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About Mon45

  • Birthday 10/04/1963

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Aotearoa - land of the long white cloud

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  1. Hello I'm New

    Hi there Welcome to AS. From what I read, sounds like you are from NZ as well. Me too. I really hope you find what you need here. Mon
  2. Sexual Abuse W/o Physical Violence

    Briararosa - I totally agree with you - it is all the more confusing to sort out now. Actually its hard as hell. How do you deal with hate and anger when all that was shown to you was love, gentleness and kindness. I was on a course last week where one of the facilitators read out an article where they had interviewed 20 men in prision who were offenders of csa. They asked them if they threatened their victims and most said there was no need to as they groomed them well from an early age. In my case I was groomed from at least 3 years old but maybe a bit before. Its no wonder I thought it was the norm. Please - we really need this thread. Thank you Kelly
  3. Sexual Abuse W/o Physical Violence

    Thank you Karen - yes it has been disapointing not hearing anything back. Makes one feel it is less.
  4. From my step-son regarding my not telling my husband of my abuse when we first met ... - had he known your secrets he may not have entered into a relationship with you. WTF - my abuse didn't come up for me until at least 10 years later From my ex husband on the same topic ... - I am not hiding your abuse from the kids like you did to me - if only I knew back then - you F*cking sucked me in. Also from my ex husband ... - I only started to realize where you were coming from when I found out your brothers were involved too. Again WTF - he knew my father abused me for 14 years. Isn't that enough, even without knowing about my brothers. Also ex husband ... But your father only molested you - never had sex with you - not like your brother. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh From my abuser father when trying to justify his actions ... - your mother told me to go bed another woman, but I couldn't, so I turned to you. Hell dad I was only 3 years old. Also from my abuser father ... - I don't want you getting pregnant. Oh so is that why you never had full sex with me?
  5. Hello. Just Introducing Myself... From Nz

    Hi hun Another kiwi here - north island Hope you find what you are looking for hunni This is a fantastic site Kia Kaha Mon
  6. The Inner Child Thread

    I think I found her last night for the first time.
  7. I wish I hated you - to father How did you know - to brother 1 I remember what you did - brother 2 I hate keeping your secret - brother 3 (my sisters abuser)
  8. Yikes She's Back!

    Tulip Thank you for returning I for one have missed you heaps Mon
  9. Hello

    Welcome Kikimoon I am sure that you will find the support that you are looking for here. This is a wonderful caring place. Looking forward to seeing you around the board Mon
  10. What Did You Do For You Today?

    I stayed safe and didn't SI
  11. What Did You Do For You Today?

    Scared - good for you hun I went for a walk along the beach
  12. I'm Here!

    Welcome to AS Wolf I too love your tatoo. You must be a strong person to go public, I applaud you. Hope you find what you are looking for here at AS Looking forward to getting to know you Mon
  13. Hello, New To This

    SerenAur Welcome to AS I too am a 45 year old survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and like you this is the second time it has come up for me. I hope you find what you are looking for here. Everyone is so caring and non judgemental. It is a real safe haven to talk, if and when you want. Looking forward to getting to know you better Mon
  14. Hi

    Ravva Welcome to AS. Yes there is good support here for both good and bad days. Hope you find it as helpful here as I have Mon
  15. Heya

    Poto Hi from an All Black fan from NZ. good to have you on board hun Looking forward to getting to know you Mon