RiseAndShine

hey vera thank you!

hey mods and admins, i noticed that in this topic http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.ph...ic=91318&hl= the researcher's last name was removed, i suppose in accordance with the forum guidelines. i see how this rule makes sense for survivors, but researchers are not here as survivors or private people, they are here as professionals, and therefore neither claim nor should be "forced" into anonymity (imho). on the contrary.... i find it very important that researchers identify themselves with their full name, name of their institution, and preferably full name of their supervising

vera, thank you for checking the filter and taking out the swear words that are not especially sensitive in our context! it makes total sense to me to leave the ones that you left. and i am really glad that you are making it possible for us to express our feelings in an uncensored way. riana

i'm using the "spring" skin, and it's the same here, too....... hmmm. i dont like it, either.

hey anna welcome back! i usually dont stop by in this section very much, but i really like your screenname. it's sad and true. you really dont sound to me like someone who would upset others here! it's ok, of course, if you are not comfortable posting, but i'd like to encourage you to just try it out every now and then and see how you feel about it. and hey, everybody who's new does not know anybody here; and we were all new some day. the community is used to seeing new names every day - and i do think that most people feel welcome and like they are part of the group here pretty soon

bettyboop i think that's a good idea. when i was checking into my email account from work (where people might be looking over my shoulder), this actually made me uncomfortable, too. i dont think it would have anything to do with silencing to be more discrete in the email name. riana

hey kendra welcome back, hun! i am glad you have come here for support now that new things are coming for you. riana

chasm, how good to hear that things have turned out so great for you! and it is really nice that you are coming back to give support now! welcome back!! riana

i had been thinking about this option, too...... but for one, i assume it would be pretty tricky technically....? but also, i think it would be really confusing for us; cause that would mean that not only the original poster but also everybody who replies would always have to check for who this particular thread is visible....... i think it would impact the feeling of being able to just speak freely for many. i explicitly appreciate the presence of secondary survivors here, and i often would like for them to be able to participate more here...... but i have come to the conclusion that i pers

ok, i am delighted to say: whatever it was, it has fixed itself. this morning it still was not, but now everything is back to normal!

karen, thanks for letting me know - glad i am not the only one..... i just deleted cookies and it might be a little better now (? ) but it is definitely not normal yet. i dont think it's a virus because this only happens with AS. i feel like it is sth about the AS server..... maybe some changes were made to it so that it does this now to certain computers?!?! (no idea if that is even possible.....) my browser gives me the message "waiting for aftersilence.org/etc....... " in the bottom left corner while it shows me that loading bar. maybe anyone who knows some more about this tech s

thank you for the info, possum. hmm. it already happens when i just type the web address into the browser and when it first loads. and it is actually closer to 20 seconds. per click. which means i cannot reasonably use it. this has not always been this way, just for a few days now, i think, and i am not aware of having changed anything on my computer. i tried logging out and in again, aswell as using a different browser, but no difference. does anybody have any idea how i can fix this?!?!!

hey, so for a few days, i think, i have noticed that everything on here takes foreeeeever to load. i mean, whenever i click on anything here, it takes a good 5-10 seconds until the page comes up. anything, a forum, a topic, whatever. it's not that way with other websites, even when i use the same browser; so it's not my internet connection. is it the AS server (?!?! i have no idea what that really is) that suddenly got slow, or......? do other people have this problem? is it gonna pass? thanks for any info.

is that so with private groups? i actually remembered there was a group and looked for it a while ago, but did not find it. so i think it should be posted somewhere here if other people want to join.... cause since it's secret, well, nobody can know about it. possum, i understand your concern about privacy. i personally do not want to add just whoever is on AS to my fb friends. i only add those who i feel i know on a personal basis already, and who i would call, well, friends. even if you join such a group, you can still protect your privacy from potentially malicious members. i have m

thank you, karen. i think the description posted in that forum is not really clear though, hence the confusion. here's what i understand from your reply, please correct me if i'm wrong: it is for positive topics that we feel reflect our progress / achievements in healing? it is not for discussing problems that people who have been healing for a long time still have? and it is not for encouraging others directly and giving healing tips? (considering which posts have been moved) just asking to clarify. riana