[Has As Been Changed - Or Is Just Me?]

I did some HTML at university, I'm in the IT business, and also used to do it as a hobby year ago (like late 90s early '00s) but now whenever I do it, I find it just, tedious. I much prefer CMSs

John

Thanks, MortalGoddess.

I like the "Brave" skin.

Thanks Vera... You're amazing to do ANY of it! I take my hat off. I don't know the first thing about html.

[Hello]

Hi Steph,

Welcome to Aftersilence - I'm John

I don't think anyone here will think you are crazy, I can relate exactly to what you're feeling, and it's completely natural to feel that way, but you're not alone with this, there's tonnes (quiet literally) of people here who can relate to what you're going through, and who are here to step through the healing with you.

Take gentle care,

John

[New Here]

Hi there CJ

I run my own business too .. it can be a very busy lifestyle can't it. I hope you find everything you're looking for here at AS

Take care,

John

[Hello]

Hi there,

Welcome to AS I hope you find this place helpful

John

[Suggestion For Members Fearing Opposite Sex]

I think Ginger is an awesome colour of hair. I so wish I had Ginger Hair.

On a serious note:

So yes...it is understandable to have instinctive fears ingrained form years of abuse, but that doesn't mean they're ok. And it doesn't mean it's the fault of anyone else belonging to that group. I do think people should be allowed to express their fears. But not in a manner that can be construed as discrimination.

I totally agree with this, I don't think there's a better way to put it.

[Timid Newbie]

Hi there,

It's ok to be shy, everyone is shy at first, it's a perfectly natural way to feel. Don't worry about it, over time it will pass

John

[New Here]

Hi there

[Forum / Thread Suggestion]

Hi Everyone,

Hope you've all been well recently since I haven't been around much

I had this idea the other day which I thought would be good for AS, so I thought I'd come here and suggest it. As many survivors would have experienced, oftent they can feel excluded and isolated from society, and as a result quiet often become introverted for a period of time, even if before abuse they where outgoing and extraverted.

As a result, sometimes survivors can be bullied or discriminated against, because of the introverted and more recluse behaviour they're showing, and member of society can often take advantage of this, by bullying, descriminating against, or in general just making they're lives harder because they're seen as "an easy target" for such treatment. I personally know I can relate to such feelings, as such I'm suggesting that we have some kind of forum where we can go and share our experiences of bullying and discrimination after the abuse by other's in society

Thank-you,

John

[New And Confused]

Hey there,

I hope that joining this wonderful, caring and loving community gives you the help, validation and support you deserve during this hard time. This place really is full of nice people who have been though similar experiences to you, and we're all here to support each other

John

[Hello]

Hi there Ghostlovescore,

Good to see you coming to this site, this site is so very supportive and I am very glad that you have decided to come here and share and heal with the other members here.

Thank-you for coming and I look forward to seeing you here

John

[Hi... 1st Time Here]

Hi there,

I can relate to your feeling of a roller coaster ride, I think by coming to Aftersilence you've certainly taken the first important steps to your healing this place is a lovely caring place, and I look forward to seeing you here and I hope being here helps in your healing

John

[Public Welcome]

Hi Astar,

Welcome to Aftersilence, I think the best thing you could have done was to come to this site with your struggles, along with therapy, taking out about the hardship can be very healing, and a very important step to moving forward with your struggles.

This site is a loving and caring place, and I am very glad you've decided to come here

John

[Hello, I'm New Here]

Hi Laura,

Welcome to Aftersilence Thankyou for coming here

[Hello Everybody]

Dear Nikki,

Welcome to Aftersilence I am really glad you've decided to take the step in your life like you have and join a support group like AS, for myself this place has been such a godsend, and I hope also for you, it can help you along your journey to healing

John

[Back]

Hey kaelyn23

It certainly is ok to come back, it is always ok to come back to Aftersilence, sometimes we all need a break from certain things in our life, but that doesn't mean we have to go forever, and I am glad you didn't go forever, because we always love to see people come back to Aftersilence

I look forward to seeing you here again

John

[Hi]

Hi gummybubble,

I'm glad that you're here, and I just wanted to reassure you that whatever you say will be just fine, and if you don't really know what to say, just say whatever comes into your head and I am sure that will be just fine. We're here to support you through this hard time of your life, and not to judge,

I look forward to seeing you here

John

[Hello =)]

Hi Stephanie,

Taking steps towards your healing is a very positive way to deal with the past, and I think that by taking these steps you are now you're certainly only going to help yourself deal with what the future has to hold. I'm certainly looking forward to seeing you here in our online community

John

[Hello.]

Hi,

I hope this place does give you a place so that you're not so alone, AS is such a caring place and it really is so much better than being alone, I've met the most supportive and wonderful people here on AS, and I hope you do too. Also if it helps I'm pretty shy at times also

John

[Aloha]

Hi estream,

I am glad that you find comfort here, although I can understand the sadness you feel also for so many people have been hurt for this place to exist, never the less I am very happy that it does exist because it provides support for people like us, and I am very glad to see you're seeking that support offered here. I look forward to seeing you here in the future

John

[New]

Hey there 88Lou,

I just wanted to say well done from coming here to AfterSilence, seeking help is never an easy step but you've done an awesome job of seeking help by coming here, and we're very glad to having you here at AS and we hope to travel with you on your healing journies

s

John

[Is This Right?]

Hi there,

I am sorry for all you've been through however I think you've certainly made the right decision by coming here to AfterSilence, and I am looking forward to healing with you

Take gentle care,

John

[Hello]

Hi there Kat,

Welcome to AS - I think you'll find alot of supportive people here who are going through what you are going through, and then hopefully you'll be able to support each other through this I think you've taken a very positive step by joining AS seeking others in your situation, so well done

Take gentle care,

John

[Hi Everyone *waves*]

Hey Meg,

Welcome to AfterSilence - I'm glad you've decided to come here and no you're certainly not too young to be here , as dodo said it's 14 to infinity, I generally try to bluff I'm in the infinity bracket also , however I can only get away with saying I'm 18, (19 next month ) and have been here since I was 16, so there's certainly no worries being that age, and from what I got from being here from 16 is that people didn't seem to refrain from talking to me because of my age, infact because we can't actually see you, generally people just go on how mature someone sounds in what they right, rather than there actual age . That's what I've found anyhoo

I think being abit of a loner is all good here too I'm pretty shy myself, although I do have my good and close friendships, which is good So yeah I'd say I'm abit of a loner too, although I do seem to have become more open as I've gotten older, so maybe the same will happen with you too? Possibily - I hope to get to know you also and I hope that you get to know many people here at AS, and that we can all offer support and help each other through the hard times, because that's really what AS is all about so it's great to hear you're also hoping to help others also, because as well as getting support, AS is also a great place to give support to your fellow survivors, which is in its own right quite helpful to yourself also

Anyhoo, I've prob gone on enough for now, all I wanna say now is welcome and I look forward to seeing you here and please feel free to PM me anytime

John

[Hello]

Hey Ilonka,

I'm sorry for what happened to you I think you've certainly done the right thing by opening up about it, as hard as it is, in the long term it's certainly a great healing step, it allows you to take those first steps toward coming to terms with, and then overcoming what's happened, the first step to your healing

Well done on coming here, and I look forward to seeing you here at AS

[Hello]

Hey Tasha

Welcome to Aftersilence I think your idea of just looking around and getting a feel for things is a good one and please know this place is so supportive and I am sure you'll settle in within no time at all ... also just say whatever feels right

John