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Hi WolfFromAshes. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for all you've been thru and the struggles you still face. It was not fair or deserved. You have found a very supportive community tho. You will find much understanding and kindness here. I am glad to know that you are starting to shed the shame. It should never have been yours to begin with. Abusers who do such things should feel that shame, but sadly the hardly ever do. You did nothing and could do nothing that warranted such pain. Feel free to look around and interact where you feel comfortable. We are glad you foun

Hi Siobhan, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for all the abuses you suffered thru. It wasn't deserved, fair, or right. Nobody has the right to hurt you. Good news is you have found a supportive community with many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. Healing can be long and winding road, it is true. Struggles do seem to pop up at moments when you think you are fine. All we can hope for is to work at making the struggles less impactful and having more good days than bad. It sounds so easy, doesn't it? I wish it were that easy. One step is reaching out to oth

Welcome masongator. I am sorry you have reason to be here, but glad you decided to reach out. This is a very supportive community with many understanding and kind people. It's amazing how many others lack the compassion or understanding at what trauma does to us. Whether it be ignorance or simply the lack of caring, it's a shame not more people support survivors of sexual abuses. I'm sorry it makes you feel isolated with your struggles, but as far as this site is concerned...you are not alone anymore. Take your time and look around and jump into it when you are comfortable and

Hi PlumSundae. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for all the abuse you endured as a youngster and struggles and recovered memories that have come your way. What happened was not fair and definitely not deserved. Nobody had the right to hurt you this way. I am glad you found your way here and be assured you will find support and understanding here. You are not alone. Of course, take your time and look around. You will find that fortunately and unfortunately that you may relate to many. Traveling the path of healing is not an easy thing, but walking with others can make it just

Hi Tiggy. Yes, we accept Secondary Survivors on our boards, tho it is in a more limited capacity (main sections remain private for survivors only). You as the regular member/survivor of the site, do know this is only allowed with your permission and can be revoked at any time. Your husband may register using the Secondary Survivors/Supporters option. As your account will likely be tagged as a double registration, I will contact you, via PM, to go over a couple of things first, to ensure that the registration does go thru and to answer any questions you may have.

Hi Krystal and welcome. I am very sorry for all you've been thru and struggles that you still endure. It's hard enough to deal with your own struggles, yet you are still with another, as well. I know this must be difficult. You will find support in your own healing journey here. This is a community of kind and understanding members. As for help for your cousin, I will soon be sending you a welcome PM and I can supply you with a hotline number that might be able to help. Take your time and look around. I think you will find this a safe and healing place to be. Mary

Hi CalmerPlease. Welcome to AS. I'm very sorry you are here, yet glad you decided to reach out. You will find this a supportive community with many understanding and kind members. Take your time and look around. I wish you well on this healing journey. Mary

Hi Tiggy. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry you have reasons to be here, but glad you decided to reach out. You have found a supportive community with many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. The best way to start is to look around and get a lay of the land, sort of speak. We have different areas with different topic areas, with the Gathering Place and the Aftermath being our most active. When you are ready, you may respond or create posts of your own. You may do this at your own pace. I'm glad you decided to join us and wish you many steps forward on your

Hi JustChris. I know we already spoke, but this is just an official hello. Take your time and look around. I'm glad you decided to reach out. Mary

Hi Sweet Smile and welcome. I am very sorry for what brings you here, but glad you've decided to reach out. Trauma is undeserved and unfair and I'm sorry you've been thru this. The good news is that you've found a very supportive community with many understanding and kind members. You are not alone! Feel free to look around the site and interact where and when you feel comfortable to. The healing journey is not an easy one but can be a little easier with others who can relate. I wish you the best as you begin your journey with us. Mary

Kelly, Altho we've already spoken, wanted to send you an official welcome back! The community may have some new faces (or usernames) to you, but the kindness remains from those early days. I'm truly glad you've found your way back. Mary We you back!

Hi dinopup, Welcome to AfterSilence. I'm sorry you've endured trauma but glad you decided to reach out. This is a supportive community with many understanding members. We are here for you. Take your time and look around. Wishing you the best on this journey we call healing. Mary

Hi Andrea. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for all you've been thru and all you still go thru. Altho I've never been thru the legal process, do know that I admire and appreciate any survivor that stands up for themselves in this process, as when they do, in many ways they stand up for those of us who couldn't, didn't or didn't have the opportunity to. I do understand there is nothing easy about this, but I am so grateful you have a husband, family, friends and your community are standing with you. You can now add AS to your foundation of support. I'm glad that you decided to

Hi Rhodimus/Vincent. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what you've been thru and the struggles you have faced. What happened to you, even if memories are slight, was wrong and unfair. Many times, especially when we are young, our minds do whatever it needs to do in order to survive. Altho I am not glad that anything has happened to you, I am glad that you have the confidence to acknowledge something traumatic did happen. It often takes a long time for us to get to that place and it's often a misconception that if you don't remember, it didn't happen. There are often other signs

Hi elderflower. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am so sorry for what you went thru and the struggles you may be dealing with. What happened to you was wrong and unfair and you are definitely in a safe place to express anything you feel comfortable in sharing here. This is a community of very supportive and kind people. You are not alone. We are glad you appreciate the lotus...a symbol of strength each of us strive for and have...even at the times we don't feel we do. Take your time and look around. Feel free to jump in where you feel comfortable with. I wish you well on your contin