Hi, new here

[umiko]

Hi, I just joined over the weekend. My incident happened two years ago this June, a month into dating the monster who was also very emotionally/verbally abusive. I thought for a long time if I just pretended it never happened I would be just fine, but I eventually realized that I have not been okay at all and started going to therapy a month ago. It is helping but it also feels like opening an old wound. I'm happy to have found this place because I have felt alone for so long. 

Edited April 3, 2017 by umiko

[LookingforSunshine]

Hello! Welcome to AS! I'm new here too. I'm sorry for the trauma you went through that brought you here. Just know that you are not alone. There are a lot of people on AS that will welcome you and talk to you. I've been browsing forums trying to find my way and slowly breaking out of my shell. I wish you well on your journey to healing. Safe hugs if ok.

 

[reglois]

    if ok

[MeBeMary]

 

31 minutes ago, umiko said:

Hi, I just joined over the weekend. My incident happened two years ago this June, a month into dating the monster who was also very emotionally/verbally abusive. I thought for a long time if I just pretended it never happened I would be just fine, but I eventually realized that I have not been okay at all and started going to therapy a month ago. It is helping but it also feels like opening an old wound. I'm happy to have found this place because I have felt alone for so long. 

Hi umiko,

Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for what that monster put you thru two years ago. There is never a reason to justify an abuser's behavior. Many of us react as you have. Try to push it down and ignore it, but the struggles resulting from the abuse is hard to ignore. I am glad you have decided to reach out to us here at AS. You will find many understanding and supportive members. You are no longer alone. I wish you the very best as you travel down this healing path.

Mary

[ttrying]

You are not alone! You are always welcome here and you are so brave for taking these steps.

[Unikitty]

5 hours ago, umiko said:

Hi, I just joined over the weekend. My incident happened two years ago this June, a month into dating the monster who was also very emotionally/verbally abusive. I thought for a long time if I just pretended it never happened I would be just fine, but I eventually realized that I have not been okay at all and started going to therapy a month ago. It is helping but it also feels like opening an old wound. I'm happy to have found this place because I have felt alone for so long. 

Hello and Welcome! I also tried to pretend it didn't happen or ignore/forget some of the trauma and starting therapy is hard and does bring up things you don't want to talk about but in the long run processing and confronting the pain is what allows it to heal, in my experience.

[phoenixxx]

Welcome to AS, umiko. I am sorry for what happened to you, but I am glad that you have the support of a T, and that you have found AS. T is hard, but in my experience (only 1 year so far) worth it. AS is a wonderful place to support you through the healing and to feel less alone. Hope you feel safe here.

[Struggling88]

Hi, umiko, and welcome!