melissa

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About melissa

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    Let the butterflies roam free...
  • Birthday 12/06/1989

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  • Gender Female
  • Location East Coast of the United States
  • Interests I love to write, read, teach, and help others. I hope to teach the severely handicapped when I graduate high school.<br /><br />And yes...the yahoo one works for msn messenger...it's Window's Live...

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  1. Hello Hello

    Awesome name Typo! Welcome to AS!
  2. Hi...

    Welcome to AS!
  3. Looking For Directions

    Welcome to AS!
  4. Hi :)

    Hi Meg, I hope you find wonderful support and friendship here. Welcome! Melissa
  5. Hi. I Am New And Need Advice Please.

    Hi, I guess this is kind of late. And perhaps it's not much help, because it's basically going to echo what other posts have said. But, I know in my situation, my mother sided with my abuser (who was not in my family), and refused to take me out of the school where he was. Now, I love my mother dearly, and I know it's not her fault that I was abused. But as my mother, I expected her to protect me. My abuser hurt me once, I told my Mom, and she did nothing. Then he hurt me 3 more times before the school year finally ended. Again, I don't blame my mother, but I wanted her to save me. I ended up having to move out of my mother's house, and sever contact for awhile, so that I could process what happened in what I felt was a safer environment. Because she didn't protect me then, I didn't think she would if anything else ever happened. Perhaps your daughters are feeling something similar. Please, don't take this the wrong way, I am NOT, DEFINITELY NOT saying it was your fault, because as you said, you are a victim here, but as children we want our parents to protect us from things that are too big for us to handle. If it was indeed you that arranged visits with their abuser than perhaps they are feeling a little angry. I see my Mom regularly now, I always spend the night Saturday. But it took awhile to reach that point. I had to heal a little bit (through MUCH therapy), and she had to agree to some terms/boundaries. I would recommend therapy for your daughters. Also, there are some really good reading materials, and I believe whitedove recommended some websites. Umm...I really hope this helped, and if you have any more questions, or am confused by anything i said (sometimes I don't make much sense) PM me. Good luck on your journey, take care, melissa
  6. The Healing Quotes Thread!

    "While we wait in silence for that final luxury of fearlessness, the weight of that silence will chocke us." -Audre Lorde "There is no agony like an untold story inside of you," Maya Angelou "The best thing you can do is realize that there's nothing wrong with you, and that it isn't your fault. Everything around you was the crazy part." -unknown "When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. but when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak" Audre Lorde "Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it." -Maya Angelou "People remain who they are even when their faces fall to pieces" -Bertolt brecht "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song." -Maya Angelou "From my obscurity came forth a light and illuminated my path." -Kahlil Gibran "We tell lies when we're afraid...afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what other will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger." -Tad Williams "What breaks in a moment may take years to mend." -Swedish Proverb "Like a tiny bird through a storm ccloud sky, a tiny piece winged its way through the chaos." -Katherine Patterson (Bridge to Terabithia) "We endure so much more than we think we can, all human experience testifies to that. All we need to do is learn not to be afraid of the pain. Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don't deny it, don't be overwhelmed by it. it will not last forever. One day the pain will be gone and you'll still be here." -Harold Kushner "People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost." -H Jackson browne "The walls be build around us to keep out the sadness, also keep out the joy." -Jim Rohn "Among true friends there are no secrets even if there are no words" -unknown "The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself in spite of being unacceptable." -Paul Pillich "The real difficulty is overcoming how you think about yourself. If we don't have that, we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach." -Maya Angelou "I am not a teacher only a fellow travelor of whom you asked the way. I point ahead, ahead of myself as well you." -George Bernard Shaw
  7. First Time Sharer

    welcome to AS! i hope to see you around. take gentle care, melissa
  8. Hey Hey Hey

    welcome to AS...better late then never! Take care, melissa
  9. New And Nervous

    welcome to AS! It is an amazing community of survivors, and I hope to see you around! Melissa
  10. New Here

    Welcome to AS! Hope to see you around, Melissa
  11. New And Nervous

    Hello angel baby, I love you! *hug* You already know what I am going to say, so I'm not going to say it. lol.
  12. Hi, I'm New Here

    welcome here! see you around, melissa
  13. Hiya I'm New And Scared

    hello, welcome to AS. this is a wonderful place. there is no pressure to post until u feel ready. u r not alone. Melissa
  14. Am I In The Right Place?

    Welcome to AS! I think you are in the right place. Hang in there, you are a survivor! Melissa
  15. Time To Say Hello

    Welcome to AS! See you around, Melissa