Ah, Melochany is a Sweet Treat

[Helianthus]

Hello, I am a queer identifying person who is coming to terms with my own journey.

I have really run out of options in regards of places/people to talk to about stuff so I am here and hope that I can find solitude in accepting my past and moving forward.

Either people treat me like a delicate flower that needs to be protected or they assume I can handle anything because of my past. In reality, I am just tired and want to take my time enjoying my life again. Hope I can find something here that speaks to me. If nothing more than the reminder that I am not alone. 🌻

Edited January 17, 2022 by Helianthus

[WannaMoveOn]

Hello @Helianthus and welcome to After Silence  You can call me Wanna. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and what you have to battle with on a daily basis. Please know that we believe you and want to support you.

This is a platform for anyone who seeks ways to cope, heal, looking for advice or just needs to vent. After Silence is a safe place for the bumpy road of recovery. Taking that step into healing is a big milestone, and having a community can be crucial. Here, you have a chance to connect with survivors of similar experiences, who can relate first hand. 

I am sorry you feel that you are lacking anyone to speak with right now. People might mean well, but if they treat you like a permanent fragile being or put pressure on you to be something you are not, that is not constructive either way. If you had a chance to look around here, you might have noticed we talk about most things. I hope you find yourself post about those things you currently find unable to discuss IRL. 

If you would have any questions, concerns or just need some support, us staff are always here. Feel free to DM!

Hope to see you around here, good thing you found us!

- W ☀️

[MeBeMary]

Hi Helianthus,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am so sorry for all you've been thru and the struggles that you still currently face. You have found a very supportive community with many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. 

Blanket statements can be difficult, and I understand your frustration. Healing is an up and down path with many twists. We are fighters to continue this path, but it is not easy. It helps tho when you have others, like the survivors here, that walk with you.

Feel free to look around. Interact where you are the most comfortable. I wish you many forward steps as you continue this journey we call healing.

Mary

  

[Capulet]

Welcome, @Helianthus - I am sorry you have reason to be here, but am glad you are finally among those who understand and are ready to provide some support.  

I absolutely love sunflowers and sunsets, and so I adore your photo.   

Welcome to the community.  Looking forward to getting to know you!

- Cap

[Helianthus]

12 minutes ago, Capulet said:

Welcome, @Helianthus - I am sorry you have reason to be here, but am glad you are finally among those who understand and are ready to provide some support.  

I absolutely love sunflowers and sunsets, and so I adore your photo.   

Welcome to the community.  Looking forward to getting to know you!

- Cap

Not sure if I am replying correctly -- do I just hit quote and then comment?

But thank you! Sunflowers are my favorite because they always face the light and I have a soft spot for the color yellow.

[Helianthus]

17 minutes ago, MeBeMary said:

Hi Helianthus,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am so sorry for all you've been thru and the struggles that you still currently face. You have found a very supportive community with many understanding and kind members. You are not alone. 

Blanket statements can be difficult, and I understand your frustration. Healing is an up and down path with many twists. We are fighters to continue this path, but it is not easy. It helps tho when you have others, like the survivors here, that walk with you.

Feel free to look around. Interact where you are the most comfortable. I wish you many forward steps as you continue this journey we call healing.

Mary

  

Blanket statements can be really helpful sometimes!! I def appreciate it 💛

[Helianthus]

25 minutes ago, WannaMoveOn said:

Hello @Helianthus and welcome to After Silence  You can call me Wanna. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and what you have to battle with on a daily basis. Please know that we believe you and want to support you.

This is a platform for anyone who seeks ways to cope, heal, looking for advice or just needs to vent. After Silence is a safe place for the bumpy road of recovery. Taking that step into healing is a big milestone, and having a community can be crucial. Here, you have a chance to connect with survivors of similar experiences, who can relate first hand. 

I am sorry you feel that you are lacking anyone to speak with right now. People might mean well, but if they treat you like a permanent fragile being or put pressure on you to be something you are not, that is not constructive either way. If you had a chance to look around here, you might have noticed we talk about most things. I hope you find yourself post about those things you currently find unable to discuss IRL. 

If you would have any questions, concerns or just need some support, us staff are always here. Feel free to DM!

Hope to see you around here, good thing you found us!

- W ☀️

Thank for directly addressing my lack of community -- it has been hard, but in some ways I am finding out who I actually want to keep in my life. Everyone has been trying to help in their own ways and maybe one day I can look back at all the stepping stone conversations and give it meaning. But for now, I simply am. Thank you for letting me be here.

[Finchy]

Welcome to AS, @Helianthus! I'm glad you found your way here and reached out. You will find a lot of very awesome and supportive people here. You're not alone anymore.  

I'm sorry for whatever you went through. It was undeserved and very much not your fault. I hope that your being here will help you on your path towards healing. 

Sending you tons of support and well wishes. ❤️ 

-Finch

[8888]

Welcome @Helianthus to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me.  Also, I am queer as well.  We have an LGBT and Questioning forum under Survivor Connections if you are interested.  I'll link it below:

http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/forum/58-lgbt-and-questioning-forum/

[missfrier]

Dear helianthus

 

Welcome to After Silence.  I am sorry to hear of the trauma you have been through!

 

Being here has helped me so much.   Everyone is so caring and supportive here.  I am proud of you for reaching out.  I know that is hard to do.  I also know that you will find that needed compassion and support here within our community.  Know we are here for you and we will listen whenever you would like to lean on us.    

 

Take care and please do not hesitate to ask for any help if you ever need it.