen if you want to talk.
  5. The possibility of not being so alone.

    Hello @Moorel and welcome to AS, although I'm sorry for the trauma that brings you here. I am glad you found our site. I can appreciate your search for others who understand what it's like and to find a sense of community, I hope that you will find that here. As you say, it can be a long journey, and although we often feel alone, there is a sense here that others validate and support our feelings, help us find answers to questions and navigate through whatever this 'healing process' is supposed to be! Please take your time to find your way around here and post as much or as little as you like, there is no rush, and yes, it can be good self care to take breaks if needed too!
  6. Trying to begin

    @Peacefuldaydream Hello and welcome to AS! I am glad you found our site, although I'm sorry for what brought you to us. As a mother myself, I just can't imagine how stressful it would be to learn that my daughter was being groomed. I am sorry you are going through this and I wish you all the best with the custody fight and with working through all the abuse.
  7. I am new

    Hello @LucyGoosy Welcome to AS. I am sorry you endured that and have carried it with you for so long. I also was hurt a long time ago but it all came back recently. It is so difficult to deal with the feelings of shame but please know it was never your fault and he is the one who should feel ashamed, not you. I am glad you found our supportive community and I wish you all the best in your healing, g
  8. New

    Hello @Kenzi, Welcome to AS! I am sorry for what you endured and what led you here, but you have found a supportive place. I hope it helps you to feel less isolated as it can be difficult to find people who understand what we go through. I wish you the best as you find your way through this, g
  9. Hi, I’m new here.

    Hi Elizabeth, Welcome to AS - you have found a safe place to talk about what happened (if you want to ) and feel supported no matter what. I am sorry your stepfather molested you, he had no right to do that. I hope that you will find some coping tools and resources here as well to help you find your way through this. I wish you all the best in your recovery.
  10. Hello, I'm new

    Hi Warriorgirl1, and welcome to AS! I am sorry for the csa you endured. I know you will find support from understanding people here once you find your way around I am going to send you a pm with more information about the site and where to post. In this 'welcome' forum the posts are public, and a few others labeled public, and also the blogs are public. However most of the forums are private for members only. The newest posts often appear in the Gathering Place and Aftermath Forums, as they tend to be the most frequently used. If you navigate to the Home page, you will see all the forums listed, and then on the right hand column it says 'topics' and those are all the newest posts in each forum, so you can click directly to that post if you are interested in it. I hope this helps! Feel free to pm me or any member of the Newbie Support Team if you have any other questions! I wish you the best as you find your way around and settle in here, g
  11. Hi I am new here

    Hi @Free4ever, Welcome to AS! I am sorry for the trauma that led you here. I understand how isolating it can be trying to recover from this kind of trauma , and I hope you will feel less alone here, where people understand, validate and support each other. I am sorry to hear about the flashbacks, those can be so debilitating, along with everything else. I wish you the best as you work through this difficult stuff.
  12. Healing yourself is connected with healing others

    Hello and welcome, @Hugakeribear, I'm glad you found our community and I hope you find the support you are looking for here, we do our best to be validating and friendly. I like your quote. You are not alone in waiting a while to talk about it, sometimes we can't until we are in the right place in life. I wish you the best in your recovery
  13. Hi. I'm new.

    Hi @sybilscrush, Welcome to AS! It's always good to see supporters here, I think AS a good resource to learn about ways to help, as well probably reading through the threads in the secondary forum will give you a sense that you are also not alone with your own thoughts and feelings as you try to come to terms with supporting someone who has been through this kind of trauma. I noticed that you also posted your question in the secondary survivor forum, that's a good place for it and I'll try to give you some more feedback there. I wish you all the best and hope you find some helpful information here, g
  14. Hello

    Hello and welcome to AS! I am sorry you were abused by your cousin and your adoration was taken advantage of. I am glad you found our site and hope you will find it a supportive place that helps you sort things out. I am sorry too that seeing a counsellor may have adversely affected your job, that is so unfair. take care and best wishes on your healing path, g
  15. Hello

    Hi @PenguinDance, and welcome. I can understand why joining here makes it feel more real, it's a big deal to wrap your head around that. I preferred denial for a long time. I hope you will find this site a supportive place to heal, as I have, and I wish you the best in your healing.
  16. Hi and Thanks

    Hi @Angelbee, and welcome. I am sorry for the abuse you endured as a child, that should never happen to a kid. I hope you will find the support here helpful on your journey to recovery. Don't worry about being shy, you are not alone with that either; you can be yourself here and say as much or as little as you want or need to. We are listening.
  17. Hello!

