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[Ickyri]

Hi 

I’m new here and very nervous. I’m not coping too well at the moment with bad dreams and body memories and feelings. 
sorry not sure what else to put just now as I’m shaking. 
 

[MeBeMary]

Hello Ickyri,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am so sorry you have experienced trauma and that you are struggling. What you went thru was undeserved. You will find much support here, as this community is filled with so many understanding members. Do know you are not alone. We are here for you.

Reaching out can be a very difficult, but you were very brave to do so. This is a safe place. I suggest you look around and interact when and where you find comfortable. The discovery of others who can relate has been a big step for all of us. It can help you feel so less alone. Healing is not easy, but it helps when we support and encourage one another. You will soon see this. Tho I am sorry you experienced something so bad, I am glad you found us. I wish you the very best as you find forward steps on this journey we call healing.

Mary

 

[8888]

Welcome @Ickyri  to After Silence.  It's understandable to be nervous.  I’m sorry for what brought you here and that you aren't coping too well but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

[snmls]

Welcome @Ickyri

I'm sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but I'm glad you found the site and decided to join. It is common for new members to be nervous when first joining. But I hope that you will soon be able to see that this is a caring and supportive community. We are all here to help each other heal. You are welcome to take as much time as you need looking around and getting familiar with the site, and you can post and share whenever you feel ready and comfortable. Remember that there is no obligation to share, just browsing and reading posts is perfectly okay. I hope you end up finding this site to be as helpful as I do. 

[Ickyri]

Thank you 

[missfrier]

Dear lckyri

 

I am sorry for all that you have been through.   You have been so brave in reaching out to us, please know that this is never easy!   We are all here for you and we want to support you.  You're not alone in your healing journey and are always welcome to lean on us for extra support.  You can post as much or as little as you like.  We are here to support you in the way you need.  I have found this community to be very helpful.  Everyone is so understanding and non-judgmental and I am hoping you feel the same way once you've gotten to know us a little.   

 

All my best,

missfrier

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Vinsami]

I’m so sorry you’re in a precarious place, and I hope you find support here. There’s post about having a sort of emergency bag for when you’re feeling overwhelmed. I tried to find it but couldn’t. @8888, are you able to locate the post I mean?

 

Basically you make a bag of comforting, grounding things. I put my fav stuffed animal, some fav snacks, a celebrity magazine, and some drawings from my nieces so far. 
 

I’m so happy you found us. We’re all in this together ❤️

[8888]

@Vinsami Unfortunately I can't find the post either but I know what you mean.  Basically grounding items to help return to the present if triggers occur. @Ickyri or anyone interested, here's some information on grounding

https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/grounding101

[Ickyri]

Thank you I’ve had a look at this link and there’s some great ideas in there! Thank you 

[8888]

You are very welcome, I'm glad it was helpful.

[Mary814]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I also find that grounding helps with triggers. I eat a lemon head when I am triggered, and it zaps me back into the present. I hope that helps you as well. 

 

my warmest regards