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abhaya

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  1. abhaya
    That makes sense. I guess for me it means, I am holding space for you, however you feel, in gentle company.
  2. abhaya
    Sometimes I've seen people simply say: "I don't have words right now, but I'm sitting with you, if wanted." That has been really meaningful to me when people say that.
  3. abhaya

    Holy crap!!!! I publicly confronted my abuser over facebook today!!! I didn't realize I had it in me!!!

     

    1. abhaya

      abhaya

      Here's the post about it:

       

       

    2. Finchy

      Finchy

      :clap::clap::clap::clap:

    3. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thank you @mini.finch! 💛💛💛

  4. abhaya

    Hello May. You bring flowers, and lovely weather, and one of my biggest traumaversaries. Deep breath. No wonder I’ve been having nightmares again. I hate this. 

    1. Finchy

      Finchy

      Sending you safe hugs and tons of support during this difficult time. ❤️ 

    2. WendyAlone

      WendyAlone

      Sending support. Comforting thoughts :hug:heading over to you.

    3. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thank you friends.  I really appreciate it.

  5. abhaya

    Spring term started and I'm teaching more, but it means I'm super dooper busy.  So please know that I love you all, and I'm thinking of you, and I'm okay (for the most part) and I may be only here ever so often until June-ish.

    1. Finchy

      Finchy

      Best wishes for the spring term. ❤️ Thank you for sharing your love with us. We're thinking of you, too!! *safe hugs*

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  7. abhaya

    getting increasingly frustrated with a work project.   🤬  Time for a break I guess.

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    2. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thanks @8888 and @mini.finch, yes!  I finally got it finished and posted late in the day yesterday.  Phew!

      Thanks for the encouragement and support!

    3. Finchy

      Finchy

      Congrats! I'm glad you got it finished!! 😄

    4. 8888

      8888

      So happy to hear that!

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  9. abhaya
    I also resonate strongly with your story, @AnnieO, and I'm also sending you a warm and friendly welcome. 🙂
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  12. abhaya

    Hi friends, sorry I disappeared for a few months, life got overwhelming,  but I am okay. I hope you are too. 

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    2. abhaya

      abhaya

      Hi! <blushing> thanks for the warm welcome back, I was feeling embarrassed to disappear like that. I am truly sorry if I hurt anybody’s feelings. 

    3. BrightSide

      BrightSide

      You never have to appologise AS is here as and when you need it. Obviously we missed you but you must always put your needs first 💜❤💛💚❤💙

    4. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thanks, @BrightSide, that means a lot. 💛

  13. abhaya

    I Got Help

    abhaya commented on Poppy_'s blog entry in Blah, Blah, Blog

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience, and I'm so glad it was supportive for you.
  14. abhaya

    Just tired

    abhaya commented on abhaya's blog entry in abhaya

    Thanks, @Capulet, that means a lot. I still check AS daily, even if I don’t have energy to post much.
  15. abhaya

    Today is the first anniversary of my father's death.  We had a difficult relationship at times, but he was a good person, and helped me become the person I am today. He was a firm believer in justice, the value of our shared humanity, and kindness --especially to children and animals. I miss him, and the world he believed in and tried to bring about.

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    2. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thanks, friends. 

    3. Enigma87

      Enigma87

      @abhayaI know this was a couple of days ago, but I wanted to make sure I expressed my condolences. :( I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you are faring well my friend ❤️❤️

    4. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thanks, everyone, for your kind words ❤️

  16. abhaya

    After all this time, just now starting to feel anger... not sure what to do with that.

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    2. abhaya

      abhaya

      Yeah, I really don’t have a roadmap here, and I can tell I am only scratching the surface right now. Thank you for sitting with me. 

    3. 8888

      8888

      I agree with Field8 that anger is scary.  I don't have any suggestions but would be happy to sit with you as well.  

    4. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thanks, @8888, I appreciate the support.  I wrote about it a little in the venting section... It's not constant, but it is really scary to start to feel it, like some sort of monster of the depths just below the surface... so far I'm okay, just not sure I want to process this.  

  17. abhaya

    Just thinking how glad I am that I've found this community, and sort of amazed what an impact it's had over the last few weeks.  Thanks, friends. 

    1. snmls

      snmls

      I'm glad to hear that. This really is a wonderful community. 

  18. abhaya

    Grateful to be with a safe and caring partner now, celebrating 6 years since our wedding day.  🙂

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    2. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thank you friends! 

    3. Enigma87

      Enigma87

      Happy Anniversary!! 🥳❤️

    4. abhaya

      abhaya

      Yay!  We ordered brunch delivery, watched a bunch of our favorite movies, reviewed our wedding photo album, and started imagining how we want to celebrate our tenth anniversary in a few years (travel overseas if that's possible by then).

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  21. abhaya

    I wrote about my dental appointment yesterday, I know it's a lot of writing, but I could use a little support if folks would be willing to comment on it, please?

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    2. abhaya

      abhaya

      I don't mean to complain... I think I just feel so vulnerable sharing these things sometimes, and I know I write a LOT when I do... but then there's a part of me remembers what it was like to be invisible and I start to wonder if I've done something wrong or offended people....  I know that's not real, and that people here are good... but then I just feel so dang clingy and needy to want responses... <shrug> Anyway, I get myself all tangled and I know it's not necessary, just old programming... Thanks for listening and responding.

    3. BrightSide

      BrightSide

      Your not complaining your reaching for support - a sign of fighting to heal. Im glad you are!

    4. abhaya

      abhaya

      Thanks for the reframe, I've gotten pretty in my head about this one.  That's really helpful.

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