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Hi!
I am new here and am finally coming to terms I need to reach out for support and stop pretending I can do it on my own because it just ends up ruining relationships
Hello Kat34
Welcome to AS (After Silence). I am glad that you are making the choice to reach for healing and support on this day. You have made a brave and strong choice in setting the past in its place and taking hold of this new day!
The reality is that you will do most of the work of healing on your own by discovering the mighty strength that is inside you, but know that we, the people of AS, will be alongside you - to sit and rest with you when you need to regroup, to help guide your feet to the path when it seems beyond your sight, to share in your sorrows and to rejoice in your victories.
Strength to you and a welcome invitation to journey towards healing with us....
Activist Ally
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I hope and trust it will be purpleiris!
Remember, go at the pace that is comfortable and safe for you okay? If you need anything let one of us know and we'll help as much as possible.
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Hello everyone,
Although I signed up for the forum some months ago, things within my life spiralled a bit out of control and it has taken till now for my life to return (somewhat) to normal and for me to feel comfortable to post on here. It was my fiance who encouraged me to go looking for such a forum as my attacker (ex partner) was stalking me and had for several years with the police unable to help so things were rather strained for us to say the least.
Hoping to turn over a new leaf and getting over everything that happened!
Hi Paeonia,
I'm glad things have gotten back to normalcy for you and you've taken the step of posting your introduction! Welcome to AS (After Silence)!
I remember that I was very nervous when I first joined so please know you're not alone in taking a while to feel comfortable posting. That sounds pretty awful and stressful to have a stalker around for that long.
I hope we at AS can be part of the kind supportive network that can stand behind you as you journey towards healing.
With support,
Activist Ally
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Hi PurpleIris,
I'm glad you're here and I hope this will be a supportive outlet for you. Welcome to After Silence (AS)!
I am part of the new member support team so if I can be of any help with anything please let me know.
The members of AS are with you every step of the way!
Activist Ally
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Hi any new members who wrote an introduction between December 27th, and December 30th!!!
After Silence switched the company that houses its servers and at least temporarily it looks like a couple of days posts/messages were lost in the transition. Hey, they may come back, but who knows?
I wanted to reassure anyone who took the brave step of posting an introduction that your posts were not intentionally misplaced. I know I've welcomed several new members in the last couple of days and also some of you messaged me with questions. Now the messages and my replies are not showing up.
So I want to let anyone whose new introduction is not showing up know that you are more than welcome to post another introduction and by all means please send me another message if you didn't get the answer to your questions the first time around.
And I absolutely want to reassure you all that it was not anything intentional - we really care about ya and want to help with your questions and don't want to see your intros and questions get lost in the shuffle. Please be patient and I think the technical issues will be sorted out here soon
Please take care all and know that you are welcome here!
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The following has to do with self-compassion. Video part 1 is below and has to do with giving ourselves compassion.
I really love this video below which is about self-kindness. Very very helpful for me.
There are more part to this video series but I'll let you find the links if you enjoy those two...
Another page that has these videos and more...
http://meditationtechniques.co/meditation-techniques-for-self-compassion-video/
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So this isn't my first post, but it is my introduction, I suppose. After really struggling lately I decided to look into a place where I could vent and read other peoples survival stories, and stumbled upon AfterSilence. Even though I've only posted one thing, AS has already started to affect me, in a positive way.
I'm a college student, and I am surrounded by wonderful friends. I don't really know what all to put.
Welp... Hi. Welcome to AS midnightnobody,
I hope After Silence will be a safe and supportive place for you to vent and get support.
With support,
Activist Ally
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Hello,
Just joined here. Found this website by searching for help. Just started this year talking about my abuse. I am used to pushing my feelings to the background but cannot move in a forward direction doing that. I look forward to meeting people who may understand.
Lisa
Hi LisaC,
I'm glad you are reaching out for help and have been able to start talking about what you suffered. I hope AS (After Silence) can help as you move forward on your healing journey...
Activist Ally
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Hi
I'm new, trying to sort through some issues due to childhood events that have led into areas of my life that are pretty messed up I think. Trying to break though thoughts to be able to figure out ways to let it go in a way. I look forward to chatting with you all.
Hi Jessiemae
I'm sorry you went through those things as a child but I'm glad you are taking the brave steps to work on those areas of your life that are still effected. I look forward to getting to know you better too!
Activist Ally
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Yoga can be very gentle also.
I say go at your own pace and match your own level of comfort. Doing this has greatly improved our sense of well being and does not leave us feeling worn out and in pain or exhausted.
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Hello everyone.
I was a victim of sexual abuse for much of my childhood. I am 30 years old about to be 31. This past year is the first time I have ever talked about this. I have told some close friends. I also started going to see a therapist. I have been seeing her since July. Let me tell you I have never shed so many tears as i have done so through the course of therapy. I been told the more you talk about it the more it helps in the healing. So what better place to talk about then among people who understand what I went through. It is hard talking about this. I can't keep on living like I have had for all these years. Depressed, feeling ugly, making myself unattractive to men, not believing in myself, eating my feelings, walking around never smiling. I can't let them win. I just hope one day I can be happy.
I hope you can be happy one day too. I'm sorry for all that you went through. I'm glad to hear you are taking all those positive steps by going to therapy, letting those tears fall, getting it out and telling your story. I welcome you here and hope AS will be a kind and supportive place to help you on your road to happiness!
Activist Ally
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Since I have been having increased stress from my assault that occurred over 14 years ago, my husband suggested that I look for support from other survivors. Thank you for creating this forum.
You deserve support. I don't know if you have a counselor or what steps you have taken to heal or get support in the past, but I hope that AS (After Silence) will be a safe, kind, and supportive place on your journey to healing. You're welcome here!
