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|Welcome to After Silence, a message board and chat room designed to help survivors communicate in the recovery of rape, sexual abuse, sexual assault, and all types of sexual violence.
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Best friend's husband
Posted 27 December 2003 - 11:34 PM
Posted 28 December 2003 - 11:40 AM
I wish you didn't have a reason to be here but I hope you'll find support and new friends here.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you, that man had NO right whatsoever to do what he did.
I think that you should tell your friend about it because she has the right to know what kind of pervert and evil man she is actually married to. Personally, I don't believe in staying together for the sake of the kids.....but I don't have any kids yet so maybe I have not right to judge. But I do strongly believe that a man capable of something like this is NOT a man these kids should have around anyway. Maybe knowing what her husband did to you will give your friend the strength she needs to leave him for good....
I hope you'll stay with us, post anytime you wish....we are here for you.
Posted 28 December 2003 - 01:33 PM
I think I speak for everyone when I say what he did was wrong. You were treated as though you were an object. Put it away on the shelf and it won't say a word. Don't let this man get away with anything. True you may not be able to prove it's rape or take him to court over it. But you CAN speak out about it. Or at least tell someone close to you. Perhaps even your best friend.
It saddens me to see people in situations such as this with barely any hope for something positive to come out of it. The only positivety you can get out of coerced sex or sexual contact is the knowledge that you are better than the pervert, that you can heal from this and find some support and start over again. But why isn't the law doing anything about this? I find this behavior absolutely disgusting to me and I know because I have BEEN in that situation before. Blind-sighted and dazzled while the other person held a mask over their face. It wasn't until I saw who he really was before I knew I had been taken advantage of. Rape is a forced sexual content of any form. I'm not sure if he forced anything on you from what you wrote to us it didn't seem un-consentual until the end. But you DID get away before it was too late. I'm just sad he treated you like a rag doll before sending you on your way. Believe me, I know that horrible feeling all too well.
You will find peace...
Posted 28 December 2003 - 01:55 PM