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  1. New here

    Welcome Jenna!!
  2. New and looking for coping tips

    @ValkyriesRide Welcome to AS. I am sorry you have a reason to be here. The validation thing is sooo common. As Capulet said, even after loads of validation this seems to be sth a lot of us crave a lot. I know I do. All of what you said so far that you struggle with is very common. As for coping tips, there are many, depending on what you struggle with. People here are usually happy to help with any worries or questions someone may have. That is what this community is all about. Exchanging experiences, advise, support and just being there for each other when we can. For me, I find I cope best since I have at least one very supportive person in real life that I could tell and lean on, having a trauma-specialised T (any other T cannot really help as much imo), being part of AS and building friendships with some of the people here, which makes me feel less alone and, because I am that kind of person, reading lots of stuff on trauma and trauma recovery. Hope this helps a little and that you find lots of validation and support here.
  3. New here

    Welcome to AS, @Tryintosurvive. I am very sorry that you have a reason to seek out this community, but I am glad that your friend told you about this. This is a safe place, full of kind and supportive people. I hope that reading about the experience of other people who have been through trauma might help you feel less alone, and that if you have any questions that you feel you cannot ask or have answered in real life, you might find some answers here. You say your trauma happened only 13 days ago. That is such a short while ago, although I understand those days must all have felt like eternities. I can imagine it is all still very raw and confusing and scary. It's ok if you don't have any good days right now. This will take some time, but you will feel better one day, and you can heal from this. Just take your time. For now, just try to take care, surround yourself with people who are supportive and loving, and be gentle with yourself. Any questions just ask, there will be people here happy to answer your questions. You are not alone, reach out any time you feel comfortable to.
  4. Newcomer

    Welcome Meggers! I didn't talk about it for along time either, and like you internalised and self-blamed until I couldn't ignore it anymore due to my mental health. I guess sometimes it just takes a while for us to get to a place where we can deal with it. It is never too late to get started. You are not alone here, no matter what you choose to share or how you choose to use this space.
  5. New here - scared but ready

    Welcome to AS! I know how scary the first step of signing up and writing that first post is, but now that is behind you I hope you find that AS is a really safe, supportive place where you can talk about your trauma if you feel like it or just look around and feel less alone with your struggles.
  6. Newcomer, not sure if I belong

    @Emmloren Welcome to AS. I understand feeling alone, and being worried that you might not belong here. I was scared about that too when i first joined. Many of us go through a lot of self-doubt and denial after a traumatic event. I hope you feel less lonely here on AS and that you get the support you deserve.
  7. Thank you

    Welcome @Heart. I was also very scared of talking about this in real life and have found that 'talking' about it on here and writing it out first often helps me also open up about it with my T or partner. I hope you find a way of breaking your silence and wish you all the best for your healing journey.
  8. .

    @Striver I echo everything the others have said. You are welcome no matter how long ago your trauma happened and regardless of whether you are a man, woman or identify as neither. I hope you find some people here that you can relate to - I found that particularly helpful.
  9. Hi, a little scared and feel like an imposter

    @GentleDiplodocus Welcome!! You are definitely not an imposter and as you have guessed you are not alone in feeling the way you do. I understand the need to be validated and the relief you might feel when others confirm that your experience counts, and your pain is not insignificant in any way. Although nobody wants to have experienced what you have gone through, feeling like you are lying or exaggerating is often even worse. Especially because the pain is real, whatever way it expresses itself. I hope you find lots of validation and comfort here. You deserve it
  10. Hey y’all I’m new to this site.

    Welcome Rising-Phoenix. I like your username . I am sorry that you went through a recent trauma. I understand your feelings but it doesn't make you in any way unclean!! Nothing that anyone else does ever has a reflection on you, just on them! It is great that you are already reaching out to others here. Being around people who understand what it is like to go through sth like that can be really useful to feel less isolated or alone. I hope you find lots of comfort and support here!
  11. my first post

    You are definitely not alone. This is quite normal as far as I know. I continued meeting up and talking to some of the people who hurt me for a year or more - like you it took me a while to see things for what they were. I still find it hard to believe that what they did was wrong and that it wasn't my fault because they were people I knew and thought were good people. It is very confusing especially when there are emotions involved. I am glad you found AS and hope you find lots of comfort here.
  12. Flori Introduction

    @Flori Welcome to AS. Many of us got triggered by the #metoo movement in some way or other. I am sorry it has affected you, too, but I am glad you found AS. This is a wonderful place full of amazing people. It's never too late to start on this healing journey. I waited 10 years before I was ready to start too. Introducing yourself here is a huge step, not a silly little thing. It takes courage. Hope you find lots of support here.
  13. Hello Again

    Welcome back
  14. Hello

    Welcome to AS, Rosie! Hope you find lots of support here. I am sorry for what you have been through. You are not alone here.
  15. Hello again you lovely lot!!

    Welcome back, @Scared1. I am so happy that you have come so far in your recovery. It is very kind of you to want to give back to people here. Happy to have you and to help out with the tech stuff .
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