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  1. Hi Matt!!!

    Welcome to After Silence.  I'm sorry to hear you've encountered abuse by your best friend.  That's never a nice thing to hear when a new member introduces themselves.  I am glad though, that he is now a former friend.  

    I do, however, want to say you're in a truly warm, embracing community where support and kindness is unwavering.  I hope that being here provides you peace, comfort and healing.

    I'm glad to hear you'll look around some before posting .  Take all the time you need. :)  Your story will not go anywhere - when you're ready to share, we will be here to listen and to support.

    Sending my best wishes.


  2. Hi, @Lauren23 and welcome to AS!  I'm sorry to hear that you're having trouble finding people who can relate/understand.  This is a great community filled with many supportive souls, so I am hopeful that you'll see that you're not alone!!

    Take your time browsing. :)  If you ever need assistance with anything, please know that our staff is just a holler away!

    Best wishes,

  3. Hi @lilyhailey!

    Welcome to After Silence.  I'm so sorry to learn of the trauma you've experienced 2 years ago.  I'm so glad you've found us, though.  You are in a safe, judgement-free zone, here.  SO many of us have been through the very same painful feeling of being alone - I am hoping you will see that is not the case here in this community.  The folks here are very kind and understanding and truly can relate.  It is my sincerest hope that the connections you're likely to make while visiting will leave you feeling that healing is entirely possible.  

    I do hope you will stick around!  Please take your time looking around.  We do have a forum for teens and young adult survivors, even though trauma has affected us all and what you're feeling is relatable by members of all ages.  I wish you peace, comfort and healing.

    If you ever need any help with anything or have any questions, you may reach out to me anytime. :)

    My best wishes to you!


  4. Welcome to After Silence, @Lightbug!!!  I'm sorry that circumstances have had you searching for a safe place for a while now, but am glad you've found your way here.  This is truly a wonderful community, and although I'm sad your experiences have made life a bit more frustrating, I'm hopeful that being here will make things easier.  The people are lovely, kind, patient, and most of all, supportive.  So many can relate to how you are feeling, and even though we don't like to know such pain exists, it's a comfort to know we're not alone.

    Take your time looking around...when you're ready, feel free to jump in! :)  

    Again, welcome.  Wishing you well in your healing processes, and am looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,

  5. Hi @violetsmum - welcome to After Silence.  Thank you for taking the time to introduce yourself.  I have five weird cats and two weird teenagers - and I'm told I'm a little weird sometimes, but not to worry - it's a good kind of weird. :)  I, too, spend a fair amount of time writing!

    I'm sorry you have experienced trauma, but am truly glad you're here.  This is a terrific site filled with amazingly supportive folks.  It won't take long for you to realize that you're not alone, there is strength in numbers, and that healing is truly possible.

    Again, welcome. :)  Looking forward to getting to know you!

    Best wishes,


  6. Hello @Ro_91 and welcome!  I'm sad to hear of the circumstances surrounding your arrival, but am hopeful that you'll discover soon that you're not alone here.  So many have been through similar experiences and likely can relate on some level.  Please take all the time you need to look around, and jump in anytime you're ready.

    Always around if you need any help with anything. :)

    Best wishes,

  7. Hi @AngelasAshes and a very hearty welcome to After Silence! I'm so sorry for the trauma both you and your child have experienced.  I'm glad you've been looking around for a little while and that you are liking what you see, here.  AS has truly been a godsend for me, and I'm sure many others will echo my sentiments. :)  

    You are so right about those what-ifs sometimes becoming a hinderance to our progress.  I do hope that those therapists get back to you in a timely fashion.  Until then, yes, please, do lean on us - so many others (to include me) have their own what-ifs and you're definitely not alone.

    Here for you if you need anything.

    All the best,


  8. Welcome to After Silence, @Beccawife32 - I'm so sorry that trauma has led you to our community, but I am glad you're here.  This is truly an amazing place filled with wonderful, supportive folks.  I hope that being here further paves your path to healing. :)  

    I thank you in advance for the support you'll be showing others.  It truly does take a village!! :)  We're all so blessed to have a safe space to support one another in our healing processes.

