Ian37

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About Ian37

  • Birthday March 26

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  1. Hi Ian,

     

    It would really help me if you could give me advice on something. I understand if this is not possible but I would really appreciate it. I hope to hear from you.

  2. Sorry for what brought you in the first place. I do hope that you find what you are looking for here.
  3. Karen, welcome to an amazing site! Though, I am very sorry for what brought you here. I am recovering from child trauma as well and may be able to relate in general. It is sad that the worst of all this tends to come months and years even after the actual abuse. It makes the whole cycle of chaos rather hard to navigate. It is the end goal which tends to keep us going. You will find the kind souls on here to be very helpful and committed to your healing process. Just reaching out like this shows a great deal of courage and strength. Talking about it all can be rather challenging. That does not make it any less important. There is a sense of comfort within unity.
  4. Welcome, Created! It takes a lot of courage and strength to reach out. The journey can indeed be a lengthy one. Still, there always needs to be a start. This is something that no one can really do alone and you are not weak at all reaching out. It's hard to find that balance in between our heart and mind. Just one part of what makes this all so difficult. No need to rush at all. You'll never take a more important journey. My sincere hope is that you will find a lot of healing and immense help here.
  5. Greetings! It takes a lot of courage just to reach out when having gone through a lot. This truly is a very supportive site filled with many members who will be able to in general at least relate to some of what you've gone and are still going through. I truly hope that you find some healing and help here.
  6. Greetings and welcome as well. Opening up about things like this is not ever easy. All of it is hard more often than not. That is why we need to try being gentle with our own selves and taking it all one step at a time. Healing is not something which comes with a blueprint and kind of ends up being trial and error. As is true with many things in life. Buried secrets are best when having the opportunity to come out. Still, you don't want to force all out at once maybe and then end up being completely overwhelmed. Just have to monitor things is all and what may be good one moment can change the next. Talking is a good thing though and you are showing such strength simply in reaching out. I hope that this amazing site helps you during your journey of healing. You will find tons of support here.
  7. Just reaching out at all is honestly a huge step and one which takes a tremendous amount of strength. Talking is not always easy. However, perhaps some slight comfort can be had knowing you are not alone and that others will be able to relate even if in general. Take your time with everything and simply do what feels best. This may even change quite a lot to be honest. My sincere hope is that you find some healing and immense support here.
  8. Hello, back! This truly is a tremendous asset and it is so nice to have you back. It sounds like you are possibly doing okay or at least just a little better. Change can definitely be a good thing! I look forward to hopefully interacting with you and seeing your thoughts around the boards.
  9. Twin, welcome! It is sort of common to be nervous since many new things bring that sense of apprehension. It is kind of like the unknown. Change can be hard to come by. I think you will find that this is a supportive site since many of us will be able to in general at least relate to some of what you may be going through. That does not mean he doesn't care. There is just a sense of unity that being in a place like this can bring is all. Reaching out has already taken a lot of strength!
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    Welcome, Sarah! Abusers have this way of making us feel both small and useless. It's all just a part of the manipulation. Falling into patterns in which we feel like a failure can be quite the challenge to overcome. Talking can be a really good start.
  11. Hi

    Silent, welcome back! Sorry to hear about what brought you here though. It is great that you work with children and can appreciate that very much being a special education educator on this end who specializes working with at-risk students. It sounds like you work with those who truly need that guidance and support. You definitely deserve the same in return and I hope that you find some positive here.
  12. Beach, I think that the last I'd checked they had been closed down and the administrators were trying to find a way to open them back up. I think there are some possible solutions in the works. There is a thread on here which started after they closed which has sort of been like a place to chat. It's just more of a message exchange than anything in real time.
  13. Welcome, Bizzy! There always needs to be a start and you have found an amazing place. Some of the worst stuff tends to confront us months and years after the actual trauma so you are definitely not alone in that. There is definitely possible strength that comes from a general sense of unity.
  14. Hi, Em. You can definitely be yourself here. Sometimes, the most is said with few words. There are many caring souls around these parts who genuinely will want to help. Take your time to get more comfortable and simply do and say what feels right.
  15. Allison Jo, anything that is new to us can tend to be sort of scary. It is much more comfortable and safe doing what we are used to. That does not mean it is never good to branch a little out of our comfort zone even still so long as the definitive reward trumps any possible risk. I am thinking you will continue finding this to be a great help within your healing. There are so many sensitive and sweet souls on here who will truly be able to generally relate to some of what you may be feeling and thinking in nothing other than a genuine way. My hope is that through some talking, lots of listening will make this a safe place for you to turn.