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    On 4/11/2018 at 7:49 AM, TEP said:

    Hi! I'm new here and just read your post. Wow! You have put to words so many of my feelings. I'm trying to make my way and hold on to the little ember of joy and glee I can still feel . I'm finding the good days are fewer and farther apart now and am trying to figure out why. Any suggestions? I've tried yoga, meditation, gratitude journal, counselling ..I do tend to stop when I'm in one of my funks though. I have every reason to be happy and grateful and content but ... I'm just not. 

    Hi TEP!  Well, first of all, welcome to AS - I am glad you are here!!  I totally understand what you mean about stopping things when you get in a funk.  That happens to me all the time - I get in a good routine or rhythm with things, and then something hits me and its like..well, back to square one, I guess?  But I think something I've learned is that it's not square one, really; every time you try something, even if it doesn't work or you stop, you are still working towards something and you are still making progress.  And that helped me because it used to be, when that would happen I would feel so bad and guilty about being in a funk that it made the funk worse and it was harder to get out of it...I've started to try and accept that it is ok to feel bad, and it is ok to be down sometimes and to not do yoga or to not journal or whatever it is you think you should be doing.  Sometimes we just have to feel our way through something, and know that we can come back to the rest of our lives when we're ready.  

    That said, I don't know what you're going through, specifically, or what your goals are, but I think the most important thing is that you are trying - you are here, and you are looking for ways to feel better.  There is so much out there, and in some ways I think you just kind of have to try a bunch of stuff and see what feels helpful for you, because we are all different and have different experiences and what works for me may seem really silly to you lol!  Personally, therapy has been really helpful for me, but specifically more body-centered therapy like EMDR and things like that.  

    My biggest advice though is to be kind and be gentle with yourself - you are doing something incredibly difficult and you are doing it beautifully, even if it doesn't seem that way right now!!  And also, the people on this site are very supportive and are a great resource.  I hope that's helpful!!! 

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