I agree with what others have said, that ultimately her healing is up to her. One thing that strikes me though is that not going to therapy is not a definite indicator that the person does not want to process trauma or work on improving their life. Therapy is one possible way to work through trauma. You said that she wasn't interested in going to therapy, but you didn't mention why. Maybe she didn't either. As a survivor who has often felt pressured into therapy when it hasn't made sense for my situation, I can relate to withdrawing from partners who are asking me to go. I don't do this because I am refusing to acknowledge a problem, but because I often feel frustrated that partners don't ask about what I have already been doing to help my situation or what progress I've made or what they can do to support me. Survivors are often used to dealing with people assuming that we don't know what we are doing and can get a bit defensive when asked to do healing differently. Perhaps therapy might be a good idea for her, but either way it seems like there needs to be an open dialog about what she will be doing to improve her situation and how you can help her. You can't force an open dialog to work, obviously, but I think it might help to just let her know you won't pressure her towards any specific decision but you are concerned about her and want to help her.