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[SadKitten]

Hello all! Not sure how to introduce myself. I’ve been abused and I’m a mess. All my old hobbies no longer interest me. I’m still just working on finding my will to live.

I read that you need to create new memories, new experiences, get new hobbies that aren’t things that you did with your abuser. Maybe writing can be that for me 😊✍️

[MeBeMary]

Hi SadKitten and welcome.

I am so very sorry for the trauma you've gone thru, the struggles you face, and the uncertainty on all things going forward. Do know that you are worthy of healing and being happy. I am glad you are trying to find ways to achieve this. 

You have found a supportive community with many kind and understanding people. I'm glad you did find us and decided to join. That first step isn't always the easiest, but you have taken it. I do hope you find many more steps forward and even some of those here, with us!

Feel free to look around the community, interact where you feel comfortable to do so, without pressure. Your healing journey is your own pace, just know that we will be here for you on any step you decide to share with us.

Mary

 

[WannaMoveOn]

On 12/3/2025 at 3:32 AM, SadKitten said:

Hello all! Not sure how to introduce myself. I’ve been abused and I’m a mess. All my old hobbies no longer interest me. I’m still just working on finding my will to live.

I read that you need to create new memories, new experiences, get new hobbies that aren’t things that you did with your abuser. Maybe writing can be that for me 😊✍️

Hello SadKitten and welcome to AS, I am Wanna

It's okay to not have all the words yet. I think your post says plenty anyway. Feeling the way you do right now is perfectly normal, especially given the circumstances. I think you are doing very well by working on yourself, trying to find your willpower to live back, and to reach out to a community. That means you've chosen to heal - and I am proud of you for it. 

Healing can feel like a bumpy road at times, but having a community helps a great deal. By reaching out to a network of fellow survivors, you can exchange advice, take part in other's stories and generally feel less alone. That helps a lot, in my experience, and I hope AS will offer you the safe place you crave - and deserve. Please know, that we believe you

Take gentle and good care of yourself. Feel free to reach out if you'd need some assistance, would have questions, or like a little chat. I am just one PM away. 

All best, W

[missfrier]

Dear sadkitten

 

Welcome to After Silence!!

 

I'm sorry for what you have been through. I find it is easier to talk on forums then out loud. Being here has helped me so much, even from the first time I ever posted. It is still helping me - I have so much support here and I know you will, as well. Here at AS, we are like a big family and our members are kind and non-judgemental.

 

I am sending you lots of safe hugs!

 

Take care!