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Everything posted by RiseAndShine

  1. hey mods and admins, i noticed that in this topic http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.ph...ic=91318&hl= the researcher's last name was removed, i suppose in accordance with the forum guidelines. i see how this rule makes sense for survivors, but researchers are not here as survivors or private people, they are here as professionals, and therefore neither claim nor should be "forced" into anonymity (imho). on the contrary.... i find it very important that researchers identify themselves with their full name, name of their institution, and preferably full name of their supervising
  2. vera, thank you for checking the filter and taking out the swear words that are not especially sensitive in our context! it makes total sense to me to leave the ones that you left. and i am really glad that you are making it possible for us to express our feelings in an uncensored way. riana
  3. i'm using the "spring" skin, and it's the same here, too....... hmmm. i dont like it, either.
  4. hey anna welcome back! i usually dont stop by in this section very much, but i really like your screenname. it's sad and true. you really dont sound to me like someone who would upset others here! it's ok, of course, if you are not comfortable posting, but i'd like to encourage you to just try it out every now and then and see how you feel about it. and hey, everybody who's new does not know anybody here; and we were all new some day. the community is used to seeing new names every day - and i do think that most people feel welcome and like they are part of the group here pretty soon
  5. bettyboop i think that's a good idea. when i was checking into my email account from work (where people might be looking over my shoulder), this actually made me uncomfortable, too. i dont think it would have anything to do with silencing to be more discrete in the email name. riana
  6. hey kendra welcome back, hun! i am glad you have come here for support now that new things are coming for you. riana
  7. chasm, how good to hear that things have turned out so great for you! and it is really nice that you are coming back to give support now! welcome back!! riana
  8. i had been thinking about this option, too...... but for one, i assume it would be pretty tricky technically....? but also, i think it would be really confusing for us; cause that would mean that not only the original poster but also everybody who replies would always have to check for who this particular thread is visible....... i think it would impact the feeling of being able to just speak freely for many. i explicitly appreciate the presence of secondary survivors here, and i often would like for them to be able to participate more here...... but i have come to the conclusion that i pers
  9. ok, i am delighted to say: whatever it was, it has fixed itself. this morning it still was not, but now everything is back to normal!
  10. karen, thanks for letting me know - glad i am not the only one..... i just deleted cookies and it might be a little better now (? ) but it is definitely not normal yet. i dont think it's a virus because this only happens with AS. i feel like it is sth about the AS server..... maybe some changes were made to it so that it does this now to certain computers?!?! (no idea if that is even possible.....) my browser gives me the message "waiting for aftersilence.org/etc....... " in the bottom left corner while it shows me that loading bar. maybe anyone who knows some more about this tech s
  11. thank you for the info, possum. hmm. it already happens when i just type the web address into the browser and when it first loads. and it is actually closer to 20 seconds. per click. which means i cannot reasonably use it. this has not always been this way, just for a few days now, i think, and i am not aware of having changed anything on my computer. i tried logging out and in again, aswell as using a different browser, but no difference. does anybody have any idea how i can fix this?!?!!
  12. hey, so for a few days, i think, i have noticed that everything on here takes foreeeeever to load. i mean, whenever i click on anything here, it takes a good 5-10 seconds until the page comes up. anything, a forum, a topic, whatever. it's not that way with other websites, even when i use the same browser; so it's not my internet connection. is it the AS server (?!?! i have no idea what that really is) that suddenly got slow, or......? do other people have this problem? is it gonna pass? thanks for any info.
  13. is that so with private groups? i actually remembered there was a group and looked for it a while ago, but did not find it. so i think it should be posted somewhere here if other people want to join.... cause since it's secret, well, nobody can know about it. possum, i understand your concern about privacy. i personally do not want to add just whoever is on AS to my fb friends. i only add those who i feel i know on a personal basis already, and who i would call, well, friends. even if you join such a group, you can still protect your privacy from potentially malicious members. i have m
  14. thank you, karen. i think the description posted in that forum is not really clear though, hence the confusion. here's what i understand from your reply, please correct me if i'm wrong: it is for positive topics that we feel reflect our progress / achievements in healing? it is not for discussing problems that people who have been healing for a long time still have? and it is not for encouraging others directly and giving healing tips? (considering which posts have been moved) just asking to clarify. riana
  15. so, i've actually been quite proud of myself for staying out of this discussion bc i really dont like to come on here to argue with anybody, and these discussions seem to always somehow progress into open hostility. but i think i really need to comment on this statement because i find it unfair. i assume it is directed towards annie? well, i just have to say that i dont find her sexist. i do not agree that she is "promoting sexism" or violating terms of service, as you have been accusing her! i actually find it unfair to throw such accusations into someone's face who clearly takes a differ
  16. ashley-michelle, i think that's a good suggestion. it may be helpful to explain in the first post there what exactly is meant (and maybe why the more common term "child pornography" was not used.)
  17. thanks, karen. i hope my post above did not sound like i was criticizing anyone here. i get so upset about this topic and how it is treated by the general public.... so that's where the emotion comes from. but i definitely was not upset about anything or anybody here. (hope it did not come across as if i were, and if so, then i'm really sorry.) an alternative term that describes it well, i think, is "images of child abuse". but not sure how to make a thread title out of that. again, sorry if i sounded harsh. riana
  18. hey all, i suggested to a mod a while ago to add a thread about child "pornorgraphy" to the sexual assault types forum. she said she would pass on my request, but i have not seen or heard anything about it since then, so i thought i'd just bring it up here to check in with the mods/admins. i put "pornography" in quotation marks bc i see nothing "pornographic" about it, and i personally even think to call it "pornography" mocks the victims. however, it is the most widespread term for it, so i use it to be clear about what i mean. i would suggest asking the survivors of this kind of abuse wh
  19. i actually had been wondering about this for a while..... i agree that it must be not ok for the male members. the most obvious solution would be to add a male member to the mod squad? that may be a good idea for other reasons, too.
  20. dear kait welcome to AS! your writing is so powerful. i know how it is to hate the person in the mirror, wanting to punch her. i am glad you have good people in your life. and that you can see beauty again. i try to look for beauty every day. it is what gets me through, too. safe if ok riana
  21. ((((reyzl)))) ((((becky)))) it is so sad to see people (anyone) being hurt by all this. ((((karen)))), thank you for explaining this. i genuinely did not see the point before, but i do get it now. i know you mods are discussing this now. i am not sure if there is not supposed to be any discussion going on here...... may i as a regular member still add my opinion? i feel like sharing a story is such a sensitive issue that, in general, it would be best if members had as much freedom there as possible. i also feel like different people just have different styles, needs, and preferenc
  22. karen, you are right, the new part that reyzl wrote was added at the end of that old story thread. but...... it was just merged?! i am sorry but i have to say i dont find that very respectful. many people have lots of threads up in that forum. why was reyzl's suddenly merged? and to do that without even letting her know....... not cool, i think. sorry. in general, i think people should be able to tell their story the way they want. i have actually started using the "view new posts" function and agree it is convenient; but several times i have felt like not really all new posts ap
  23. wow, this is weird and it sucks..... i hope someone can tell you what is going on! reyzl.... you know though, right, that.... this is not a "sign".... it does not "mean" anything.... you were right to tell your story, hun. this is some weird technical glitch and someone will figure it out. and riana
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