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Stephenjames

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About Stephenjames

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    Formerly 'Rapha'

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    Male
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    England
  • Interests
    Royal Air Force

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    Survivor

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  1. My Psychotic Sister ripped all my hair out then tried to have me killed... 

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    2. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      Hey Stephen James, how are you holding up these days?

    3. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Hiya WannaMoveOn, apologies for the delay in my reply. I haven't been well for quite some time. 

      How are you keeping? 

    4. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      I am good Stephen James, about to turn in for the night. How are you

  2. Can anyone explain to me what a 'trigger' is? 

    1. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      Hello James! 

      So a trigger is something that makes one associate or get flashback to an unpleasant memory or feeling. For example, let's say you'd been bullied in school. Then you read a text about bullies in school, and you start to get feelings from that time or instant memories. 

      Hence, trigger warnings are to make sensitive readers aware of what is ahead, so they can prepare themselves or avoid that specific content if preferred. 

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Hiya @WannaMoveOn

      Apologies for the delay in my reply. Many thanks for replying to my post. 

      Thanks for explaining to me what a 'trigger' is. 

      I have been working on triggers with a new Psychological Therapist who works for the NHS via the local Mental Health Team. She explains it the same way as you do although I was asking her what happens to the brain chemistry with a trigger. 

      I had a terrible incident on the morning of my 23rd birthday where a 'offender' triggered me on purpose which caused something to happen to my brain that I just can't explain and for 24 years have had Doctors unable to explain to me or offer me any treatment that actually worked or made a difference. 

      I guess what I am trying to ask is once someone has been triggered, how do they 'un-trigger' themselves? If that makes any sense to you? 

      Thanks once again for explaining what triggers are, most appreciated. 

       

       

       

  3. I told my Psychological therapist today that I tried to scream out that night when I was 17. Made me almost feel like a human being again. 

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    2. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      I've heard about those techniques. You get to be angry and furious even afterward, even just for yourself. I believe solid emotions help us progress. 

    3. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @Finchy for you kind words of support. One step at a time in recovery I guess. Just wish I had of screamed my head off that night when I was 17. 

      @WannaMoveOn, its early days for me. Mostly its just CBT and talking therapy. Just wished I had of used that 'Primal Scream' technique that night when I was 17, could have saved my own life and my mental health. 

    4. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      There are many things I wish I knew before and earlier in the process. You're discovering them now, which can make you compensate for your silenced child you. You are claiming your voice. 

  4. The GP registrar said 'have a go at the diseased turd and your hands will clear up!'

  5. I was only 18 years old! I had my entire life ahead of me!...

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    2. feralcat

      feralcat

      It’s terrible what happened to you… The memories must hurt a lot…

      Im glad that you come here to AS to talk… We care about you. We’re on your side… Sending you peaceful energy and friendship…

      Please take good care of yourself Stephen…

      🌻

    3. orangegiraffe

      orangegiraffe

      I'm so sorry @Stephenjames. Sending lots of support 🧡

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many grateful thanks @WannaMoveOn @Pink Sky @Finchy @broken_but_trying @feralcat and @orangegiraffe for you very kind words of support. 

      Very sorry @broken_but_trying for what happened to you age 17. Such a waste of life to be treated like that at such a young age. Lives are ruined my thoughtless people acts of depravity. 

      Wishing you all well  

       

  6. Today is my 10th anniversary of joining After Silence!

     

     

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    2. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      I'm glad you found the community. It's a good thing we all know what a safe and validating place this is...and it's nice to meet others who understand the struggles we go thru. 

      :loveas:

    3. snmls

      snmls

      Wow! I'm glad you are here with us StephenJames. We all appreciate you. 

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @Finchy @MeBeMary and @snmls for your kind words. Thank you also for having me here. 

  7. I'm being subjected to 'controlling behaviour'!

    1. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      Sitting with you, Stephenjames. 

      Nobody has the right to control anyone. Nobody has the right to control you.

      Stay strong and remember you are strong. 

      Sending all the positive vibes I have to you. Safe hugs. :hug: 

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @MeBeMary for sitting with me and for your kind words. 

      You are right, trying to control someone is just plain wrong!

      Thanks for the positive vibes, safe hugs to you too. 
       

  8. They tortured me... 😞

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @MeBeMary most appreciated. 🙂

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      My sympathies Stephenjames, hugs if ok. :hug:

    4. Stephenjames
  9. I was almost a human being until that corrupt Policeman put me in a public toilet...

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    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @WannaMoveOn for you support. I really hope that people do believe me, it really would mean the world. Wishing you well. 

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @Stephenjames I believe you and this community is for survivors not having to prove themselves. I know what it's like not being believed. Sending sunshine ☀️

    4. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @WannaMoveOn for the lovely sunshine to brighten my day! Thank you also for reminding what this community stands for. I'm glad that After Silence exists it really is a life saver! Many thanks. 

  10. They tried to cover up their child abuse with child pornography...

  11. Sexual abuse is pure evil that ruins lives....

    1. Finchy

      Finchy

      It truly is. I'm sorry that you've had to suffer through it. :( 

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Thank you @mini.finch for your thoughtful reply. I wish no one had to suffer such things. 

  12. They brain-washed me! 

    1. behindthesehazeleyes

      behindthesehazeleyes

      Sending hugs if that’s ok. I believe you. Evil people do that…gaslight and brainwash people they want to use. I’m sorry this happened to you. Sending my love and light. L

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @behindthesehazeleyes for your kind words of support. Thanks also for the hugs, safe hugs to you too. They are evil people indeed. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. Wishing you well. 

  13. What they subjected me to was barbaric...

    1. Finchy

      Finchy

      It was indeed. :( I'm so sorry for what you went through. Sitting with you, if you'd like.

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks @mini.finch for your very kind words. Thank you for sitting with me, much appreciated :) 

  14. I'm finding it difficult to process all the information from all the s*xual ab*se, wish people would leave me alone...

    1. MeBeMary

      MeBeMary

      I'm sorry for all this difficulty. Supporting you. Safe hugs, if ok. :console:

    2. Stephenjames

      Stephenjames

      Many thanks for your kind words of support @MeBeMary

      Safe hugs to you too, if ok 

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