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-fuerza-

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    it's been a wild ride, I wouldn't change a minute.

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  1. “Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.” i think that's a great one for us all.
  2. if you felt uncomfortable, didn't want it, etc. then yes, regardless of age, it can happen. i hope we can all help you here at AS. peace & strength <3fuerza
  3. i think this is attention-seeking issue is an excellent point, haullie. i've been wondering how to bring it up for some time now, for all the reasons you mentioned. i want to add to what you said by saying that i get very frustrated and feel a whole variety of negative feelings when members come into the room to simply say that they are "stupid/worthless/unimportant/insert whatever other self-hating word you want", and on a continual basis, and expect the rest of the room to coddle and encourage them for the entirety of their time in the room. while we all struggle from time-to-time with negative self-talk, bringing it up in an unconstructive and attention-seeking way only serves your (the general you) purpose and neglects the fact that other members may be in chat for their own reasons. i wonder if, in the same way that we should try to think before we post in threads, if we could also take pause for a moment before we say things in chat, to avoid that impulsive blurting. thinking about what you're saying, wondering what purpose it's serving, asking yourself how it may affect others, all simple respectful measures. as it would be in a person-to-person face-to-face conversation, you would, hopefully, take that second before diving in to what you want to say and take into account how that message is going to affect it's receiver. let's all be gentle, with ourselves, and each other. peace&strength <3 fuerza
  4. thank you so much karen! you are a breath of fresh air i very much agree with what you -and your grandmother- said. looking inward, before lashing outward, often saves everyone (ourselves included) a lot of time and hurt and wasted energy. thank you for sharing it with everyone. <3
  5. i am not referring to anything in particular. there have been things going on for weeks now. as i said, this is a general and open statement. i would rather not use this thread to debate any other situations further. thanks.
  6. in saying this, i'm not attempting to point fingers or lay blame at anyone in particular, just generally and genuinely ask how a resolution or some improvement can be made. so... i'm really getting frustrated and overwhelmed with all the negativity and attacking that's been going on lately. i understand that as survivors, we go through phases and times when we are more sensitive to one thing or another, and certain things being said may strike a chord more so than perhaps they did before. i won't try to take that right away from anyone, as everyone is entitled to their feelings and opinions, always. however, i'm wondering if there are better ways in which we can channel this negative/angry/threatened energy into something more healing and positive, instead of lashing out at one another, the mods, or ourselves. you may say, "You don't have to read those threads, it's your choice," and you are right. but, it's very hard to ignore the same negative threads being bumped up over and over again, particularly when you (general you) are not looking for a fight, but rather healing and support. i'd like to put these question out into the AS universe: what purpose are my words serving? what effect will they have on others? where are these thoughts and comments coming from? how would i feel if they were said to me, in the same way, in the same circumstance? just thoughts. thanks for reading. peace and strength <3
  7. p.s. thanks for the gifts
  8. welcome to AS! congratulations for opening up and sharing those silencing secrets with us. i hope you find help and healing with us here at AS. again, welcome! and thanks for sharing peace and strength, <3fuerza
  9. contacting a mod is the best way to do it. they'll review it (if they haven't seen it already) and determine if it needs to be closed. (i'm assuming that's what you mean by locking). that's what i would do...
  10. Reason, Season and Lifetime .. People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. .. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. ... Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. ... Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. ... When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends. ... LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. -anonymous (as far as i know...?)
  11. thanks, Haullie! and tears, no worries, i was just getting tired of feeling so LOL
  12. i see this throughout each of the forums and have no idea what the heck it means! help? thanks!
  13. i took this from a similar thread i posted in, entitled "Beginner" QUOTE(member@ Mar 26 2007, 09:26 PM) I just slowly read and replied to posts, read ones that were of interest, posted a couple of things and went into chat for a little bit everynow and again. Sometimes I saw things that were of relevance. I stayed away from the areas I did not feel comfortable with. You can contact a near by rape crisis centre, and perhaps reachout for friends or organisations that can help you. There is help out there. THanks ********* ditto. its what worked for me. and go at your own pace. this is your place for healing.
  14. -fuerza-

    Hello

    welcome to AS, Riley
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