Take one day at a time. Try not to dwell on the past. I know it's hard but instead focus on a goal, maybe give yourself a treat as well, something to make yourself feel better. I know personally I think I used to punish myself and I just perpetuated the pain because I couldn't understand it and it circulated in my mind. I think that's where councilling comes in. This is hard as I don't believe I have benefitted at all from any that have been given free, instead I used my hard earned money and had to 'interview' a great many therapists before I found one who I felt understood me and could help.