Ghostly Lilian

thank you brave one

Thank you guys and girls so many answered!

Thanks to all, you're always so kind

I'm not new to the site, but I took a... break I guess? I don't know, I felt overwhelmed and suddenly ran away. Now for some reason I felt like coming back. I'm feeling like sh** lately. best wishes to everyone, you're amazing, this community is the best when it comes to listening and supporting each others, really

Armadiiiiiilloooooos! _ we don't have them here. jumping for snakes When I was a kid (and adolescent) I used to catch spiders and scorpions and keep them as pets, inside glass jars. I obviously prepared the right environment for them and fed them. I also wanted to try with little snakes, but my father didn't let me

Hi Lottie, welcome to AS I'm so sorry for your past! You're definitely not alone here, and you'll hopefully find here plenty of kind and understanding people willing to hear you and also validation for your feelings. I love the house in the woods thing! You, your wife and your furry babies :3 I love woods as well as nearly anything that moves that's not human, from scorpions, to fishes, frogs, snakes and horses, to my recently rescued new room mate. Name's Leo, he's a striped gray two months old kitten

I'm sorry for what happened to you and I hope you'll find here all the support you hoped for. Safe hugs if ok

That's one of the things that helps me the most when a pet dies: I know they don't have bills to pay, family relying on them, plans for their life... The live day by day, and I know that if I can give them days full of love and enjoyable moments together, they could die at any time, and they would die happy and would have lived their life at the best. And I end up thinking that my pets probably lived a better life than mine, while they were alive, so that already feels like an accomplishment and makes me think that I did so much for them instead and probably I'm suffering more for their death

Well I really understand this. I feel so bad too when I read those supposed motivational sentences like "you're the only one who can decide how to feel". F**k no, it doesn't work like that! I was also always told that if I suffered, it was because I had done something bad, so I had not the right to suffer, because probably I made someone else suffer more, so I really feel that "permission to feel hurt" thing. Now, I really understand that what your T said might have led you to do this connection with what everyone used to say to you, it happened to me a lot. But I think there's a little-b

Welcome whitman I hope you'll find here the help you're looking for. Omg, I'm not of many words tonight (it's late here) can I just give you a sincere, safe, warm, friendly hug?

Hi @Autumngrace, welcome! I hope you'll find here what you're looking for, we surely do the best we can to help each others, to listen and be supportive I'm sorry for what brought you here, but I'm also happy and proud of you for trying to heal and reaching out

Wow! This is great! My mother has diabetes, I kind of know how it's like, and it's so wonderful that Eric can notice when your blood sugar levels are lowering and help you!

Welcome again. Snakes! You have a snake! what kind? My boyfriend would love your goats. He would like to have one.

Welcome Cmerlotts Cute profile pic! Nice to meet you, even though these are not the best circumstances... I hope this site can be useful and provide you support

I don't know.... I'm still confused about why I'm here, and I often can't believe myself about it, so one of the most important things for me is validation I guess. Another is being able to help others. Then there's the amazing work the community made to offer a place where people are positively sharing their struggles to receive and give support, instead of throwing random triggering content left and right with no regards for others or even promoting unhealthy coping strategies, as I have seen in other places. This never happens here. The site is very well organized and the useful "triggering

Hi and welcome I pretty much agree with Capulet. Unluckily, that's not the kind of thing that you can wipe away with some advice. Can't your friend wait? Does he know something? Could you just tell him that you don't want to lose him, but with your husband things didn't end in the best way and you need time before starting another relationship? Make sure to be truly ready to make something sexual again before doing it, it could take a lot of time, and it could also be not so easy to figure out. Personal experience.

Hi @PhoenixEmber and welcome! It is definitely possible for you to be heard and seen and you deserve it! You ARE important! What you want and what you need DOES matter. Another invisible girl here. That's why I chose this nickname. Welcome to As and best wishes

It could be. Take distance then for now if you feel that's what is better for you. Take the time you need best wishes

Woah, that's very recent! You made up your mind so fast! This should be a compliment, It took me five years to start questioning myself about what happened and one more year after my perp told me he knew it wasn't consensual to start accepting it and wonder if I should reach out. And I'm not the only one. It's not so easy, I'd start by being proud of you being able to reach for support as soon as you realized your close ones weren't providing enough of it. And I'm sorry they didn't. Good point patriciag made: there's also a section for survivors' relatives and friends, and who is registered

hi @bebie95, I'm almost new here too and still wonder sometimes if I belong among who had such experiences or not, I haven't shared my story yet. If you aren't sure if what you experienced gives you the right to consider yourself a survivor, then don't focus on it right now. As others suggested: explore the site, roam around a little bit, and you'll find out that you have lots of thing in common with many of us. You are so welcome indeed I'm proud of you for making this first step (if hugs are ok)

Welcome @OnWheels! Yes! So many care enough to read, and even to check your profile! OMG!

Hi kate. i wish I could write something a bit more enlightened, but in these last few days I'm overly tired. Thanks for your words and nice to meet you It really isn't helpful constantly comparing myself to others to measure if I'm worthy, I know... I don't know how else to understand it though

Aw thanks to both of you HonestHeart I am already starting to feel unwelcome and not fitting actually Not anyone's fault, it's just chronic. I'm trying o deal with this, I know it probably isn't true. Nothing and no one gave me a reason to think so. I just feel like I'm writing a lot, and writing stupid things or maybe hurtful ones and people will get fed up with me "I'm not smart enough" you know, "I secretly want to hurt people without even knowing it" and so on But I'll deal with it, I can do it PS: that's the cutest thing ever :3

Thank you @MeBeMary, and thanks again to all of you. I feel a little better now. The more I explore the forums, the more I feel home. I deeply understand so many posts, it definitely seems like I do share something with the community

Thank you struggling