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[uk63]

Hi everyone ,I am a male survivor .

Edited April 8, 2023 by uk63

[Finchy]

Hello, @uk63! Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry for what you've experienced, but I'm so glad you found your way here. You will meet a lot of very friendly and supportive people in this community. You are not alone! Best wishes on your healing journey. ❤️ 

-Finchy

[MeBeMary]

Hi uk63.

Welcome to the community. I am sorry you've endured trauma to become a survivor, but glad that you see yourself this way. You did survive and we are glad that you have found us. This is a supportive community with so many wonderful people who are so understanding and kind. Do know that you are not alone. 

Feel free to look around the community and interact where you feel comfortable. It's not an easy journey, but I wish you well in yours. 

Mary

 

[uk63]

Thank you Finchy.

[uk63]

3 minutes ago, MeBeMary said:

Hi uk63.

Welcome to the community. I am sorry you've endured trauma to become a survivor, but glad that you see yourself this way. You did survive and we are glad that you have found us. This is a supportive community with so many wonderful people who are so understanding and kind. Do know that you are not alone. 

Feel free to look around the community and interact where you feel comfortable. It's not an easy journey, but I wish you well in yours. 

Mary

 

 

[uk63]

I sincerely thank you & appreciate  everyone's assistance. 

      Kind regards uk63.

[Radro]

On 4/8/2023 at 6:23 AM, uk63 said:

Hi everyone ,I am a male survivor .

Hello! I really am sorry for whatever happened that lead you here, you didnt deserve that, however this is a great place for us to let it all out, it definitely has helped me and if you ever need anything im always here to chat!! Wishing you the best

[uk63]

Good afternoon Radro , they say time heals all scars ,unfortunately it feels like no length of time will heal the mental  scars from the CSA I endured .

        Thank you for you offer of help .

[Dawn76]

@uk63 welcome to After Silence. I'm so sorry for what's happened that has brought you here to us.  You are not alone. There are some amazing people here who understand how you are feeling and what you are going through. They are all a wonderful source of support.  I hope you find it helpful to be here with us. 

 

Dawn

[uk63]

Thank you,Dawn76

[Six_times_seven]

15 hours ago, uk63 said:

Good afternoon Radro , they say time heals all scars ,unfortunately it feels like no length of time will heal the mental  scars from the CSA I endured .

        Thank you for you offer of help .

It does take a lot more time to heal emotional wounds than physical ones and I don’t think it is easily done without support.  AS has been a great source of support for me in this healing journey, I hope it can be for you as well.   If you have access to therapy or counseling services that will help heal the wounds as well.

[uk63]

Thank you six_times _seven .

[GreySock]

On 4/13/2023 at 5:53 AM, uk63 said:

Good afternoon Radro , they say time heals all scars ,unfortunately it feels like no length of time will heal the mental  scars from the CSA I endured .

        Thank you for you offer of help .

Welcome @uk63 

I am a half centenarian and I also find that time does not 'heal'. I manage my triggers better but the indignation and outrage is actually stronger than when I was in my 20s, when I was still prone to doubting my own reality and memories. Most of the people who should have helped me just gas lit me, the others advised me not to rock the boat, in order not to get into trouble with my 'family' (the perpetrators). You know, like 'move on', 'forgive and forget' etc. 

As an adult, I did find support from other victims and members of the LBGT community (who were much more open minded than the very religious and conservative bunch I grew up with), however it's not pleasant to discuss that kind of stuff face to face. I am so grateful that the internet made it possible for communities like this to exist! It really helps to realise you are not alone, especially as the other people I knew who were co-victims of my perpetrators (older generation etc.) just didn't want to talk about it, moved to another country etc. I felt really alone and ashamed of my past before I found AS. It is a safe, non judgemental space too, because nearly everyone on here is a primary or a secondary survivor . As I read somewhere, 'normies just don't get it'. Hence people having no suspicions even though CSA is occurring right under their noses, or not intervening because they are embarrassed or they think it's not a big deal.

See you around.

[uk63]

Good morning Greysock , thank you for your message. 

[WannaMoveOn]

On 4/8/2023 at 5:23 AM, uk63 said:

Hi everyone ,I am a male survivor .

Hello and welcome here! I am a bit late, but just wanted to greet you. I go by Wanna and if I can assist you or if you'd need some venting/support I am here. I hope you are okay despite the circumstances. Take care, okay?

- W ☀️

[uk63]

Hi Wanna , thank you for your welcome message and your support. 

                   Regards UK63