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  1. Everyone has had experiences in their lives that have been traumatic or heart breaking or have evoked strong emotions within them... I don't think there is a difference if you've been touched inappropriately once, sexually harrassed with words, or r*ped for years.... the feelings are still there, and still real. Some of us take a little longer on our journeys, because we may have more feelings stuffed inside b/c of what we experience... but what brings us all here is the commonality of the feelings we have. And the fact that sometimes, sharing our experience, or pieces of it, or just our feelings about it, can really be a healing thing. We welcome you here, and glad you have had the courage to post what you have. I think you will find that 98% of the people here are non-judgemental about others experiences... anyhow, welcome, and I hope that we will be able to get to know you better!
  2. Hi and welcome! I know how difficult it can be trying to balance everything. (Trust me, I almost failed out of college trying to go to school, work, counseling, and have some semblance of a life.) Counseling is so improtant though!! It's something you gotta make time for, b/c it's about you and your healing, and it's time especially for you to just breathe and work on whatever you need to... Life is so much more rewarding when you can truly enjoy it after healing from your past. There will come struggles, all through life, but if you have a good solid base to stand on, you will be just fine! As for the someone knowing and not doing anything, I had an aunt who thought I was being abused, but she had been abused herself and was unable to stand up for me b/c she was too wounded. I don't know why some people don't talk, but I am sorry you had to suffer because of it. Glad you are here and looking forward to getting to know you!
  3. I am a certified nursing assistant in school for my BS in nursing and a minor in Sociology. I have so many things I would love to do with my life. I have always wanted to start a home for girls who have been removed from sexually abusive home. A place where they can go and feel not so alone and that will provide them with the help they need when they need it, like having a therapist available 24/7 to talk. Also, i would love to be a stay at home mom some day, and I would love to write a book... hahaha... maybe I should change my user name to "daydreamer"...
  4. Hi Dan.... welcome here. I am sorry for the pain and the struggles in your life, but it tales a lot of guts and courage to say what you have shared. just remember each day we all have choices to make... and sometimes we make the right ones, and sometimes we make the wrong ones... the most important thing is to get up after we fall and keep trying... it's the only way to succeed! Welcome again!
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    Hi there Arizona... welcome. I am a college student also... 22 yo. Was out to visit AZ last year around this time... beautiful state! Do you live there? Welcome here... sorry you have a reason to be here, but glad you have found us and hope you find yourself at home!
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    Hi Sylvia. I am sorry for your pain.. and it is so fresh. I am glad that you "know better" than being hit by a car... and sadly many of us CAN empathize with that feeling. We will be your circle and your gentle place to fall. My hope and prayer is that your head knowledge that it wasn't your fault reaches your heart very soon...
  7. Hi there... glad you are here and sorry you have a reason to be here. We are all here to heal together, and try to make this journey a little bit gentler. So many people here have had such different responses to our abuse... especially with regards to relationships. It's not uncommon or abnormal or weird to not have a gf at 35, given your history. it is hard to trust and let people in... I am sure that is true especially if your abuser was a woman. I hope that you find this to be positive, and good for you for seeking counseling! Big step to take!
  8. Yikes... just reread my post... little bit more anger there than I realized... feel like I need to defend the profession now, because this is fortunately the MINORITY... I work with some wonderful wonderful nurses too... who would never say such horrible things. I guess it's just a sad sad truth that even people who are supposed to help us can be so hurtful...
  9. Does that fu*king IDIOT of a boss know you could nail his balls to the wall if you pressed the issue?!?!?! I would be tempted to talk to Human Resources about "sensitivty training"... bet he'd shape up then! Not to mention the reference to your best friend could be perceived as sexula harrassment what an inconsiderate jerk, to say the least. Sad thing is, I've heard female coworkers make comments about women who come into the ER post-rape... to the effect of: "Well, if she wouldn't have been at the bar/back alley/bad part of town, this would have never happened!" AND these are NURSES?!?!?! How can people be so cruel and thoughtless? I guess I just should hope and pray it never happens to them... and someday when I have the guts, speak up about my own past. *Sigh *rolls eyes
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    New member :-)

    Hi and welcome!! Glad for any new insight and thoughts... this is also a great place for those "bad days" too! Hope you love it here as much as the rest of us!:D
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    Newbie here

    welcome! looking forward to getting to know you too...
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    Welcome... sorry you have a reason to be here, but glad you found us! Looking forward to your insights and thoughts...
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    Hi Di... welcome. That feeling of fear and sickness does ease with time and work.... it's always a big step to share any deep part of ourselves like that! Glad you are here to do it, as this is a very safe and welcoming place. And no one is grading you on your spelling! ;) So post away, without fear! P::
  14. Hi niki... welcome here! Sorry that you have a reason to be here, but I believe you will find much support, hope, and love here. Looking forward to getting to know you better!
  15. Hey Reesa... Although this is not a Christian board, there are many of us here who are, and many who do believe in a power higher than us. No matter what anyone believes faith wise, we are all here to support each other. So welcome! That said, I am a Christian, and I understand the many struggles with God that we have when we are being abused. My church actually helped me to leave my abusive father when I was 17. When you are ready, push and push and push to get away from your abuse, b/c it is only when you are truly safe that your greatest healing will begin. Welcome again, and my prayers and hugs to you...
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