Activist Ally
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HI Maplesunrise,
I'm glad that you were brave enough to post an introduction even though you are a bit scared. You're right in that many of us...most...perhaps everyone was a bit scared at first in joining and posting here. I hope you will feel safer and more confident as you look around AS (After Silence).
That was a great introduction and I'm glad you told us a little about yourself. This public welcome forum is a public thread, but, please know that the other forums are private for members only so though you did a general intro here you will want to post in the member only forums when you're ready to say more. It sounds like you have a lot more to say and to sort out. I can speak from experience that sometimes it helps to get it all written out instead of just letting all those confusing thoughts spin around inside my own mind endlessly.
I totally hear you about using ways like eating and tv shows to escape and believe it or not there are some much less healthy ways of coping!!! I'm sure that you've done the best you could in the face of terrible circumstances and awful pain so please be kind to yourself okay?
Welcome to AS!
Activist Ally
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Hi Meghan,
It is difficult to feel conflicted and struggling over the things that happened, but I can assure you that those are common feelings among survivors. It's hard to not have had anyone to talk to I bet. That was the major reason I joined here was so I wouldn't have to be alone with what I had gone through.
I hope you find AS (After Silence) to be a friendly, kind, safe, and compassionate place where you can find support as you work on healing from the things that happened to you.
Again, welcome to AS!
Activist Ally
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Hi Grace7,
I can remember feeling a bit nervous coming here the first time too, but I did find many supportive and understanding people and I have not felt so alone with my memories since joining.
I hope you'll find AS (after silence) a safe, supporting, and encouraging place too! If you have any questions or need to talk about something please feel free to send me a message and I'll try to help you the best I can.
With support,
Activist Ally
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Hello Sungirl!
I'm glad you are giving After Silence a try. I can understand your concern about being triggered and I applaud you for being aware of the need to take care of yourself - that's great that you are doing that! When I joined several years ago I just looked around for a while to get a feel for things. Depending on how fragile you are you may want to stay away from certain forums or topics if they are too "triggering".
Keep in mind that there is no right or wrong about how much or how little you should post about yourself or respond to others. Sometimes members feel guilty
because they don't feel they are in a place to offer much support to others, but let me assure you that AS is for YOU. If you are not in a place to offer support that is totally okay and it is very okay to let others support you for however long you need.To protect each other, we ask that members post "trigger warnings" such as "TW" or the icon
before the post anything that is likely to be "triggering". The TW (trigger warnings) should also help you pick and choose you as you are reading posts so that you can avoid looking at triggering topics or details.I hope this helps alleviate your concerns about being triggered! Welome to After Silence (AS) and I hope you will find it to be a safe, kind, and supportive place for you to express yourself and be understood.
Activist Ally
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Shame and hiding are two very common reactions that survivors have even though those who hurt us should properly be the ones to feel guilty or ashamed.
Dealing with shame and hiding is really difficult for many survivors, but I'm glad to see you are taking steps to overcome some of the less helpful things you were raised to believe, so that you can overcome those negative feelings. I think you deserve nothing but compassion, kindness, and understanding as a survivor.
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Lost30,
It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed right now. I'm sorry that you are feeling such presure but I am glad that you have found AS and I hope you'll feel free to express whatever you need or want to.
You survived what happened and you've survived the last 16 years. You are strong and you are brave.
You are likely at the point now where you feel safe enough to let those old hurts pour out. It's not a weakness on your part at all to take time out now to heal those old wounds. A friend once told me that it is like breaking your leg and then having to walk on it as if nothing happened. At some point, it is best to stop, when you are safe and take care of that injury. A lot of times, to survive, we just couldn't take care of it back when it happened because we needed to do what we had to just to keep going.
I hope AS can be of some help to you on your path to healing. If I can be of help or answer any questions, please feel free to ask.
Activist Ally
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hello patricia. i just finished my profile, i think. and this is the first forum i found. any suggestions on navigation through this site?
Hi Suvivorbornagain,
Welcome to AS (After Silence). That's great that you finished your profile!
As a member of the Newbie Support Team (NST) I want to welcome you and let you know that I am available to help answer any questions you
may have or assist you in any way I can. I'll send you a message with some suggestions for finding your way around.
With support,
Activist Ally
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Welcome to After Silence (AS) MovingOn30.
I'm sorry you have a reason to join a site like this, but I'm glad you reached out and found us!
It's great that you have a good support system at home but many here are like you in that sometimes it helps to talk with people who have been through similar situations. I hope you find some of the understanding and kind, compassionate support that you deserve here.
As a member of the Newbie Support Team (NST) I want to welcome you and let you know that I am available to help answer any questions you may have or assist you in any way I can.
With support,
Activist Ally
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Welcome to After Silence (AS) lovely. I'm glad you have taken the step to reach out - to express your feelings and seek understanding.
I think you'll find that many survivors share your experience of feeling you've overcome the traumas of your past some days and other days feeling that your past is overwhelming you. For me, the fact that sometimes the darkness closes in does not change the fact that more often the brilliant sun shines. I know that sometimes it "feels" like we are back at square one - but that is not true. Nothing can take away the value of the days when we break free!
I am a member of the Newbie Support team and so I just wanted to let you know that if you have any questions I would be glad to try to help with anything you may need. Also, if you just need to talk my PM is always open (PM is the message system at AS)
I'm glad you found us, but I'm sorry you have a reason to need to be here. I hope AS can help you find some of the clarity you seek, and that you find it a kind, safe, and supportive haven. You're not alone.
With support,
Activist Ally
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Stepping Out Of The Darkness
in Public: Welcome!
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You are welcome here. Thank you for joining us as we all journey towards the path of healing. I hope you will find some supportive people who can help you along the way.
Activist Ally