QUOTE(Haullie @ May 19 2007, 02:48 AM)
5.) People who strom out of the chat room or forum because they get upset about the mention of a certain word, topic or are just too stubborn to ask a simple question is just rude and confusing to other members who in the aftermath feel like they did something wrong to that person when in fact they are just being themselves. I honestly think that is just a person's way of getting attention and let's face it, that's something we never talk about for fear of offending someone but it's something we should talk about. Seeking attention is not healthy. Why do people do it? Do they think we don't notice? Do you think they don't realize what they are doing? Well they do, and I think people are VERY aware when they do it and it's selfish. I am not trying to sound mean or anything but it's just something that has to stop.
i think this is attention-seeking issue is an excellent point, haullie. i've been wondering how to bring it up for some time now, for all the reasons you mentioned. i want to add to what you said by saying that i get very frustrated and feel a whole variety of negative feelings when members come into the room to simply say that they are "stupid/worthless/unimportant/insert whatever other self-hating word you want", and on a continual basis, and expect the rest of the room to coddle and encourage them for the entirety of their time in the room. while we all struggle from time-to-time with negative self-talk, bringing it up in an unconstructive and attention-seeking way only serves
your (the general you) purpose and neglects the fact that other members may be in chat for their own reasons.
i wonder if, in the same way that we should try to think before we post in threads, if we could also take pause for a moment before we say things in chat, to avoid that impulsive blurting. thinking about what you're saying, wondering what purpose it's serving, asking yourself how it may affect others, all simple respectful measures. as it would be in a person-to-person face-to-face conversation, you would, hopefully, take that second before diving in to what you want to say and take into account how that message is going to affect it's receiver.
let's all be gentle, with ourselves, and each other.
peace&strength
<3 fuerza
.. I agree that it is very difficult for all of us to see eachothers points of views on certain topics but like you said respect is such a major thing here. For me if I see something I don't agree with I just let it go because I respect that everyone has a right to there opinion it's just that sometimes that opinion is expressed in away that may offend someone else and then people's feelings get hurt. 
