Stephenjames

Hi MeBeMary

Many thanks for saying that I didn't deserve to be treated in this way. I do agree as well that trauma is never ok to force onto another person. 

Thank you also for your very kind support, thanks for sitting with me. Safe hugs to you too, if ok 

Hiya WannaMoveOn

How are you? I have been rather unwell for a while now. 

Apologies for the delay in my reply. 

Hope you are keeping well. 

Hiya WannaMoveOn, apologies for the delay in my reply. I haven't been well for quite some time. 

How are you keeping? 

Hi MeBeMary, apologies for the delay in my reply. Many thanks for you kind words and safe hugs. Thank you for sitting with me, greatfully appreciated. 

Hi awi, thank you for sitting with me. Very kind. 

Hi WannaMoveOn, many thanks for your kind support. 

Hiya @WannaMoveOn

Apologies for the delay in my reply. Many thanks for replying to my post. 

Thanks for explaining to me what a 'trigger' is. 

I have been working on triggers with a new Psychological Therapist who works for the NHS via the local Mental Health Team. She explains it the same way as you do although I was asking her what happens to the brain chemistry with a trigger. 

I had a terrible incident on the morning of my 23rd birthday where a 'offender' triggered me on purpose which caused something to happen to my brain that I just can't explain and for 24 years have had Doctors unable to explain to me or offer me any treatment that actually worked or made a difference. 

I guess what I am trying to ask is once someone has been triggered, how do they 'un-trigger' themselves? If that makes any sense to you? 

Thanks once again for explaining what triggers are, most appreciated. 

Many thanks @Finchy for you kind words of support. One step at a time in recovery I guess. Just wish I had of screamed my head off that night when I was 17. 

@WannaMoveOn, its early days for me. Mostly its just CBT and talking therapy. Just wished I had of used that 'Primal Scream' technique that night when I was 17, could have saved my own life and my mental health. 

Many grateful thanks @WannaMoveOn @Pink Sky @Finchy @broken_but_trying @feralcat and @orangegiraffe for you very kind words of support. 

Very sorry @broken_but_trying for what happened to you age 17. Such a waste of life to be treated like that at such a young age. Lives are ruined my thoughtless people acts of depravity. 

Wishing you all well  

Thank you @Finchy @MeBeMary and @snmls for your kind words. Thank you also for having me here. 

Thank you @MeBeMary for sitting with me and for your kind words. 

You are right, trying to control someone is just plain wrong!

Thanks for the positive vibes, safe hugs to you too. 
 

Thank you @WannaMoveOn 

Many thanks @MeBeMary most appreciated. 🙂

Thank you @WannaMoveOn for the lovely sunshine to brighten my day! Thank you also for reminding what this community stands for. I'm glad that After Silence exists it really is a life saver! Many thanks. 

Thank you @WannaMoveOn for you support. I really hope that people do believe me, it really would mean the world. Wishing you well. 

Best of luck @WannaMoveOn wishing you well in your future career! 

Thank you @Finchy for taking the time to reply to my post and for your kind words. The anxiety of the trauma never seems to go away. Just wish I could feel human again. Thank you also for saying that I am not alone. Wishing you well, many thanks. 

Thank you @mini.finch for your thoughtful reply. I wish no one had to suffer such things. 

Many thanks @behindthesehazeleyes for your kind words of support. Thanks also for the hugs, safe hugs to you too. They are evil people indeed. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. Wishing you well. 

Many thanks @mini.finch for your very kind words. Thank you for sitting with me, much appreciated  

Many thanks for your kind words of support @MeBeMary

Safe hugs to you too, if ok 

Hi @WannaMoveOn

I didn't realise what they were doing counted as physical abuse at the time. It was done by the Police, so I didn't really have anyone to ask for help. When I went to the health service, they laughed in my face. 

I will have to try and seek legal advise, maybe there is something that can be done about these corrupt Policeman. 

They turned me into a basket case when I was 16-18. I really did want to get married and have children but I fear I am over the hill these days. I find it very upsetting to think of what they did to me for fun. 

I wish you and your boyfriend a very happy future together. 

Many thanks for all your kind help! 

Stephenjames. 

Thank you @WannaMoveOn for your kind words of support. I guess having hair on a mans head isn't the be-all-and end-all in a healthy relationship. I was only 18, they did it to humiliate me. 

My paranoid and mentally ill Sister was threatening to commit suicide if I ever got a girlfriend. My Policeman Father and his drinking friends set me up. I find it all very distressing to say the least. 

I wish you well with your boyfriend. Many thanks once again. 

Stephenjames. 

Many thanks @WannaMoveOn very kind of you. 

I'm very sorry too, will have to figure out a way of getting my own back. Many thanks for your kind support @mini.finch. Wishing you well, Steve. 

Very kind of you @WannaMoveOn most appreciated. 

Hi @Field8 thank you for taking the time to reply to my status update. Sorry to hear of your pain and upset of having the chance to have children taken away from you, I know how hard and upsetting that is. Wishing you well, take care.