    Hello Rach, Welcome to AS! I'm glad you found our site, and that your university has been offering supports, like Mary mentioned that doesn't always happen so I'm glad to hear it and hope things are starting to change for the better in that regard. I am truly sorry you were assaulted last April, and have reason to be here at all, and I hope that your recovery goes smoothly.
  18. Hello!

    Hi Len! Welcome to AS. I am glad you found our supportive community and I'm sorry for the trauma you have endured. It is helpful to know we are not alone and that others will hear you and understand.
  19. I Need Someone to Hear Me!

    Hi Dannie, Welcome to AS! I am sorry that things are so difficult right now, it can be frustrating when time doesn't seem to heal the wounds we carry, and I've learned that with trauma sometimes time isn't enough and we do need to be heard, and I know you will find supportive listeners here who understand what its' like. Joining this site is a big step and I wish you the best as you keep moving forward, g
  20. Greetings :)

    Hello @violet985, Welcome to the AS community! I am happy to hear that you have found a sense of hope and strength here already. I love the dandelion image!! It's very positive and hopeful (and that is very ok! ) I can see that you are a really thoughtful reflective person, and I think you will find this a safe, validating place to share and be heard. Please feel free to take your time and look around, there is no rush to 'tell all' right away. We are here to listen when you are ready. I'm sorry for the trauma that led you here, and I hope being here will help with your feelings of isolation. I wish you the best in your healing !
  21. New here - hi!

    Hi @rainbowvalley, welcome to AS!
  22. Hello -- introduction

    Hello @Aeryn Welcome to AS! I am glad your counsellor recommended a support group, it really can be helpful to talk to others who will hear, validate and understand what you are going through. I also enjoy some creative expression, I make collages to express things and have found it a really helpful part of my healing work. I love butterflies and I think it's great that you are helping the Monarchs. I hope you find what you are looking for here and look forward to seeing you around the boards, best wishes in your healing journey, g
  23. New and just barely accepting the truth

    Hello and welcome to AS! I am sorry that you are having such difficult painful memories, I can relate to the experience of everything coming to the surface many years later. Please be gentle with yourself during this time, it feels horrible right now but it can be part of the path to healing, for things have a way of needing to come out. I am glad you found support through a crisis line and I hope you will find lots of support and strength here as well. It makes sense that you are bouncing back and forth in feelings, trying to integrate traumatic memories of things you never should have had to experience is very emotionally difficult. Take your time here and feel free to share as much or as little as you choose, when you are ready. I wish you the best as you continue to heal, g
  24. Awi is back old member

    Welcome back @awi! I am glad you found your old account and have come back to find us. I am sorry you need to be here but I'm glad to hear that you feel you are putting your life together again. I hope you will meet new members and reconnect with some old friends. Like Cap says, AS is always changing, but there is always someone to listen and support you. I wish you the best as you continue in your healing path. g
  25. Seeking healing

    Hello @TXAngel78, Welcome to our community! I am so sorry your step dad abused you, you never deserved to be treated that way. Congratulations for being sober for 3 years, that is so difficult and brave, it sounds like you are working very hard to heal and you should be proud of your efforts! I'm glad you have a husband you trust and I hope that your relationship will be able to weather the journey you are now on. Please know we are here to listen and support you, but there is no rush to talk or share, you can take your time and have a look around here and get to know the place, and feel free to share as much or as little as you choose. I wish you the best in your healing and recovery, g
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