    Please let me know if you need help with anything!

    Best wishes!

  9. Hello @Maajpvram and welcome to AS!  I'm sorry that you have reason to be here, but am hoping that you will see that there is strength in numbers and you're not alone!  

    I am sad to hear that you and your husband are having troubles.  It's not uncommon for a survivor to have difficulty finding a balance between a healthy relationship and a past that is marred by trauma.  I do hope that reconciliation can be achieved as you begin to heal from your childhood abuse.  

    Wishing you all the best and lots of luck!

    - Capulet

  10. Welcome to After Silence, @leeny.  I am totally with you on the mixed feelings - but I mostly am glad that our community exists.  So many people share in your struggles with PTSD and other effects of trauma.  I'm so sorry that you had reason to join, but I'm hopeful that having done so will bring you comfort and healing.  

    Please take your time looking around and jump in whenever you're ready.  We're all rooting for you.

    Best wishes,

  11. Hi, @edfisch - 

    Welcome to After Silence!!!  I'm so sorry you have reason to be here but am hoping you will see that you've found a truly supportive community to be a part of.  There are many things that we, as survivors must cope with, and there is always support, here.  

    Please do not feel guilty.  You are never responsible for the poor, hurtful choices that others decide to make.  I did not report my rape, either - and have struggled with the idea that having not said something had enabled the man who hurt me to hurt others - but this is not the case.  Our decision not to report is NOT permission for him to violate/offend someone else...this is ENTIRELY on your assailant.

    Looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,


  12. Welcome back to AS!  I'm sorry if your return was prompted by recent struggles, but we are still glad you've come back!  We might have made a few changes in the last couple of years, but we're still the same supportive bunch as always. :)  

    Take good care!
    - Cap


  13. Hello, @NightJasmine and welcome to After Silence!  I'm sorry that you have reason to be here, but am hoping that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing.  This is truly a wonderful space, and we're happy to have you among our community.  Thank you in advance for the support you will provide others!!! 

    Looking forward to getting to know you,


  14. Welcome to AS, @J_123!!!

    I'm sorry to learn of the trauma that has led you to us but am hoping that you see for yourself that this is a safe space and the support is unwavering.  Please know that you are not alone and that many here understand.  We are here for you.  Welcome!!!!

    Best wishes,

  15. Hi, @ladyshiva,

    Sorry to hear you've been feeling down lately!  I do hope that being here will bring you a sense of peace, healing and comfort.  A few things have changed around here, but we are still the same supportive space we've always been, so please know that we are here for you if you need to lean on us.

    Wishing you all the best,

  16. Hello @Blanksheet11 and welcome to After Silence!!!  I'm hopeful that you'll feel safe here as we are a truly amazing and supportive bunch.  There is no judgement here, and you are never alone!

    Sending you tons of healing wishes!  

    My best wishes, 

  17. Hi @TeeJoe and welcome to After Silence.  

    I'm so sorry to hear of the circumstances under which you've arrived but want to assure you that you're in a safe place.  It is definitely not easy to sign up, join an account and then to introduce yourself...but you did. :)  Be proud of that, and consider it a successful leap toward your healing progresses!  This is a great community (although I might be a little biased!) and folks here are amazing.  I'm hopeful that being among others who can relate and who can understand, will bring you peace, comfort and healing.  You're not alone.  It takes a village, sometimes, and this one is a truly great one to be a part of.

    I hope you'll take your time looking around and jump in whenever you're most comfortable.  It is perfectly okay to be nervous; I want to say everybody is when they first join the community. :)  Remember, you can say as much or as little as you're comfortable with. 

    If you ever need help or have any questions, I'm just a shout away.  

    Best wishes, and again - welcome!

    - Capulet

  18. Good morning to you, Alley!  Welcome to After Silence! :)

    I'm sorry that you had reason to seek us out, but I'm truly glad you like what you see here.  Thanks for taking the time to introduce yourself.  I am looking forward to learning more about you as time goes on.  Yes, the introduction was a fantastic start - thank you for taking the time to do so - and for joining the site, for I'm sure that was not an easy step, despite eagerness. :)  Good for you!

