heathbar

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About heathbar

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    Healing is a choice that we must do daily
  • Birthday 03/29/1969

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  • Gender Female
  • Location NE Ohio
  • Interests Writing, Scrapbooking, Reading, Spending time with my kids, Volunteering at school, Teaching classes at the Red Cross, Listening to music, and recently became addicted to AS.

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  • MembershipType Survivor

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  1. 5 Words To Your Perpetrator

    I wouldnt say anything because he isnt worth any words
  2. Parachat?

    vera, I am considering using this one the christian mom's forum I go on uses it and it is pretty cool. It costs $5.00 that is it only five dollars period. It has safety features and everything on there for admins and mods to do like banning etc... it is cheap but a nice room, I think you can design the colors theirs is pink. As soon as I have an extra 5 dollars and the time I willl probably switch. You may already know about this one. But I thought I would throw it out here for you. here is the link http://www.tufat.com/script2.htm
  3. Moving Towards Acceptance ***may T***

    I don't know if I have accepted it or not. It is what it is, and it isn't going away so I might as well deal with it or continue to be miserable.
  4. A Reintroduction

    hey snow glad your back
  5. What Is Recovery?

    I thought this was cool ********************************************** WHAT IS RECOVERY? Stacy Nordquist, M.A. I. Recovery is actively taking responsibility for how you live your life today. 2. Recovery is being able to put the past behind. It’s no longer having your childhood script dominate how you live your life today. 3. Recovery is being able to speak the truth about your growing up years. 4. Recovery is the process in which you develop skills you weren’t able to learn in your childhood. 5. Recovery is a process, not an event, often beginning as a result of a professionally directed treatment or therapy, or experiences in self-help groups. 6. Recovery is no longer living a life based in fear or shame. 7. Recovery is developing your sense of self-separate from survival/coping mechanisms. Your identity is no longer based in reaction, but action. 8. Recovery-is the process of identifying, owning and developing healthy ways of expressing feelings; it is the process of learning self-love, self-acceptance. From learning these new ways a person often learns how to set healthy boundaries and limits, To get needs met, to play, relax, and develop flexibility. 9. Recovery is the process of learning to trust yourself and then trusting others, and with trust comes the opportunity for intimacy. “It is true that as long as we live we may keep repeating the patterns established in childhood. It is true that the present is powerfully shaped by the past. But it is also true that…insight at any age keeps us from singing the same sad songs again.” Judith Viorst, “Necessary Losses” It is not possible to be honest in the here and now when you continue to discount and minimize your childhood experiences.” --Claudia Black, "Changing Course" The following is an excerpt from a book that Lisa D. is currently writing regarding her recovery entitled "Fine Lines": 1) RECOGNIZE that self-injury is an inappropriate, uncontrollable and a dangerous coping method. 2) TELL someone you trust exactly what you are doing. Let the secret out. 3) REACH OUT for professional help 4) CHOOSE to replace self-injury with healthy coping skills. Those were the initial steps. Below I have listed many steps during my recovery process, some of which, I must practice regularly: · Acknowledging what happened to me, giving up the denial and letting go of the shame and blame · Taking responsibility/accountability for who I am and want to be · Therapy and addressing the right issues · No more secrets · Learning to let go of obsessive control · Forgiving those who have hurt me · Forgiving myself for hurting me · Learning not to take on the responsibility for others actions · Recognize when I’m losing perspective and self control · Learning to love, respect and have compassion for me · Regaining my spirit and zest for life · Accepting the positives in life and letting go, but learning from, the negatives · Letting go of the need to prove to others that I am worthy; accept that I am worthy · Daily Affirmations
  6. Authorization Mismatch

    huh???????
  7. New Baby Smilie?

    aqua I knew what you meant LOLOLOL
  8. New Baby Smilie?

    here is a link with the best smilies if you scroll down to the eighth one under the clapping ppl there is a pregnancy one http://www.geocities.com/victoriahollylynn//people.html they have a lot of really cute ones there
  9. Negativity On The Boards

    no there simply saying that we shouldn't argue and put each other down in chat or in posts.
  10. I Got An Idea

    cool idea
  11. Question About Font On Homepage?

    i thought it looked a litle bigger easier to read
  12. New To Board...

    it's good your here for your daughter, just remember she is a survivor not a victim
  13. No Autographs Please

    we are gonna have to have a little chat lololol
  14. No Autographs Please

    OK I want everyone to try to contain themselves, don't get overly excited but the Oreo Queen and I are back. I realize how depressed everyone was when I took Mrs. Oreo away but she is back and she is hungary