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  1. Personally I think both Karen and Sonnet have made valid points and ones which to me make it clear as to why thus far we have never had a second chat room for "light" topic chatting. After Silence is dedicated primarily to SUPPORT of those affected by sexual violence. It therefore stands to reason that their chatroom would primarily be there as a support tool for members. Obviously in a slightly different manner than forum posts but a place which is firstly one of support. Yes it's absolutely fine to have lighthearted banter...we all need that, but when a member comes into chat and needs support that becomes the focus. Those that need to leave do so..hopefully not everyone but we all know there are no guarantees on that. I think the second chatroom works well when there are Topic chats for obvious reasons but always having two chatrooms I think has the potential for causing a divide and feelings of isolation much like the pm feature did laterally when it was available in the chatroom. Can you imagine how it would feel to go into the triggering chatroom because you desperately needed support and advice only to find no-one there....so you skip over to the non-triggering chatroom and tentitively ask if anyone would mind coming back into the triggering chatroom to talk to you... no-one does. How crushed and rejected does that make the person feel ?..however legit the others reasons for not going are. I have yet to witness an entire chatroom...even if there were only 4 people...empty when someone needs support. Just my thoughts from over the years folks...
  2. Lene

    I'm Back

    Ceekay!!!!!!!!!!!!! massive hugs to ya hon..you have been missed Glad to see you back..sorry you're struggling though..hope to catch up with you really soon much love to ya Lene xxx
  3. Welcome back Tulip hon!!! I've missed seeing you around and reading your posts party...? Bing it on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lene x
  4. and in answer to your "could you send it again" question..the request has been sent twice and I can't be bothered sending it a 3rd time coz it's speaking volumes already! cheers for the info though..I am now not quite so technologically challenged as I was an hour ago...not out of the woods in that respect yet though...not by a long shot!!! hahaha!!!
  5. well....it's lying to you coz I have...hahaha!!!
  6. Just wondering something...being technologically challenged...if you sent a pm and there was no reply does that mean that the person you sent the pm to has a full inbox so it wasn't recieved..like if an inbox is full would you get a message saying so?
  7. Lene


    Welcome to AS Steena Lene x
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    Welcome to AS IamLiving Lene x
  9. Much as I think this sounds lovely in theory I think it would just isolate people as "little groups" would form and new people who are already feeling vulnerable and alone would feel like outsiders and it may appear quite intimidating. I think msn/yahoo is great for this purpose as its removed from the board itself and is therefore does not appear to visably exclude,even if that is not the intention. Lene x
  10. Welcome to AS Nyx! Lene x
  11. Pam..I hope you don't mind but I'd just like to comment on your above post.. I think we all at times make flash judgements,often in the heat of the moment when we are upset about something and just can't understand why what has happened has done.More often than not we don't have all the info and in anger and hurt we lash out...you know the feeling,like a bomb going off inside yourself. I think it happens especially when we as survivors are so full of anger,hurt and mistrust to start with..whether we realise it or not...so the "taking stock" part often gets skipped over! I myself have lost count of the amount of times in my life that my mouth has run away with me and later having cooled,thought it through from both mine and the other persons perspective,wish I'd counted to at least 100 before speaking! Pam..it takes courage to put your hand in the air and apologise for being hasty in your judgements. I hope this courage of yours rubs off on me!!! Finally..I love where this thread started and the journey it has taken us all on..I think much has been gained for all of us...thank-you Lene x
  12. Hi Cathie, I am NOT attcking your post for it is part of this thread and everyones opinion and viewpoint is welcomed and necessary.I guess I just wanted to make my own points with regards to some of what you have said.. * As far as I'm aware the mods/admin take the time to carefully browse through threads so that they can check that rules have not been broken and hurtful things said etc.This is their job and it's a time consuming one.I think the very fact that they take the time to do this shows how much they do care for this community and it's members. * Just like you and I the mods,admin,chat mods and newbie support team have a life outwith the internet.They,just like you,I and everyone else are also survivors and dealing with their own trauma and aftermath..still taking time out as often as possible to take care of people here.I am an ex chat mod..several times during this period I disappeared off the radar for a while,I needed a break and time to deal with things in my life.Not once was I pulled up on this..perhaps I should've been..but bottom line I wasn't.I needed to take time out and this was understood and supported without question.Perhaps those who seem to be missing at times are doing just that.Even a loss of internet connection could account for their absence. * Believe me problems are addressed as soon as possible. I think it's a bit unfair to single out anyone whether it is positively or not. * Rather alot of this thread has been about just that...but has been kept discusional and daggers have not been thrown...lets hope it can continue that way. Lene x edit- How on earth did I get half my reply within the quote??????? I've been here 4 yrs and still can't get it right!!!! My answers have a * next to them if that helps even remotely!!!! Sorry!!!! edit no.2...admin have fixed my stupidity...IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!
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