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Hey all, I've toyed with this intro for the past few weeks of lurking but I know that without active participation I cant begin the healing I need.

I dont really know how to introduce myself beyond the fact that like many of you I've suffered my share of sexual abuse. For me it was mostly as a younger teen and its something I still have a hard time admitting to myself let alone saying directly what happened (i.e. avoiding the r word). I hope to find the courage to admit those things to myself and others. I also hope to be of some help to others. I write a lot of poetry about it and the trauma associated with it, and the other abuse I suffered at the hands of my (heavy quotations) "parents", so perhaps I will post them at some point if such a thing is allowed here.

Thanks for listening to my rambling, a closing note is that if Im ever anxious, nervous etc I promise its never a reflection on you all or this community but rather a reflection on the experiences that have shaped me.

Much love to all who need it ❤️

~ Bunnie

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Welcome bunnie. I hope you find AS to be as supportive as I have. Take your time looking around the forums for as long as you need. I think reading other people’s stories/ struggles can be very healing too. It helps us understand that we are not alone in this. Good on you for being brave enough to post 😊. You should be proud of yourself for making steps towards your healing 

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Hi @bunnie welcome to After Silence.  I'm sorry for what happened that brought you to AS. 

There is a space to share your poetry if you'd like to post it. It's under These Precious Things, sub heading Healing Through Creative. 

I hope you find it helpful at AS. This is a very suportive safe place to share and ask questions, or just have someone to say they are think about you. 

Dawn

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@bunnie The abuse that you endured was unfair and undeserved, however, I am glad that you found this place of healing.   There are many of us here who have suffered abuse / neglect that was not directly related to the trauma that directly brought us here.  It is definitely OK to address those in the forums as well.

It is very common and normal to feel nervous at first, but in know that you will find comfort and support from many here. Congratulations on taking this step towards healing,  it takes courage to begin to confront the traumas we have suffered.  

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@bunnieHi bunnie and welcome to AS. First and foremost I'm very sorry for what brings you here; that said I am glad you sought out and found a place that might help your healing process. As somebody who often feels anxious and nervous about sharing my own thoughts, feelings, and experiences, I can say that AS has been very accommodating for me and that everyone has been very supportive so far. Still, please take as much time as you need.

I hope that you can get something positive out of talking here.

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Hi Bunnie and welcome.

I am sorry for the trauma you've endured as a younger teen and the abuse you have endured by your parents. They should have been the ones you could turn to when you were hurting the most. I am so sorry they failed you. It is so unfair that you didn't have that safe place.

Give yourself time, and the butterflies will ease up for you. There is no rush, as we all start at our own pace. I remember starting out here, for the longest time I just stayed in this welcome area...but eventually felt comfortable to expand my range within the community. There is no set timetable, just what is good for you. 

I am glad you found us tho, as you will find tons of support, understanding, kindness and validation. You are not alone.

Wishing you the best as you begin to move forward down the path of healing.

Mary

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On 2/24/2023 at 7:06 AM, bunnie said:

Hey all, I've toyed with this intro for the past few weeks of lurking but I know that without active participation I cant begin the healing I need.

I dont really know how to introduce myself beyond the fact that like many of you I've suffered my share of sexual abuse. For me it was mostly as a younger teen and its something I still have a hard time admitting to myself let alone saying directly what happened (i.e. avoiding the r word). I hope to find the courage to admit those things to myself and others. I also hope to be of some help to others. I write a lot of poetry about it and the trauma associated with it, and the other abuse I suffered at the hands of my (heavy quotations) "parents", so perhaps I will post them at some point if such a thing is allowed here.

Thanks for listening to my rambling, a closing note is that if Im ever anxious, nervous etc I promise its never a reflection on you all or this community but rather a reflection on the experiences that have shaped me.

Much love to all who need it ❤️

~ Bunnie

Hello Bunnie, I am Wanna :flowers:

It seems like you have a lot of luggage. I am sincerely sorry for all your suffering. This is a place by survivors, for survivors. We all contribute in our own way, creating a safe space for venting, reflection and bonding. You decide what you'd like to share and when. No pressure, pick your own pace. 

As you may have noticed, we have lots of forums here, covering different aspects of healing. 

I think you would like out the "Healing Through Creativity"-forum, where you are invited to share your poems or take part of other's work. 

You can discuss any aspect of your trauma, would it we related to sa/r or other types of dilemmas. 

I hope you'll feel less alone, and wishing you a good day/night. :supportu: Us staff are always here, just one reply or one PM away. 

All best, W ☀️

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