Katju Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 Hello all, Im new here.. Still going through of the process.. Im from Finland (Norther Europe) and I was raped August last year. The whole incident was horrible, I was drugged, then raped and robbed. After the whole thing, The rapist forced me to ATM and made me withdraw all my money from my bank account. I was in complete state of shock, but managed to go to my best friends place by taxi and she helped me to go to the police. Police was just great, maybe the only positive experience on this whole thing. Later, they had to move the case to another town's police investigators, and the new investigator was not so sympathetic as the ones I met on that day.. Anyway, they were able to collect DNA samples and matched them to a guy who is on trial right now, accused of rape. He had been convicted on the 1st state of court, but he appieled to 2nd court and the case is still open. There's something seriously wrong in Finnish court-system - the burden of evidence is so hard, that for me it seems that the only way the guy is going to get conviction is that someone would have videotaped the whole thing. My case is still in police's hands, since they cant reach the suspect - he doesnt answer the phone (well wouldnt expect him to) and police needs his signature in order to move my case to the prosecutor. Very stupid indeed. It will take at least 8-12 months for my case to come to court. Ive now made up my mind that I wont let the court-stuff avoid me from getting better, Ive been in therapy ever since, and I recently started EMDR and found it very useful - amazing really! Does any of you have any experiences on that? And sorry for any spelling-mistakes ;) - English is not my native-language. Take care, Katja Link to post
Donna Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 Hey Katja, I'm sorry for what happend to you sweetie, it must have been just plain awful. Good for you though for going after the bastard and trying to take good care of yourself as well. Feel free to check out the Therapy Discussion forum, I'm sure you will find many that can relate to you there with any issues or quesions that you have. Welcome to After Silence. Donna =) Link to post
Lindy Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 Hi Katja, Welcome to After Silence. Link to post
munchie Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 Hello and welcome. I am proud of you for the steps you have taken to make him pay for what he did you write like you have a real fighting spirit about you which is great love and hugs Munchiexx Link to post
Vera Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 Welcome to AS Katja I'm sorry to hear about how the system is treating you... it is despicable. I'm glad to know you re in therapy...it is a difficult step but one worth taking. I heard great things about EMDR, and I have wanted to try it for a long time. I'm looking forward to know you better, and your English is perfect Link to post
Jessie Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 welcome to After Silence Katja Link to post
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