Hello

[Zyn]

Hello!

I am brand new here and just trying to search around and see what’s what. I joined After Silence because I want to connect with people with similar experiences to mine.  I know we’re not supposed to go into detail so I’ll keep it vague but please let me know if this is too much. My experience is more along the lines of there was a lead up/grooming and something almost happened, but didn’t. This happened a decade ago and it’s only been within the last year or two that I’ve brought it up in therapy, been validated, and was actually able to refer to myself as a survivor. I’ve always compared my trauma to others and seen it as not as bad and told myself I was overreacting. It made me feel isolated and crazy. I found out about this through research and am hoping to maybe meet people in similar situations and not feel so isolated and alone in this.

[MeBeMary]

Hi Zyn,

First of all, your introduction is perfectly fine. You only briefly discussed why you here, which is what we prefer in a public forum. So, good judgement on that. 

Secondly....welcome to After Silence. I am very sorry for what you to you. Grooming is not something wished upon anyone. I'm glad that you see it as being validated, as it is something that should be validated. I think almost everyone who comes here does feel that initial need to compare...but we try to remove that from our thought process. Comparing doesn't help anyone, including ourselves. The only two questions each of us need to ask is...was it over that abusive line...and will it help being with others who understand and support us. You are here, so I hope that helps you believe you are welcome here and that you are not as alone as you've may have thought.

I'm glad you decided to reach out. 

Feel free to look around the community and interact where you feel comfortable and with how much you are comfortable with sharing. There is no timeline except the one that feels right to you.

I wish you the best as you continue down this path we call healing.

Mary

 

[Puddle]

Hi and welcome

[ShyUnicorn]

Hi, I am fairly new too. I completely agree with Mary and PlumSundae. All trauma is valid. No one person’s past is like another’s so there is no point in comparing them. 
I am sorry you had to endure what you did but I am glad you found this source of support. It has helped me and I hope the same for you. 
 

ShyUnicorn