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  1. Hi everyone, I had couselling last year and she explained that what I experienced at 19 years old was grooming, sexual assualt and sexual abuse. I was just wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar as an adult?

    1. marcyabadeer


      I had a similar experience when I was that age also. You’re not alone :( I’m glad you’ve been able to process some things through counseling. It’s very difficult 😥 sending support to you 


    2. Charlie.1


      Thank you for replying. Although everyone’s situations are different there are always some common elements such as the abuser being older, being a teacher/ boss at work abusing their position. And we  all blame and question ourselves but I can see things in other peoples situations that relate to mine and I can see that it is not their fault. So it is helpful to hear other people’s experiences although it is awful that so many people have had these experiences. Thinking of you :)

    3. marcyabadeer


      Thinking of you & sending support to you as well 🌻🖤

  2. Morning everyone. I’ve had a tough couple of days with anxiety and memories and I’m feeling much better today so hopefully today will be a better day and I hope that you all have a good day too 🙂

    1. BrightSide


      Thank Charlie.1 I hope your day remains good - sending more positive day vibes your way 🧡B

    2. Charlie.1
    3. Finchy


      That's great you're feeling better today! I hope that things continue to improve. ❤️ Well wishes to you!! :) 

  3. Welcome summer2009. I can relate to what you are saying and just reading someone else’s experience can help me to see why my experience was not my fault.
  4. I don’t know why but I have been finding the memories particularly difficult today. I find it very difficult to admit to myself what happened and it feels very lonely as I’m sure many of you can relate to. But I’m beginning to move towards believing that it really did happen and that yes, I was sexually assaulted and sexually abused. This is the first time that I’ve really said that and it does make me feel a bit lighter :) I think that acceptance and acknowledgement of what happened will help me on my healing journey.

    1. snmls


      Sometimes acknowledgment is the first step toward healing. We are here to support you throughout the healing journey. 

    2. Finchy


      We're here for you. ❤️ Memories can be so difficult to confront...the fact that you're acknowledging what happened and that you're even SAYING it is huge! Like snmls said, that's a really big first step towards healing. I wish you the best!

    3. Charlie.1


      Thank you both. I feel like I am another step forward by acknowledging it. It’s a long road as you will both know yourselves and we will have some days that are more difficult than others but I’ve admitted it to myself quite a lot in my head today and added ‘and that is not my fault’. They say that the more you repeat affirmations, you will actually start to believe it :)

  5. Charlie.1

    Two Choices...

    Hey @Viceless I have been having counselling and it has given me the confidence to speak to my mum and my partner about what happened. I never would of thought that I would ever of been able to do that. They were both really good about it and were really supportive. Since speaking to them I feel like a huge weight that I have been carrying for many years now has been lifted. I knew that the weight was there, but I didn’t realise how heavy it was and the impact that it was having on my life. Forgiveness means different things to different people and like you said you are doing your best and a
  6. Charlie.1

    Two Choices...

    First of all great drawings! As for forgiveness, I don’t think that you should put pressure on yourself to forgive someone if you don’t want to. If you think that it would help you to move towards forgiveness then perhaps you could talk this through with someone? You could contact a helpline if you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone who you know but don’t feel like you have to forgive someone if that isn’t what you want. Do you have some things that you can you can use as distractions to keep you busy? It looks like you are good at art I have made steps forward that I never would of t
  7. Hi Celia I am new here too. I joined yesterday.
  8. Thank you all for the messages, it is very encouraging and I feel a bit better already! It’s awful that there are so many people who have been abused, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but I think that it will help me to talk to people in similar situations.
  9. Hi @drowningnotwaving. Thank you for the welcome It means a lot. Hope you’re having a nice weekend
  10. Hi, I’m new here. I’m currently having counselling to help me to understand what happened to me in the past and I am finding it helpful. I’m hoping to find some support from others who have unfortunately been in similar situations and may have some of the same thoughts, feelings and experiences as me.
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