    We're a great place and we are filled with people who truly understand this journey we call healing - the hurdles, the obstacles, the triumphs and setbacks.  You're not alone here!

    By the way, I am a cat lover, as well!  I have five of them at home!

    As missfrier suggested, you'll soon receive a welcome message from one of our Newbie Support Team members.  Until then, please feel free to look around and know that if you have any questions about anything or would like help - I'm just a holler away.

    Best wishes, and welcome!


  19. Hello @kjhlhkjhj and welcome to After Silence.  I'm so sorry for the repeated traumas that have brought you here, but I'm so glad you ARE here.  You're in a safe space and among many others who can definitely relate to some of your troubles on some level.  

    I echo everybody else - you never have to share anything you're not comfortable with.  Mary is correct - FULL names are prohibited, and you aren't even required to tell anyone what your first name is.  There are many who choose to remain anonymous, and that is always okay.  

    Please give a holler if ever you need anything.  I'm always 'around!'

    Best wishes,

  20. Hello Via!  Welcome to After Silence! :)

    I'm sorry you are living with past struggles.  That is never easy.  You are not alone here, though, for many share the same frustrations!  Please know you're in a safe place, and a judgement-free zone.  I do hope that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing.  You deserve it!

    My best wishes to you, always,


  21. Hello, again!

    1 hour ago, SilentAudacity said:

    I always find that there is more room out, than in, so I try to be very transparent about what Im feeling/ going through & unfortunately most of the people in my life find that to be “too intense”, so I’ve been internalizing

    I am SO, very guilty of this thing called internalizing!  I have many years' experience. :)  I have recently returned to therapy, as well - to work on this, and on being able to more frequently step out of my comfort zone/bubble that I've gotten a little bit TOO comfortable sitting within.  In a couple of weeks, I'm also starting school again for the first time in 20 years, so this is a HUGE step in the right direction for me...as going to therapy was for you - good for you on taking that leap! 

    I agree, though, it's so much better out than it is in.  And this space, I hope, will help to motivate you to explore various ways of expression.  You're safe here, and among friends.  Welcome to After Silence.  I'm glad you're liking what you see here so far.

    Safe hugs, if okay!

    - Cap

  22. Hi, @redmess - welcome to our community!!!  

    Although I'm so sorry to hear of the circumstances that have led you to us, I'm truly glad for the opportunity to get to know you.  Thank you for taking the time to introduce yourself.  I am sure that many here can relate to some of what you've experienced and that connections/friendships will be forged in no time.  After Silence is truly a loving place to be - you'll find so much support here, as well as a sense of acceptance.  As we try to cope and heal, to feel so much less alone is such a comfort.

    My best wishes to you - give a shout if you ever need anything. :)  

    - Capulet

  23. Hi there, @vitamin - welcome back to AS!!! 

    I, too, came back after a long hiatus, and I'm glad I did.  A lot has changed around here, but I still love AS for the loving and supportive community I'd remembered it being all along.  

    Anyhow - welcome back - looking forward to getting to know you!

    Best wishes,

  24. Hi @Connor -

    Welcome to After Silence!

    I'm so sorry to hear of what has brought you here, but do want to let you know that you're definitely in a safe place and that you'll find that our members are incredibly supportive and kind.  

    I'm very angry with your parents - I don't know them, but still - I'm sorry they've not listened to you.  That's not right - at all.  Please know that you'll never receive that kind of invalidation here at AS.  You're safe to talk, here.  You'll not be judged for ANY of what's happened to you.  None of it was your fault.  We believe you and will listen anytime.

    Congratulations on taking this big step towards healing by joining our community.  I wish you all the best in your journey!   If you ever need, I am just a shout away.

    My best wishes, always,


  25. Welcome, @HJM to After Silence!!!  I am sorry for whatever circumstances have led you here, but am hopeful that being surrounded by our supportive and kind members will bring you peace, comfort and healing. :)

    Looking forward to getting to know you!

    Best wishes,

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