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[Kampali77]

Hi I am new to this, just want to here from any other secondary survivors out there. I'm a mum helping a daughter cope with here experience. Any advice on how other parents have got through their child's experience.

[reglois]

if OK I didn't know about my daughters ordeal until very recently, (bad Mum) it happened years ago and she is now Ok after 4 years of therapy.

Edited March 19, 2015 by reglois

[Kampali77]

Hi reglois

Thank you, my daughter was seven when it happens to her by her cousin, and she is now 24, it has hit her hard over the last year and Half, she told us last November and we are helping her through it. She's strong but does have her very bAd days, like this Monday.

She is seeing a councillor and has reported it. It's only been five months since she has spoken to us and the police last month so it is early days for us. She feels she would like to go to a group where she can talk to other people in the same life experience as her, but there are no such groups here in England, uk, we found this forum on the web so I thought I would reach out to people on this website.

[MeBeMary]

Kampali,

Welcome. I have no advice, but I am sending my support your way. As a daughter, I never told my parents, and your daughter was very strong to tell you. I commend you for standing by your daughter, she needs the strength and trust that you provider her. I wish you both well.

Mary

[aloneallthetime]

Kampali,

Unfortunately I don't have any advice either but as a person who was SA and r***d, if I had the courage to tell my mom, I would have wanted her to just be there for me by listening. Knowing that she was able to hear me out and support me on whatever decision I made would mean the world.

Hang in there and stay strong on your daughter's behalf

Sending major support you way

[hearme]

How wonderful you are, as a mother. You will surely help your daughter a lot, as you care so much. Healing is possible, but it is a long journey. You will need healing, too. Love and care for your daughter, and love and care for yourself.

[ActivistAlly]

Hi I am new to this, just want to here from any other secondary survivors out there. I'm a mum helping a daughter cope with here experience. Any advice on how other parents have got through their child's experience.

Hi Kampali

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter but I'm glad you are a caring Mother who is supportive and wants to help as best you can. I hope the members of AS (After Silence) will give you the kind support you deserve as we all walk alongside your daughter on her journey to healing and recovery.

Strength to you,

Activist Ally