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  1. Hi, Madeline. I am so sorry to hear about your recent relationship. Emotional abuse can be just as bad and hard. Words can hurt just as much and last perhaps at times within someone even longer. You are brave and strong leaving the situation that was causing what seems like prolonged negative effects. It is not always easy changing what may be used to. That does not mean that change isn't for the best. There truly is so much to try figuring out and there's never really a general blueprint. That can make it seem even more overwhelming. Please be assured that you have found a community of gentle souls who in general may be able to relate and understand. My hope is that this brings you some sense of comfort and peace during this trying time. ☘️
  2. Hi, Camila! This is definitely a place where you can feel free to explore as best for you. Please know that the mixed feelings in general are rather normal. It is part of what makes finding any sense so hard. There is no official blueprint to follow. But perhaps there is a freedom with that as well. I tried to bury it all also by running all the time. What is meant of coming out tends to surface eventually. It's also perhaps normal to have things come up later on. Which makes the now even more challenging. Please know that you have taken an important step in reaching out. My sincere hope is that you find some solace here within general understanding. ☘️
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    Rachie, please know that these feelings you speak of can come at the most inopportune times. That makes it harder perhaps to deal with or make sense of anything at all. I am so sorry to hear about the current tensions. Talking definitely can help. Please know that you have found a helpful site with souls who may be able to relate even if only in general. Maybe, this will make you feel just a little less alone during these trying times. ☘️
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      For me trauma therapy was the most helpful.  If you are unable to go to therapy I would recommend trying to get out your story in a journal so it no longer is held inside of you as much.  You can even share some or all of it here if you are comfortable.  

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      8888, that is really interesting. I am actually writing a semi-autobiographical movie script that does sort of get my story out. There is intense hypnosis within it. Working on it makes me feel better in ways. Yet also reminds me of quite a bit of pain as well. 


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      That's cool you are writing a movie script.  I think it is likely it will keep reminding you of the pain at first but maybe in time it will get better.  

  5. Lily, you will likely find that this is a group who can provide you with some interesting insight. That is because so many may be able to relate even if only in general. It can be daunting I think doing something new. Yet there also always needs to also be that first step. You can share as and when you are ready and still find that desired support. My sincere hope is that you find some positive here.
  6. Welcome, Jaclyn! You have found a genuinely good group of people to help you within your journey. It seems that there really is so much to think about and things can get overwhelming at times. Just know that you may not be all alone in what you are feeling and thinking.
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    Welcome, Nichole! You really have found a very calming and comforting place. Some of this really can be trial and error at times. What totally works for one may not do anything at all for another. My hope is that you take the time exploring everything the site has to offer and find some sincere solace within your own journey.
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    Hi, Azika. There really is no 'right' way with any of this. My hope is that you will find some comfort here as well.
  9. Welcome to a very friendly and incredibly supportive community, Fairlis. It is so hard when going through traumas at such an early age. I'm a fellow survivor of this as well. There always needs to be a start all the same as we try to find some comfort and healing. Please take your time to explore all the site has to offer.
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    Jodi, experiencing extreme trauma early in life cannot help but affect us later on. It can make one feel not worthy of anything at all. Yet, there is still so much out there to embrace. Having a caring community like this can help perhaps make you feel just a little less alone.
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    Welcome, Liv Christine! It sounds like you have a supportive therapist. Talking about things can be a positive step along the way. Especially when those listening happen to care and also may relate.
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    Welcome, Em! I know that this can all seem overwhelming at times. There still always needs to be a start and you have truly found a wonderful source for help.
  13. Cat Mom. this is a site where so many will get you even if only in general. There is so very much to process that finding where to jump in can make one quite anxious. The hardest part though is taking that initial step. Which you seem to have now done.
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    Welcome, Brown Deer! Opening up can be quite the challenge when we have been closed off for so long. It can be all about trial and error at times. It's maybe all about finding those sincere souls out there who make us feel even just a little less alone. You will find many of those around these parts.
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    Kristen Nicole, it sucks that some of the worst comes months and years after the actual abuse. Please know you are not alone in this. Some on here may be able to get it even if only in general. Trust is not something to be freely exchanged. It takes time to build with someone else. Even more so when one has experienced it being ripped away. No need to rush anything at all. Though there is always immediate help and support available here.
  16. Welcome, D She! There always needs to be a start. A sincere and warm place like this can truly be that right beginning.
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    Hi, Kerri J! You will find many here who do get how you're feeling even if only in general. That will hopefully provide you some comfort at least. Not to mention more calm as well while you start your journey toward hopeful healing.
  18. Welcome, Victoria K! All of this can be such a challenge and we are glad to have you here with us. You need not struggle alone all the time. This is a place to find both complete comfort and sincere support. Take your time to explore all that the boards have to offer.
  19. Hi, Curious_george! Sometimes, we say the most with very little. You will definitely find some of that support you're seeking here. There are many sincere souls around these parts who will try helping you feel at least a little less alone.
  20. Hi, Belle in Australia! It can truly feel like we are isolated and lost at times. No one will fully get all we feel and think. There can be sincere strength though in general unity. I hope you find some comfort within this safe space going forward.
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    Welcome, Howie! May the sincere support you find both on and outside of here make you feel some sense of comfort going forward.
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    Welcome, Ella Fawn! You have found an awesome group here that hopefully will give some sense of unity within your journey.
  23. Nails on a Chalkboard, I am so sorry to see what happened to you. Please try to fully accept that any kind of assault is still unacceptable since it is a violation of personal space. I totally get you feeling that there is no way out right now. All of this is still rather recent at this point. How horrible and insulting really for 'family and friends' to be suggesting you just get over something like this. Shame on them for even saying that. No one will ever fully get what happened. Though there also can be some strength in general unity through places like this where others really do care and will get a lot of it. I wish I'd be able to say that it will be all better soon. Just have to take it one moment at a time sometimes is all. I do feel that getting things out may be important getting forward and it's taken a lot of courage coming on here and telling your story.
  24. Welcome back, Me89! I hope this finds you hanging in there.
  25. Bam, first of all, welcome to a very helpful and what will hopefully prove to be a healing site. Please know that the hardest days at times tend to come after the actual abuse. This on top of having to experience the normal stresses of life. It is a further challenge being responsible for the lives of children when dealing with any let alone all of this. We just have to do the best possible sometimes. No one else will fully ever 'get it'. There is still strength possible through general unity. Talking about things may prove to be helpful even if all the answers do not come right away. Being here will hopefully prove to be a positive and proactive start.
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