Wolfie

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About Wolfie

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    The master of me- is me.
  • Birthday 05/18/1921

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Great Britain

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  1. Chat Gone Wrong Again.

    I have to come in now, whole swathes of people will never donate again if they think it keeps me out!
  2. I have just left chat, where there were 12 people all in precisely the same font colour (black) because font colours are broken. How is anyone with a even a mild learning disability (eg dyslexia) now supposed to keep up when not only is the room fast there are no clear distinctions between members? It's discriminatory whether intentional or not and needs putting right immediately.
  3. If you think back I did a lot of the work on the researching of the resources boards way, way back. And you took over and tidied the place. Where are the old ones?
  4. The resources board has been organised with the nations of the UK split but only 3 of them have a mention- England, Scotland and Wales. Where's Northern Ireland? This is not a part of Ireland, it's a part of the UK, and it's not erroneously listed in the Irish listings even. The Crown Dependencies of the Channel Islands? I know there are resources there, but there's no thread for this. And the Isle of Man (aka Mann)? Another Crown Dependency, actually nestled right between the 4 main UK nations. There's bound to be at least a domestic violence refuge surely? Then there are a whole load of services which cover the UK as a whole, rather than are regional, which could probably do with a thread. I realise the UK is complex, but there are massive, massive gaps in the resources listings at present which someone really needs to close.
  5. Scotland

    For non-abusing mothers and fathers of survivors: MOSAC http://www.mosac.org.uk/how-we-help/ 0800 980 1958 "We provide a safe place for parents and carers to come following the trauma of discovering that their child or children have been abused. We offer practical and emotional support in a number of ways." Services Include: Telephone helpline Advice Sessions Advocacy Service Befriending Service Therapeutic Service Workshops and Training Support Groups Information Email Service
  6. Wales

    For non-abusing mothers and fathers of survivors: MOSAC http://www.mosac.org.uk/how-we-help/ 0800 980 1958 "We provide a safe place for parents and carers to come following the trauma of discovering that their child or children have been abused. We offer practical and emotional support in a number of ways." Services Include: Telephone helpline Advice Sessions Advocacy Service Befriending Service Therapeutic Service Workshops and Training Support Groups Information Email Service
  7. England

    For non-abusing mothers and fathers of survivors: MOSAC http://www.mosac.org.uk/how-we-help/ 0800 980 1958 "We provide a safe place for parents and carers to come following the trauma of discovering that their child or children have been abused. We offer practical and emotional support in a number of ways." Services Include: Telephone helpline Advice Sessions Advocacy Service Befriending Service Therapeutic Service Workshops and Training Support Groups Information Email Service
  8. I'm New

    At the time I write this you have made 11 posts on this site since you joined, of which this is the first. Almost all (8 of the 11) posts were started as a new topic and every one of those is on the Welcome board, which is a public board, meaning it can be seen by people who are not registered members. I'm going to ask a moderator if these can be merged and moved somewhere private for your own sake. I'm sure you will find people here you connect to and you feel understand you. It does help people to know if they relate to you or not if they can follow what you are saying. I'm sure you'll soon get the hang of it. If you are feeling desperate and wish to communicate with someone as a matter of the utmost urgency *Click Here* to be taken to the Resources board, where you will be able to find listings of real-time services in your area which can help you in your crisis. A forum like AS just isn't equipped for intervention in crisis situations. Welcome to AS.
  9. I'm Really New To This

    Men are a bit under-represented here, so your presence is very welcome. I hope you find the answers you seek.
  10. Mom To Be

    Fucking glad to meet you (I am a biker/ British/ a free human being- take your pick). I know exactly what you mean about your family and about suddenly realising you will have to learn to be a parent. I had the same thing, only I was 19 when I had my first child and I was not in a good relationship. Like you, running was what I knew, although you do it with a boat. You wont turn into your own mother, it's a lie perpetuated by husbands seeking to invalidate and embarrass wives. The reason you wont is because you are making every effort possible to understand what got knotted, to unpick it and to re-tie something else. We can help with that, but for fucks sakes believe in yourself because without it you will be your own worst enemy. Don't tell me it doesn't come naturally, I know it doesn't come naturally, but if you don't then you leave yourself wide open to criticism. Someone WILL step into that void. People are not, by nature, very nice animals. Some are nice enough, but as you well know plenty aren't. The hyenas were around me. They got my daughter because of my lack of self-belief. You would cry if I told you what her life is like. Even a sailor. So I am telling you, in the firmest terms, up to the mark you must step lassie. And that means as of right now you are to banish any worries about turning into Her/Them/Him/Whoever. Now go and write this on a post-it-note and stick it to the mirror by your bed. "I am the master of me. I decide who I am and how I live". I'm serious, it's damn good advice. Anyhow, I'll see you around the boards some time. Maybe not right now, my life is demanding right now. But I look forward to bumping into you, as it were, another time. Oh and if there are asterix's in the French, the bastard auto-filter did it, not me!
  11. Im Actually Doing This

    <-- I put the code in wrong, there should have been one of these fellas at the end.
  12. Im Actually Doing This

    I have been here for about 6 years all told (I'm on my second username). I've yet to post my story. I have put bits up, here and there, but not the whole thing. I actually don't think I ever will. I simply don't want to. Not everyone does. So there's no pressure. Feel free to join in any topics you feel like joining in, start any you want to start and so on. No one's bothered about how secretive or open you want to be, we have members at every end of the spectrum. :aswelcomesyou:
  13. Hi, I'm New And Wanting To Heal

    Walcome to After Silence. Beware of the fruit.
  14. I'm Back. It's Been Way Too Long!

    OMG Hi Tamara! Bloody good to see you again Dear
  15. Www.spokeo.com

    Very very scary, I just looked up a friend and found her husbands income, a picture of her house (with her car on the drive) and all sorts. Not good. On the bright side this only seems to relate to the USA.