confused SA seems to follow me. Hi; Im KL

[XT678]

It's almost 5AM EDT in Manhattan and I'm tired and wired.

The assault in question occured on November 3rd 2025. I went to the emergency department the next day for a forensic kit to be collected, met with SVU, did a controlled call with the subject, he continues to harass me despite several attempts at demanding no contact, and i have a 1 hour consultation with a family law attorney on Monday to help me file a Stay Away order in Family Court until the subject becomes apprehended or issued a warrant for arrest through criminal court/NYPD. The assault took place in Manhattan, but he lives in a different county. Might be some jurisdiction issues. Anyway, hi, Im confused. Pleased to meet you. Thank you. 

Kindly, KL

[MeBeMary]

Hi XT678/KL,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what happened to you. As it was so recent, I'm sure there is a lot of mixed and confused feelings. It takes time for the shock to wear off. I'm glad you decided to reach out. This is a community of supportive and understanding individuals. You are not alone.

It takes great courage to seek out justice. Many survivors never find themselves in the proper mind space to deal with filing charges. So often there is no justice. I do  hope you find yours. 

Take your time and look around the site. Interact when and where you feel comfortable doing so. We are here for you.

I wish you many forward steps on this path we call healing.

Mary

[missfrier]

Dear kl

 

Welcome to After Silence!!

 

I'm sorry for what you have been through. I find it is easier to talk on forums then out loud. Being here has helped me so much, even from the first time I ever posted. It is still helping me - I have so much support here and I know you will, as well. Here at AS, we are like a big family and our members are kind and non-judgemental.

 

I am sending you lots of safe hugs!

 

Take care!

[awi]

@XT678 Hi, so sorry what you have endured and that it is tough right now.  Know that you are not alone.  Nothing bad that happened is your fault.  The blame and shame is on the perpetrator.  I am glad you came here.  Welcome to this safe place of healing friend.  Keeping you company during this part of your journey. 

[WannaMoveOn]

On 11/30/2025 at 10:55 AM, XT678 said:

It's almost 5AM EDT in Manhattan and I'm tired and wired.

The assault in question occured on November 3rd 2025. I went to the emergency department the next day for a forensic kit to be collected, met with SVU, did a controlled call with the subject, he continues to harass me despite several attempts at demanding no contact, and i have a 1 hour consultation with a family law attorney on Monday to help me file a Stay Away order in Family Court until the subject becomes apprehended or issued a warrant for arrest through criminal court/NYPD. The assault took place in Manhattan, but he lives in a different county. Might be some jurisdiction issues. Anyway, hi, Im confused. Pleased to meet you. Thank you. 

Kindly, KL

Hello there XT678 and welcome to AS! I am Wanna

I am a bit late here, but I also wish to welcome you. You are being incredibly strong for going to the ER and having your tests taken. So if I get you right, a family member did this to you, and you are in the process of a restraining order? 

Many of our members can relate to have been AS by a close family member, so we are familiar with the subject here. This is indeed awful, and I wish that this would never have happened to you. I am however happy that you've reached to our community, because this is a safe place. You can vent, get some extra company, exchange advice and just feel less alone. You decide what to share, and when.

You are going through a lot right now, and I understand if you're still partially in shock and/or very stressed. It's important that you take care of yourself, especially now. Remember to eat something, lay down and drink water. 

Please feel to reach out to me, would it be for assistance, questions or just a little chat. 

Stay safe, 

W