need support, hope I can be part of this

[someones_name]

Overthinking this post as I write this.

 

Hi, I'm a Canadian named Eric. I'm a 20 year old guy who is lgbt and likes chess. I'm in community college for IT. The music I like is dark academia, lofi girl, heavy metal (5FDP, avenged sevenfold), and some 2000's music made around when I was a toddler or not born yet (death cab for cutie mostly). Also the Beatles (made when I was -59 years old). I have autism and adhd.

 

I've been trying to cope with it. Last night I finally couldn't take it anymore and called a centre. They told me they didn't offer services to men, I understand it's a funding issue, but she talked with me for five minutes just about what happened and it was really helpful. She said I could call back another day as well. I spent a few hours today on various text and call lines, sadly there's none left I haven't called today. Eventually I found this as well. I've never told anyone but a few therapists and my parents. My parents are a bit dismissive. I really badly want someone to act like they care.

 

 

[MeBeMary]

Hi Eric.

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you've endured and the struggles you face. What happened to you was not fair and not deserved. You are welcome here. This community is filled with many understanding and kind individuals. You are not alone. 

I know it must be very difficult feeling like you don't have the support of your parents. You entrust a harsh reality that you went thru and they aren't as understanding as they should be. I'm not sure why parents or other loved ones have difficulty understanding or at least difficulty trying to understand. This is trauma and we can't just pretend it away. It's a disappointment and a letdown, I'm sure. 

As I said, you are accepted here. Feel free to look around and post, reply or interact in ways that are comfortable for you. There is no pressure, just validation and support. We are here for you. 

I wish you the best as you begin to navigate a path of healing. 

Mary

 

[someones_name]

Thank you so much.

[TonicTheBARD]

Hi Eric

One of my friends here has a T Shirt that says "Hang on, let me Just OVERTHINK This.." I *WANT ONE!!*

Welcome! Hope you see what you need to see here, some time. Sometimes the SMALLEST of improvements in your life/psych can be So Good, you Appreciate it more, maybe?

Mr Bro has Aspergers, and was a TOP Earning Computer Programmer. If he was handed a piece of custom software to fix, He'd go through it removing ALL "Kludges" around BAD/redundant code, and THEN Tighten it up! Maths Degree!   Worked for BOEING at the air base, Improved the Accuracy of Bomb Sightings by 30% from the original RAYTHEON Code...

Nice to MEET you!

[Flowerheal]

I’m sorry you found no one that offers help for guys. Try more on places. You will find other counseling that does. Keep going with that. 

[preciousandhonored]

Eric,

Wanted to welcome you as well and I'm also sorry there is not enough support for men. You will find AS will accept you and does care.  Please keep posting - we hear you.

[awi]

welcome to this safe place of healing

[someones_name]

Thank you