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Stephenjames

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About Stephenjames

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    Formerly 'Rapha'

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  • Gender
    Male
  • Location
    England
  • Interests
    Royal Air Force

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    Survivor

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  1. Today is my 10th anniversary of joining After Silence!

     

     

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    2. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      I'm glad you found the community. It's a good thing we all know what a safe and validating place this is...and it's nice to meet others who understand the struggles we go thru. 

      :loveas:

    3. snmls

      snmls

      Wow! I'm glad you are here with us StephenJames. We all appreciate you. 

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @Finchy @MeBeMary and @snmls for your kind words. Thank you also for having me here. 

  2. I'm being subjected to 'controlling behaviour'!

    1. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      Sitting with you, Stephenjames. 

      Nobody has the right to control anyone. Nobody has the right to control you.

      Stay strong and remember you are strong. 

      Sending all the positive vibes I have to you. Safe hugs. :hug: 

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @MeBeMary for sitting with me and for your kind words. 

      You are right, trying to control someone is just plain wrong!

      Thanks for the positive vibes, safe hugs to you too. 
       

  3. They tortured me... 😞

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @MeBeMary most appreciated. 🙂

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      My sympathies Stephenjames, hugs if ok. :hug:

    4. Stephenjames
  4. I was almost a human being until that corrupt Policeman put me in a public toilet...

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @WannaMoveOn for you support. I really hope that people do believe me, it really would mean the world. Wishing you well. 

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @Stephenjames I believe you and this community is for survivors not having to prove themselves. I know what it's like not being believed. Sending sunshine ☀️

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @WannaMoveOn for the lovely sunshine to brighten my day! Thank you also for reminding what this community stands for. I'm glad that After Silence exists it really is a life saver! Many thanks. 

  5. They tried to cover up their child abuse with child pornography...

  6. Sexual abuse is pure evil that ruins lives....

    1. Finchy

      Finchy

      It truly is. I'm sorry that you've had to suffer through it. :( 

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @mini.finch for your thoughtful reply. I wish no one had to suffer such things. 

  7. They brain-washed me! 

    1. behindthesehazeleyes

      behindthesehazeleyes

      Sending hugs if that’s ok. I believe you. Evil people do that…gaslight and brainwash people they want to use. I’m sorry this happened to you. Sending my love and light. L

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @behindthesehazeleyes for your kind words of support. Thanks also for the hugs, safe hugs to you too. They are evil people indeed. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. Wishing you well. 

  8. What they subjected me to was barbaric...

    1. Finchy

      Finchy

      It was indeed. :( I'm so sorry for what you went through. Sitting with you, if you'd like.

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @mini.finch for your very kind words. Thank you for sitting with me, much appreciated :) 

  9. I'm finding it difficult to process all the information from all the s*xual ab*se, wish people would leave me alone...

    1. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      I'm sorry for all this difficulty. Supporting you. Safe hugs, if ok. :console:

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks for your kind words of support @MeBeMary

      Safe hugs to you too, if ok 

  10. They ripped all my hair out to make me too ugly to ever have a girlfriend..

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @WannaMoveOn for your kind words of support. I guess having hair on a mans head isn't the be-all-and end-all in a healthy relationship. I was only 18, they did it to humiliate me. 

      My paranoid and mentally ill Sister was threatening to commit suicide if I ever got a girlfriend. My Policeman Father and his drinking friends set me up. I find it all very distressing to say the least. 

      I wish you well with your boyfriend. Many thanks once again. 

      Stephenjames. 

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      Ripping hair our counts as physical abuse in my country. 

      If this affected your hair growth, I understand it must be a painful reminder, but you can meet a loving person no matter that. When we truly love someone, we see the beauty in the person inside and out. 

      How nice of you to wish me luck! :) Btw, wrote wrong, he is in his upper 20´s 😄 Almost 30. 

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Hi @WannaMoveOn

      I didn't realise what they were doing counted as physical abuse at the time. It was done by the Police, so I didn't really have anyone to ask for help. When I went to the health service, they laughed in my face. 

      I will have to try and seek legal advise, maybe there is something that can be done about these corrupt Policeman. 

      They turned me into a basket case when I was 16-18. I really did want to get married and have children but I fear I am over the hill these days. I find it very upsetting to think of what they did to me for fun. 

      I wish you and your boyfriend a very happy future together. 

      Many thanks for all your kind help! 

      Stephenjames. 

  11. I was only 18 years old! I had my entire life ahead of me! :( 

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Very kind of you @WannaMoveOn most appreciated. 

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      Please reach out to this community whenever. I hope you´re safe. 

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @WannaMoveOn very kind of you. 

  12. Hi @AKB Many thanks for the heads up regarding the chat room, shame that it no longer exists. I am curious, what kind of chat room software is available? Sorry if I was jumping the gun and speaking out of turn but the old chat room really was a great source of support. Many thanks for your kind words of support. Wishing you well, Steve.
  13. I might be speaking out of place or being a little inappropriate but I really wish it were possible to bring back the old chat room. The one we had recently didn't really seem to make sense or really work which was a shame. I for one made so many good friends and met lots of new people and found such support in the old chat room when I first came here back in 2013. It's such a shame the way things worked out for the old style chat room which I know is no ones fault. Really wish it were possible through support, feedback and donations that maybe some day we could have a working chat
  14. They are trying to make me believe that s*xual ab*se is legal! ☹️

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @Field8 & @mini.finch for your kind words in reply to status update. They set up all their s*xual ab*se scams to make sure that I never have children which makes it even worse. 

    3. Field8

      Field8

      I understand. Not having children was taken away from me but in a different way. Sitting with you dear friend.

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Hi @Field8 thank you for taking the time to reply to my status update. Sorry to hear of your pain and upset of having the chance to have children taken away from you, I know how hard and upsetting that is. Wishing you well, take care. 

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